First period - how do you handle it with male members of family

[Anonymous]

Of course not!! Geez. It's an ordinary bodily function but geez, people deserve their privacy!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your sons wet dream?

To state the incredibly, incredibly obvious, these are not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Idk, same, not-appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Why is this a thing? Should the females in the family celebrate the male’s first wet dream?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your sons wet dream?

To state the incredibly, incredibly obvious, these are not the same thing.

Why? it’s a bodily function. Is it shameful to you? Gather around kids time to celebrate?

[Anonymous]

In tween years, a childhood friend overheard her step-mom tell her Dad she had started her period. Friend was horrified. She disliked her step-mom so much for that. And the thing was, I understood. I also remember being horrified by it. I agreed with her. And I had a happier, more ordinary family (no step-mom dynamic) I remember my mindset very clearly. I remember thinking it was a huge violation of privacy.

Now, as a parent, I think you have to be very careful. If mentioned, this is mentioned as privately as possible and as little as possible between parents --- but honestly, why would a Father not know it's going to happen? It's going to happen around this age. He's not an idiot. Why would it matter to tell or talk about it? Privacy is most important.

[Anonymous]

My DD talks about everything. We all know too much! Including when it’s heavy, etc.

[Anonymous]

Whatever you do, don't be like my mom, who let my father and brother know by taking an aluminum folding chair and placing it next to the couch in the den and saying I had to sit there every time I got my period so I wouldn't stain the couch.

One time my brother's friend came over and I was embarrassed for him to know I had gotten my period (I thought a period chair was normal then) so I got up and left the room. I overheard this:

Friend: why was Molly sitting in that chair?
Brother: she's being punished
Friend: oh for what?
Brother: existing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course not!! Geez. It's an ordinary bodily function but geez, people deserve their privacy!!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't the child's father be in the know? Does he not ever buy feminine hygiene products or do laundry? I think this is a basic fact to know about your own child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your son’s wet dream?

Not the same at all. Dad is a parent. It’s business too. He may need to help with picking up supplies, plus periods cause may symptoms from mood swings, cramps, possibly wanting to miss school, hiding out in room with heating pad.
It’s fine and normal for both parents to know, and he should know.

Exactly. If mom is not around and there is a heavy flow leaving blood everywhere, dad is probably going to have to help DD clean. I remember my dad helping me one morning when I got an overnight surprise that looked like a murder scene. Periods are often heavy and irregular at the beginning. That's just part of life.

[Anonymous]

I'm a little torn on not telling the dad. I'm all for privacy, but also this is a medical thing that they dad should know. IMO, it's not the same as a wet dream.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little torn on not telling the dad. I'm all for privacy, but also this is a medical thing that they dad should know. IMO, it's not the same as a wet dream.

Tell him and tell him not to bring it up to her.

[Anonymous]

I have boys and I can assure you they would not want to hear about this.