How to deal with DC not going to a selective university socially

[Anonymous]

The moms I know are smug and deriding and make me feel like dirt because my DC is going to a school with a 60+ % acceptance rate. Does anyone have experience with how to handle this?

[Anonymous]

Find new friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find new friends.

They aren't my close friends. They're neighbors, acquaintances, people at the gym, etc.

[Anonymous]

Drop them. Also, nothing wrong with saying "Oh, people around here are so competitive, so we've decided not to talk about where our kids are going in order to not make people feel badly." Keep them guessing.

[Anonymous]

Most people’s kids are going to 60+% acceptance rate schools. I agree that the judgement is quite pervasive in this area, but even the parents who have a kid at a prestigious school, have another that did not get in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drop them. Also, nothing wrong with saying "Oh, people around here are so competitive, so we've decided not to talk about where our kids are going in order to not make people feel badly." Keep them guessing.

Too late for this. I don't really have the gall to speak out like this so went with the flow and told many people our plans. I wish I hadn't now...

[Anonymous]

Find new friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The moms I know are smug and deriding and make me feel like dirt because my DC is going to a school with a 60+ % acceptance rate. Does anyone have experience with how to handle this?

1) Troll

2) Find new friends

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting when parents of young kids get judgy about a less selective school. They have clear expectations that their kids will be Harvard bound.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find new friends.

It's not just people I choose to interact with. Many are just people I have to keep things pleasant with on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. Since they aren’t your good friends just tell them to fuk off.

Or just say something like “yeah, we were happy to let DC go wherever he/she wanted after the massive windfall inheritance we received.” Then they’ll think you’ll super rich, there will be an element of mystery since you won’t elaborate and you state it so matter of factly, and they’ll be so focused on that they’ll forget all about colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting when parents of young kids get judgy about a less selective school. They have clear expectations that their kids will be Harvard bound.

Yes!!! This is part of it! Young moms are often so judgy...wait until you realize your kid has to cure cancer to get into some of these places

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. Since they aren’t your good friends just tell them to fuk off.

Or just say something like “yeah, we were happy to let DC go wherever he/she wanted after the massive windfall inheritance we received.” Then they’ll think you’ll super rich, there will be an element of mystery since you won’t elaborate and you state it so matter of factly, and they’ll be so focused on that they’ll forget all about colleges.

Omg, lol. I love this!

[Anonymous]

Be loud and proud. Wear your kids college sweatshirt everywhere. Identify and Talk up all the positives to yourself, your child. Find your own happiness, focus on your kids pathway for success, and dont worry about judgement from your narrow minded neighbors. Congrats to you and your kid!

[Anonymous]

Serious question: why do you care what some rando at the gym thinks?