First period - how do you handle it with male members of family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

Why do you presume I’m talking about my husband? Do you not know many men? This is not a family affair unless people want it to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

Yes agree. It isn’t brother’s business, but it is dad’s. He is a parent too. And if you have an inappropriate and immature husband, Im sorry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

Why do you presume I’m talking about my husband? Do you not know many men? This is not a family affair unless people want it to be.

I do know many men and can't see any of them saying this. Well maybe some brothers as brothers can be annoying like that. But brother doesn't need to know anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

Why do you presume I’m talking about my husband? Do you not know many men? This is not a family affair unless people want it to be.

I do know many men and can't see any of them saying this. Well maybe some brothers as brothers can be annoying like that. But brother doesn't need to know anyways.

So, never in your life has any man said to you, and never have you heard a man in any situation assume the only reason a woman is in a bad mood “because she’s on her period.” Really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

Why do you presume I’m talking about my husband? Do you not know many men? This is not a family affair unless people want it to be.

I do know many men and can't see any of them saying this. Well maybe some brothers as brothers can be annoying like that. But brother doesn't need to know anyways.

So, never in your life has any man said to you, and never have you heard a man in any situation assume the only reason a woman is in a bad mood “because she’s on her period.” Really?

You think a lot of dads say this to their daughter? If a person thinks their husband would say this to their daughter, they need to have a long, long talk with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

Why do you presume I’m talking about my husband? Do you not know many men? This is not a family affair unless people want it to be.

I do know many men and can't see any of them saying this. Well maybe some brothers as brothers can be annoying like that. But brother doesn't need to know anyways.

So, never in your life has any man said to you, and never have you heard a man in any situation assume the only reason a woman is in a bad mood “because she’s on her period.” Really?

You think a lot of dads say this to their daughter? If a person thinks their husband would say this to their daughter, they need to have a long, long talk with him.

Dads and brothers might say this. Of course. Which is why this doesn’t need to be an all males in the household discussion or awareness thing. That’s the point of this post. Not discretely telling dad as an FYI.

[Anonymous]

I do r co sister having a period to be a medical event. In my entire life I have never spoken to my father about my period. I never bled heavily throughout the house and he has never cleaned up my blood. He also never was sent out to buy period products. I am older but privacy and bodily autonomy is far more important to me than thinking any man she might encounter needs to know her uterus lining is shedding in case she bleeds somewhere.

Never in 50 years has my father NEEDED information about my menstruation cycle. It isn’t a medical event, it is the normal reproductive function of a female body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do r co sister having a period to be a medical event. In my entire life I have never spoken to my father about my period. I never bled heavily throughout the house and he has never cleaned up my blood. He also never was sent out to buy period products. I am older but privacy and bodily autonomy is far more important to me than thinking any man she might encounter needs to know her uterus lining is shedding in case she bleeds somewhere.

Never in 50 years has my father NEEDED information about my menstruation cycle. It isn’t a medical event, it is the normal reproductive function of a female body.

Totally agree. I've never.ever discussed my period with my father. Nope. It's okay if DD wants to keep this private. She can tell people when she chooses or they need to know.

Could she tell her dad if she needed him to know, for instance, to drop off back up clothes or period supplies? Yes, but she doesn't need to tell him in advance for him to help in those circumstances. He's a grown man who knows what a period is and can help her out when asked. He shouldn't need to know in order to emotionally prepare himself--that's weird.

I'm also not okay with people teasing a woman about her mood and blaming it on her cycle. That's not okay at all. My father was that sort of jerk, as was my brother, and it's not okay. It's a way to embarrass and shame women and a very good reason why mom shouldn't share the info with anyone without DD's permission. It's her private information that is no one else's business unless DD makes a choice to share it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Discussing it with fathers or male family members is not a question of shame, necessarily, it’s just about privacy. I don’t discuss my kid’s body with her relatives without her okay unless it’s necessary.

I am just unclear about how your kid finds telling her Dad that she has her period weird but is ok telling her Mom. In our household, that would never happen.

Of course you should follow your child’s lead. If she doesn’t want you to tell her dad, fine. I would never share my DD’s stuff with her aunts or anyone else without her permission. But in our family, Dad is in a different category. It would never occur to my child to look for “privacy” from her Dad.

Because I’m a woman and have the same body parts she does? Same reason I took her bra shopping and we change together but she doesn’t change in front of her dad. Personally I would tell him it happened because I think that’s relevant information for him to have (and I would tell DD I was telling him) but if she didn’t want to discuss it with him I’d tell him that too. -pp you’re replying ti

I don’t have excessive sweating issues like my DD does. Still when she found that normal pharmacy deodorants were not sufficient for her, her Dad found her a dermatologist and I took her to the appt. She is our daughter and her health is both of our business. Regardless of whether it’s something going on in her body that either of us has experienced before.

And to those who say that dads and brothers can be jerks, I totally don’t get this. Brothers, yes. Best I can tell my son lives to troll his sister. But her Dad would never ever consider saying something like this. What kind of fathers do you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate.

Why do you presume I’m talking about my husband? Do you not know many men? This is not a family affair unless people want it to be.

I do know many men and can't see any of them saying this. Well maybe some brothers as brothers can be annoying like that. But brother doesn't need to know anyways.

So, never in your life has any man said to you, and never have you heard a man in any situation assume the only reason a woman is in a bad mood “because she’s on her period.” Really?

DP. As a teenager any time I was upset about anything my mother would ask if I was on my period. It enraged me because it invalidated my feelings.

[Anonymous]

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Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know. [/quote]

Please. It is the same thing and both deserve privacy. Nobody needs dad and brother “Look out, it’s shark week!” Every time the daughter is in a bad mood.[/quote]

I'm sorry this was your experience in your life. As a medical professional, they are very different. Dad needs to know. Dad should also not bring it up with daughter. If your husband would say something like this to her, you need to have a long conversation with him about this being completely inappropriate. [/quote]

Why do you presume I’m talking about my husband? Do you not know many men? This is not a family affair unless people want it to be.[/quote]

I do know many men and can't see any of them saying this. Well maybe some brothers as brothers can be annoying like that. But brother doesn't need to know anyways. [/quote]

So, never in your life has any man said to you, and never have you heard a man in any situation assume the only reason a woman is in a bad mood “because she’s on her period.” Really? [/quote]

DP. As a teenager any time I was upset about anything my mother would ask if I was on my period. It enraged me because it invalidated my feelings. [/quote]

Same. Then my brother picked up on it and would make comments if I wasn't nice to him. Thankfully, my dad never did this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had sort of a "period party" where we celebrated her transition from girl to young woman with a lot of pomp and flair. We thought it was important to recognize the event with a grand celebration.

Do the same for your son's first wet dream?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Discussing it with fathers or male family members is not a question of shame, necessarily, it’s just about privacy. I don’t discuss my kid’s body with her relatives without her okay unless it’s necessary.

I am just unclear about how your kid finds telling her Dad that she has her period weird but is ok telling her Mom. In our household, that would never happen.

Of course you should follow your child’s lead. If she doesn’t want you to tell her dad, fine. I would never share my DD’s stuff with her aunts or anyone else without her permission. But in our family, Dad is in a different category. It would never occur to my child to look for “privacy” from her Dad.

Because I’m a woman and have the same body parts she does? Same reason I took her bra shopping and we change together but she doesn’t change in front of her dad. Personally I would tell him it happened because I think that’s relevant information for him to have (and I would tell DD I was telling him) but if she didn’t want to discuss it with him I’d tell him that too. -pp you’re replying ti

I don’t have excessive sweating issues like my DD does. Still when she found that normal pharmacy deodorants were not sufficient for her, her Dad found her a dermatologist and I took her to the appt. She is our daughter and her health is both of our business. Regardless of whether it’s something going on in her body that either of us has experienced before.

And to those who say that dads and brothers can be jerks, I totally don’t get this. Brothers, yes. Best I can tell my son lives to troll his sister. But her Dad would never ever consider saying something like this. What kind of fathers do you know?

You totally don’t get that brothers can be jerks yet you say your son trolls his sister? Wake up.