How to deal with DC not going to a selective university socially

[Anonymous]

ALOT of kids cheated. So much cheating in high school. Makes it really hard for the honest ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Frankly it's much harder socially in the DMV when your kid gets into a top school.

I had the rudest things said to me by fellow parents: "oh, what was her hook?" "oh, must be nice" all the way down to people implying that she cheated.

No, it’s not.

[Anonymous]

OP- if you care what these shallow people think, maybe you're embarrassed or disappointed that your kid isn't going to a name brand school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ALOT of kids cheated. So much cheating in high school. Makes it really hard for the honest ones.

This. Harvard, Yale, and Stanford have unleashed so many lying sociopaths who’ve done so much damage to our society, it’s a source of pride to me that my kids are at state flagships. They are too honest and have too much integrity for the Ivy League.

I am not joking.

[Anonymous]

OP, assuming this is real, I encourage you to change your mindset.

I have a child at a non-selective school and I visited her this weekend. Its her second semester of sophomore year. She is happy, working hard, has lovely friends, a part time job and likes her major. In fact, she is much happier than in high school in many ways and more relaxed, because one of her goals was to get out of the east coast pressure cooker situation.

I proudly wear her college stuff and I'm so happy she is happy. When people ask me where she goes to college I'm eager to tell folks -it's a school where she thrives.

Don't let other people (especially those who are just people at the gym!) get you down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly it's much harder socially in the DMV when your kid gets into a top school.

I had the rudest things said to me by fellow parents: "oh, what was her hook?" "oh, must be nice" all the way down to people implying that she cheated.

No, it’s not.

You don't get to negate our experience because it doesn't fit your argument. I've had 2 DMV kids go to college and it was far more tiresome to navigate the snark that came with the top5 admit. Everyone was just happy and neutral with the one who attends a top75 school.

[Anonymous]

are you maybe projecting your insecurity onto these "friends"?

[Anonymous]

Oh this is about YOU, not your child? Deal with it, you are a grown up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting when parents of young kids get judgy about a less selective school. They have clear expectations that their kids will be Harvard bound.

They just have zero clue and will eventually find out and be the people they used to mock.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP. It's clear that you're upset that your child didn't get into a "top school". This is not about other people judging you, this is about you thinking your child is not as good as the other kids. You are a terrible parent. Your poor teen.

[Anonymous]

Living well is the best revenge. Your child will be a success and your family will be happy and you will not have torn your hair out bc you don’t give two cents what other ppl think. Answer proudly and move on. It will set you free and give them something to chew on. Ppl who don’t play the ridiculous games are the real winners here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they're sensing your disappointment. Because it's coming through loud and clear in your post!

100% this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Frankly it's much harder socially in the DMV when your kid gets into a top school.

I had the rudest things said to me by fellow parents: "oh, what was her hook?" "oh, must be nice" all the way down to people implying that she cheated.

Nice. Trolling the troll!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly it's much harder socially in the DMV when your kid gets into a top school.

I had the rudest things said to me by fellow parents: "oh, what was her hook?" "oh, must be nice" all the way down to people implying that she cheated.

No, it’s not.

You don't get to negate our experience because it doesn't fit your argument. I've had 2 DMV kids go to college and it was far more tiresome to navigate the snark that came with the top5 admit. Everyone was just happy and neutral with the one who attends a top75 school.

No one has to go to a T5 school. If you really don’t like the way people respond to it, don’t let your kid go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly it's much harder socially in the DMV when your kid gets into a top school.

I had the rudest things said to me by fellow parents: "oh, what was her hook?" "oh, must be nice" all the way down to people implying that she cheated.

No, it’s not.

You don't get to negate our experience because it doesn't fit your argument. I've had 2 DMV kids go to college and it was far more tiresome to navigate the snark that came with the top5 admit. Everyone was just happy and neutral with the one who attends a top75 school.

No one has to go to a T5 school. If you really don’t like the way people respond to it, don’t let your kid go.

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