First period - how do you handle it with male members of family

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Anonymous wrote:I never talked about it with my husband. I’m sure he realized that at some point it would happen and that I’d deal with it.

Why should 100% of it fall on the mom? Thats very sexist.

What girl wants to discuss her period with her dad? He has zero experience because it is about sex.

My DD? I mean she doesn’t particularly want to discuss her period I don’t think, but “can you grab me some pads - I am out” or “my cramps are really bad - would you rub my back” is addressed to whichever parent is nearby at the time.

Buying pads is so burdensome? Feels like you are trying too hard to make sure you bean count fairly.

What? Where did you get burdensome from? My DD asks whichever parent is around to get her stuff she needs, to include period supplies. Your comment makes no sense

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

GMAFB. There’s nothing wrong with a 14 year old’s parent filling out their medical form.

there’s nothing wrong with it but it’s infantilizing

They ask stuff about mom’s delivery, c-section, etc. Regardless, I disagree with you. It’s fine if they want to do it and it’s fine if they don’t.

What dr office asks that for a 14 year old? She can leave it blank and let them follow up if they care. That’s a good lesson about how to deal with bureaucracy.

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

GMAFB. There’s nothing wrong with a 14 year old’s parent filling out their medical form.

there’s nothing wrong with it but it’s infantilizing

Legally, a parent has to sign the forms and be aware of what's on them and that it's accurate.

[Anonymous]

Our DD got it a few months after turning 11. She didn't tell DW and DW just noticed a week or two later when doing laundry and found her period underwear in there (DW bought it and other supplies in advance and explained to her), then DW asked and DD confirmed. DD is quite private.

DW mentioned it to me. I'd really like to bring it up with DD, but since she didn't tell me, I'm not going to. She's still just a child to me -- when we're out in a crowd she'll reach out to hold my hand. She's not interested in make-up or fancy dresses, and still plays dolls with her younger sister. This is new territory for all of us.

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Anonymous wrote:Our DD got it a few months after turning 11. She didn't tell DW and DW just noticed a week or two later when doing laundry and found her period underwear in there (DW bought it and other supplies in advance and explained to her), then DW asked and DD confirmed. DD is quite private.

DW mentioned it to me. I'd really like to bring it up with DD, but since she didn't tell me, I'm not going to. She's still just a child to me -- when we're out in a crowd she'll reach out to hold my hand. She's not interested in make-up or fancy dresses, and still plays dolls with her younger sister. This is new territory for all of us.

She is still a child. So it is ok to feel the way you do. The whole getting a period makes you a woman thing is stupid. Children get periods. Just like 50 year old women get periods doesn't mean they are young and virile.

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Anonymous wrote:I never talked about it with my husband. I’m sure he realized that at some point it would happen and that I’d deal with it.

Why should 100% of it fall on the mom? Thats very sexist.

What girl wants to discuss her period with her dad? He has zero experience because it is about sex.

My DD? I mean she doesn’t particularly want to discuss her period I don’t think, but “can you grab me some pads - I am out” or “my cramps are really bad - would you rub my back” is addressed to whichever parent is nearby at the time.

Buying pads is so burdensome? Feels like you are trying too hard to make sure you bean count fairly.

What? Where did you get burdensome from? My DD asks whichever parent is around to get her stuff she needs, to include period supplies. Your comment makes no sense

Then 100% of what is falling on mom? What is so onerous about this that it must be shared?

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very strange post

It is a very strange thread.

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In our house, both parents are aware of each child's health and medical issues, including whether or not a child has reached menarche. This is basic information about a child. Not particularly interesting or noteworthy, nor shameful.

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Please normalize this and make sure your sons know what is going on. More men need to learn about and understand menstruation. This will help them if they are in a relationship with a woman in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:Please normalize this and make sure your sons know what is going on. More men need to learn about and understand menstruation. This will help them if they are in a relationship with a woman in the future.

No the sons don’t need to know. Weirdos.

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Have one daughter, 2 sons. We talk about it like anything else that’s bothering us. Females get periods. If it’s annoying us we talk about it like we’d talk about a headache.

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Anonymous wrote:I never talked about it with my husband. I’m sure he realized that at some point it would happen and that I’d deal with it.

Why should 100% of it fall on the mom? Thats very sexist.

What girl wants to discuss her period with her dad? He has zero experience because it is about sex.

My DD? I mean she doesn’t particularly want to discuss her period I don’t think, but “can you grab me some pads - I am out” or “my cramps are really bad - would you rub my back” is addressed to whichever parent is nearby at the time.

Buying pads is so burdensome? Feels like you are trying too hard to make sure you bean count fairly.

What? Where did you get burdensome from? My DD asks whichever parent is around to get her stuff she needs, to include period supplies. Your comment makes no sense

Then 100% of what is falling on mom? What is so onerous about this that it must be shared?

I honestly don’t know what you are trying to say. Some poster asked what girl wants to discuss her period with her father. I said my DD because she turns to whoever is around when she needs help. Like wanting period supplies (or pencils or whatever). My DD would never consider not telling her dad that her period had started just like she would never keep that info from me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

GMAFB. There’s nothing wrong with a 14 year old’s parent filling out their medical form.

there’s nothing wrong with it but it’s infantilizing

Legally, a parent has to sign the forms and be aware of what's on them and that it's accurate.

Not only that, but, as the OP of filling our forms in this sub thread, I have to provide insurance information, payment info if I’m registering for camps or sports or school, proof of residency for school. What 13 year old registers herself for school or camp? She can’t legally sign a contract! And I know of no 13 year old who is sitting next to her parent as the parent is on the camp website filling out form after form just waiting for her turn to check “no” on all the health concerns boxes after mom or dad finishes with travel forms, releases of liability, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

GMAFB. There’s nothing wrong with a 14 year old’s parent filling out their medical form.

there’s nothing wrong with it but it’s infantilizing

Legally, a parent has to sign the forms and be aware of what's on them and that it's accurate.

Not only that, but, as the OP of filling our forms in this sub thread, I have to provide insurance information, payment info if I’m registering for camps or sports or school, proof of residency for school. What 13 year old registers herself for school or camp? She can’t legally sign a contract! And I know of no 13 year old who is sitting next to her parent as the parent is on the camp website filling out form after form just waiting for her turn to check “no” on all the health concerns boxes after mom or dad finishes with travel forms, releases of liability, etc.

You’re underestimating your kid. A mom friend of mine has her 13 year old take care of his own camp and sports paperwork and even schedule the doctor’s appointment himself. I’m definitely inspired by that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please normalize this and make sure your sons know what is going on. More men need to learn about and understand menstruation. This will help them if they are in a relationship with a woman in the future.

No the sons don’t need to know. Weirdos.

You don't have brothers. They will find out anyway.