First period - how do you handle it with male members of family

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Anonymous wrote:We had sort of a "period party" where we celebrated her transition from girl to young woman with a lot of pomp and flair. We thought it was important to recognize the event with a grand celebration.

So ridiculous

It’s a big deal in many cultures. My grandmother wanted to do this for me and my cousins. Luckily all our parents shot it down.

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Since no longer 1950, why the hiding?

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As a dad, I do need to know whether my daughter has started a couple times a year for forms (Girl Scout camp always asks I know), but that's just a general "has started" not anything else.

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I am trying to think about my DH not knowing, and I can’t imagine how that would come around. It’s his daughter and it’s an important milestone in her life. She told him, I believe, just like she told him about what elective classes she was going to sign up for. He is her parent after all.

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My daughter is almost 13 so this should be coming soon. Of course I would tell DH. DD will likely talk openly about it but to the extent she didn’t, she shares a bathroom with DS so I can’t see how she’d hide it from him.

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Op. I asked her if I could tell her dad and she said no. I will follow her lead and respect that.
She shares a bathroom with her brother and the pads will be under her sink (they each have their own sink and cabinet.). I explained to her how to be discreet in terms of leaving out dirty pads, showering, etc.

Thanks all for sharing the responses. I definitely don't think it's anything to hide; my husband has bought me pads, tampons, picked up my birth control and postpartum maternity underwear etc., but I want to follow my daughter's lead. I told my dh months ago it was coming any day, so he won't be surprised whenever he finds out.

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Discussing it with fathers or male family members is not a question of shame, necessarily, it’s just about privacy. I don’t discuss my kid’s body with her relatives without her okay unless it’s necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:Discussing it with fathers or male family members is not a question of shame, necessarily, it’s just about privacy. I don’t discuss my kid’s body with her relatives without her okay unless it’s necessary.

Op here. Exactly.

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I told her father. He is a parent too and this is pertinent information. It’s his business as much as it is mine. But did not discuss with siblings. There is nothing to really talk about.

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Anonymous wrote:Discussing it with fathers or male family members is not a question of shame, necessarily, it’s just about privacy. I don’t discuss my kid’s body with her relatives without her okay unless it’s necessary.

I am just unclear about how your kid finds telling her Dad that she has her period weird but is ok telling her Mom. In our household, that would never happen.

Of course you should follow your child’s lead. If she doesn’t want you to tell her dad, fine. I would never share my DD’s stuff with her aunts or anyone else without her permission. But in our family, Dad is in a different category. It would never occur to my child to look for “privacy” from her Dad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Discussing it with fathers or male family members is not a question of shame, necessarily, it’s just about privacy. I don’t discuss my kid’s body with her relatives without her okay unless it’s necessary.

I am just unclear about how your kid finds telling her Dad that she has her period weird but is ok telling her Mom. In our household, that would never happen.

Of course you should follow your child’s lead. If she doesn’t want you to tell her dad, fine. I would never share my DD’s stuff with her aunts or anyone else without her permission. But in our family, Dad is in a different category. It would never occur to my child to look for “privacy” from her Dad.

Because I’m a woman and have the same body parts she does? Same reason I took her bra shopping and we change together but she doesn’t change in front of her dad. Personally I would tell him it happened because I think that’s relevant information for him to have (and I would tell DD I was telling him) but if she didn’t want to discuss it with him I’d tell him that too. -pp you’re replying ti

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I'm the poster who said we are very open and honest in our family about all body changes... But that being said, I would never share personal bodily information about any member of our family unless there was a medical need to do so if they did not want me to.
I don't think it's going to be a party or a huge announcement per se but I do see my daughter just casually bringing it up like it's no big deal because it really is no big deal

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My mother took me out to dinner when I got my first period, just the two of us, and I thought that was a nice, low-key way to celebrate.

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Anonymous wrote:We had sort of a "period party" where we celebrated her transition from girl to young woman with a lot of pomp and flair. We thought it was important to recognize the event with a grand celebration.

I just went into a dream sequence imagining throwing a party like this for my cat.

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It’s not their business. Did you guys talk about your sons wet dream?