Boyfriend telling me to pay for stuff

[Anonymous]

Just break up already.

[Anonymous]

Break up. Negativity and poor communication are both disqualifiers.

At your age you don't have time to waste. Cut the cord and move on.

[Anonymous]

Time to break up. He's being disrespectful now. Imagine the nightmare 7 years into marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is new behavior, it indicates some pent up resentment and he doesn’t think you are “chipping in” nearly as much as you think you are.

Possible, but also telling how much he cares. This gives work colleague vibes.
Men who are in love and who love their SO are happy to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is new behavior, it indicates some pent up resentment and he doesn’t think you are “chipping in” nearly as much as you think you are.

Possible, but also telling how much he cares. This gives work colleague vibes.
Men who are in love and who love their SO are happy to pay.

OP here and yeah. All my exes (so, three lol) were happy to pay. They had other issues, but at the very least when I said "Thank you for dinner" they didn't reply "Next round is on you!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Break up. Negativity and poor communication are both disqualifiers.

At your age you don't have time to waste. Cut the cord and move on.

Yes, this is what scares me

[Anonymous]

I think he's slowly loosing interest, but even if he isn't - it's not a good trait, even if you were just a friend.

OP, he is not worth your time. It's that simple. Next!

[Anonymous]

You are 31! That is young! Breakup today.

He is showing you so many things about his true character. If he had a generous spirit, he would speak with you about this in a way that suggests you are a couple, dating is expensive, and how do you both want to spend money and time together. He sounds petty, score-keeping, and truly unhappy.

I dated someone like that for about 6 months. I was much younger, but eventually I realized that he was not a generous person in anything - time, emotions, money, etc.

I was single quite a while, and met my dh at 32. Great career, financially successful so it was not about $. My dh is generous in everything he does for me and our family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he's slowly loosing interest, but even if he isn't - it's not a good trait, even if you were just a friend.

OP, he is not worth your time. It's that simple. Next!

Nah. I suspect OP is correct in that the "women shouldn't pay" lines were just that, lines. Once he got her locked down he expected her to pay more and when she didn't he got annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I should add I am 31 and I'm starting to get scared. I don't want to be single but even I am (clearly, if I am posting here) starting to realize it might be time to call it quits and go back to being single, even at 31

Better now than 2, 3, 5 years from now. Better now than after kids. 31 is still young enough. Would you want to raise kids in all his negativity? That ish is hard enough already.

+1. I met my DH at 31, married two years later. Now live in a lovely home with two crazy kids and a crazy dog to match and it’s everything I ever hoped for. Get out now and find the man who matches your vibes and world view. If you invite it all in on a deeper soul level, it shows up quickly.

[Anonymous]

Op cares more about him asking her to pay, than she cares about the communication style.

The way she describes her bf is not a good look for the bf. But the way she’s complaining about the money here is not a good look for her.

I’m guessing they’re both immature and not catches, and he’s sensing the end of the relationship just as much as she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he's slowly loosing interest, but even if he isn't - it's not a good trait, even if you were just a friend.

OP, he is not worth your time. It's that simple. Next!

I don't think it's the lack of interest because the other thing is he's super sensitive - he will randomly go through bouts where he's convinced I'm breaking up with him.

[Anonymous]

Find a guy 6-10 years older. Now.

[Anonymous]

OP let’s start your new life today. Break up with him today. There is no improving this situation in the near term, if at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he's slowly loosing interest, but even if he isn't - it's not a good trait, even if you were just a friend.

OP, he is not worth your time. It's that simple. Next!

I don't think it's the lack of interest because the other thing is he's super sensitive - he will randomly go through bouts where he's convinced I'm breaking up with him.

Girl, he has so many issues. Feel free to vent if you must, he’s not the one for you.