why are short woman blamed for dating tall men ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

A few days ago I was standing near a super tall man/super short woman couple. She was on her tippy toes with her neck stretched up trying to give him a kiss, and he kept stooping way down to get close to her and then popping his head up again before she could kiss him. Laughing his head off.
It was pathetic.

? DH is a foot + 2" taller than me, and we don't have a problem kissing, or procreating. Two beautiful teens.

Nothing pathetic about us. You seem jealous or bitter, maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a tall woman, I did find that most taller men preferred the shortest women they could find. I think the men liked the power dynamic, and didn't want a woman who was too much like an equal.

This dynamic absolutely exists for some people.

Hilarious some of you do not see it or deny it exists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a tall woman, I did find that most taller men preferred the shortest women they could find. I think the men liked the power dynamic, and didn't want a woman who was too much like an equal.

I'm 4.11 and my partner is 6 feet. The only way we are not equal is in height, but tell yourself whatever you want. Sad that you have to disparage total stranger for no reason at all.

+1 DH always defers to me. I'm pretty controlling

4'11" and 6'2".

I didn't set out to marry someone that tall, and I did guys who were 5'7"+. It just so happened that the 6'2" man and I were more compatible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall gorgeous women are intimidating to men. Petite women are much less intimidating. I definitely agree with the power dynamics comments.

Men may think models are hot, but they don't have the confidence to go for them.

I've never heard anyone "blaming" short women for men's lack of confidence though. I've heard people say the same thing about white women/black men, but I've never heard anyone actually say it IRL.

I don’t find this to be true at all. I’ve dated some beautiful tall women and in no way felt intimidated. I do prefer the short ones like my wife.

Why do you prefer shorter women? Especially if you apparently dated some beautiful tall women?

It would be one thing if you said "oh I've dated tall women and short women, height wasn't a determining factor, it turned out I married a short woman." But you go out of your way to say you prefer short women. Why? Why didn't things work out with any of these gorgeous tall women you dated who didn't intimidate you in the least?

I think you like how being with a shorter woman makes you feel (big). You won't say that out loud, you won't even admit it on an anonymous website, but it just does not make sense to specifically *prefer* shorter woman as a taller man unless there is something about their shortness that appeals to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

+1 I feel like Xena Princess warrior on the inside. Unfortunately, I'm barely 5'. Doesn't stop me from having a strong personality who absolutely in no way defers to DH, who is 6'2". He knows I can take care of myself.

[Anonymous]

The shorties always get very defensive about this subject on here. That's how you know you struck a nerve. If this was truly not a thing, people wouldn't get SO MAD at the implication.

We get, it y'all have a fetish. Just own it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall gorgeous women are intimidating to men. Petite women are much less intimidating. I definitely agree with the power dynamics comments.

Men may think models are hot, but they don't have the confidence to go for them.

I've never heard anyone "blaming" short women for men's lack of confidence though. I've heard people say the same thing about white women/black men, but I've never heard anyone actually say it IRL.

I don’t find this to be true at all. I’ve dated some beautiful tall women and in no way felt intimidated. I do prefer the short ones like my wife.

Why do you prefer shorter women? Especially if you apparently dated some beautiful tall women?

It would be one thing if you said "oh I've dated tall women and short women, height wasn't a determining factor, it turned out I married a short woman." But you go out of your way to say you prefer short women. Why? Why didn't things work out with any of these gorgeous tall women you dated who didn't intimidate you in the least?

I think you like how being with a shorter woman makes you feel (big). You won't say that out loud, you won't even admit it on an anonymous website, but it just does not make sense to specifically *prefer* shorter woman as a taller man unless there is something about their shortness that appeals to you.

dp..

why do some men prefer blondes, or brunettes; some are a$$ men, others are b00b men, and others leg men.

People are attracted to different characteristics. Why on earth do you think your idea of "beauty" or "hot" is the same as another's?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall gorgeous women are intimidating to men. Petite women are much less intimidating. I definitely agree with the power dynamics comments.

Men may think models are hot, but they don't have the confidence to go for them.

I've never heard anyone "blaming" short women for men's lack of confidence though. I've heard people say the same thing about white women/black men, but I've never heard anyone actually say it IRL.

I don’t find this to be true at all. I’ve dated some beautiful tall women and in no way felt intimidated. I do prefer the short ones like my wife.

Why do you prefer shorter women? Especially if you apparently dated some beautiful tall women?

It would be one thing if you said "oh I've dated tall women and short women, height wasn't a determining factor, it turned out I married a short woman." But you go out of your way to say you prefer short women. Why? Why didn't things work out with any of these gorgeous tall women you dated who didn't intimidate you in the least?

I think you like how being with a shorter woman makes you feel (big). You won't say that out loud, you won't even admit it on an anonymous website, but it just does not make sense to specifically *prefer* shorter woman as a taller man unless there is something about their shortness that appeals to you.

What the F does it matter to you? I'm not the man you're quizzing BTW. Are you a bitter 6-foot-tall woman who can't find a man? What is your problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

This is really weird and superficial. You sound like a very shallow person.

So much projection and hypocrisy going on here. On the one hand, women who are a foot shorter than their husbands are insisting that everyone else is jealous of them. On the other, they’re accusing others of being shallow and rude. Very odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The shorties always get very defensive about this subject on here. That's how you know you struck a nerve. If this was truly not a thing, people wouldn't get SO MAD at the implication.

We get, it y'all have a fetish. Just own it.

Tall trolls can’t help but instigate. Short girls are the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The shorties always get very defensive about this subject on here. That's how you know you struck a nerve. If this was truly not a thing, people wouldn't get SO MAD at the implication.

We get, it y'all have a fetish. Just own it.

We get it, you're really dumb. Just own it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

+1 I feel like Xena Princess warrior on the inside. Unfortunately, I'm barely 5'. Doesn't stop me from having a strong personality who absolutely in no way defers to DH, who is 6'2". He knows I can take care of myself.

Right but if you had the exact same "strong personality" and were 6 inches taller, do you think your DH would still be into it?

Men LOVE a little woman who acts bossy and big. Why? Because they know she isn't. They are secure in the knowledge that they are *letting* her boss them around. Try being a very strong-willed, bossy woman who is 5'10" and tell me how men react.

Your short statures lets you get away with acting/feeling that way and still not being threatening to men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They probably have a midget fetish.

LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The shorties always get very defensive about this subject on here. That's how you know you struck a nerve. If this was truly not a thing, people wouldn't get SO MAD at the implication.

We get, it y'all have a fetish. Just own it.

We get it, you're really dumb. Just own it.

You are resorting to name calling and taunting because you know I'm right and cannot make an argument to refute what I'm saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

This is really weird and superficial. You sound like a very shallow person.

So much projection and hypocrisy going on here. On the one hand, women who are a foot shorter than their husbands are insisting that everyone else is jealous of them. On the other, they’re accusing others of being shallow and rude. Very odd.

There was perhaps one woman claiming that. The rest of us are wondering why you even care.