why are short woman blamed for dating tall men ?

[Anonymous]

Women trying to up the height of her gene pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women trying to up the height of her gene pool.

I hope you tried for someone MUCH, MUCH more intelligent than you to up your children's gene pool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

That is your personal, moronic opinion that you should ALWAYS keep to yourself. No one cares what you think. I picked my partner for much more than to be my accessory when I'm in pubic.

Meanwhile, you want us all to know that you got pursued and picked by tall men, and think we should all “seethe”. You’re not the bigger person here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

That is your personal, moronic opinion that you should ALWAYS keep to yourself. No one cares what you think. I picked my partner for much more than to be my accessory when I'm in pubic.

Meanwhile, you want us all to know that you got pursued and picked by tall men, and think we should all “seethe”. You’re not the bigger person here.

I'm not that poster. There is more than one short woman who happens to be with a tall guy responding to your stupidity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

You can't help your height but you can help who you choose to be with. Your DH chose a very short woman even though he is very tall. You chose a very tall man even though you are short. There's nothing wrong with it but it's interesting you were attracted to each other even though a big height differential can be very uncomfortable, especially up close. When I dated guys who were a foot taller than me, it was just physically uncomfortable to look up at him sometimes. I don't want to be craning my neck all the time, I assume a tall person wouldn't want to be stooping down all the time. It will also mean you are not comfortable in the same spaces. You'll have different preferences for homes and cars and strollers because you have different physical needs.

When I see couples with large height differentials like this, I do assume that the differential was itself a draw, which I do think reflects a desire for a big man/small woman dynamic. Because the height differential is inconvenient otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

But most of us are similar height to you and are saying we would not want to be with a guy so much taller. Why would we seethe?

There is something extremely gross about the way you seem to think that taller men are higher quality (they aren't, they are just like slightly shorter men) and that makes you more impressive for "catching" one. It's clearly a competition to you, whereas for the rest of us it's more a question of practicality and not understanding why someone would choose the impracticalities of a big height differential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

That is your personal, moronic opinion that you should ALWAYS keep to yourself. No one cares what you think. I picked my partner for much more than to be my accessory when I'm in pubic.

Meanwhile, you want us all to know that you got pursued and picked by tall men, and think we should all “seethe”. You’re not the bigger person here.

I'm not that poster. There is more than one short woman who happens to be with a tall guy responding to your stupidity.

And you are also responding to more than one person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

You can't help your height but you can help who you choose to be with. Your DH chose a very short woman even though he is very tall. You chose a very tall man even though you are short. There's nothing wrong with it but it's interesting you were attracted to each other even though a big height differential can be very uncomfortable, especially up close. When I dated guys who were a foot taller than me, it was just physically uncomfortable to look up at him sometimes. I don't want to be craning my neck all the time, I assume a tall person wouldn't want to be stooping down all the time. It will also mean you are not comfortable in the same spaces. You'll have different preferences for homes and cars and strollers because you have different physical needs.

When I see couples with large height differentials like this, I do assume that the differential was itself a draw, which I do think reflects a desire for a big man/small woman dynamic. Because the height differential is inconvenient otherwise.

But we met sitting down!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 4’11 and I’m not attracted to men over 5’9 . Tall men appear intimidating to me or they appear awkward if they are too skinny ; But for some reason I get approached by a lot of tall men ; I even had a 6’9 guy wanting to get with me

For some reason I always hear about how short woman chase after tall men ; that hasn’t been my experience; it’s usually tall men who pursue short woman and aren’t attracted to woman that are tall 🤷🏻‍♀️

Few inches, few pounds, few shades, few notches on income level, few tiers in social class, few grades in education doesn't matter but in this shallow world, long term relationships with huge differences are less likely to survive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

You can't help your height but you can help who you choose to be with. Your DH chose a very short woman even though he is very tall. You chose a very tall man even though you are short. There's nothing wrong with it but it's interesting you were attracted to each other even though a big height differential can be very uncomfortable, especially up close. When I dated guys who were a foot taller than me, it was just physically uncomfortable to look up at him sometimes. I don't want to be craning my neck all the time, I assume a tall person wouldn't want to be stooping down all the time. It will also mean you are not comfortable in the same spaces. You'll have different preferences for homes and cars and strollers because you have different physical needs.

When I see couples with large height differentials like this, I do assume that the differential was itself a draw, which I do think reflects a desire for a big man/small woman dynamic. Because the height differential is inconvenient otherwise.

But we met sitting down!

So? Look, I'm married. My DH is about 6 inches taller than me. When we were dating, we spent a lot of time standing next to each other -- walking together, going to concerts, going to parties, etc. Just like now. I dated taller men and doing those things was awkward. It is awkward to talk to someone or kiss someone who is over a foot taller than you. Possible, yes, but why bother when there are lots of people closer in height? I think the only reason people do it is because there is something specifically appealing to them about the height differential. There's no other good reason for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 4’11 and I’m not attracted to men over 5’9 . Tall men appear intimidating to me or they appear awkward if they are too skinny ; But for some reason I get approached by a lot of tall men ; I even had a 6’9 guy wanting to get with me

For some reason I always hear about how short woman chase after tall men ; that hasn’t been my experience; it’s usually tall men who pursue short woman and aren’t attracted to woman that are tall 🤷🏻‍♀️

Few inches, few pounds, few shades, few notches on income level, few tiers in social class, few grades in education doesn't matter but in this shallow world, long term relationships with huge differences are less likely to survive.

This might be the dumbest comment on DCUM today. Congrats.

No, relationships don't fail because the height difference is 12 inches instead of two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

You can't help your height but you can help who you choose to be with. Your DH chose a very short woman even though he is very tall. You chose a very tall man even though you are short. There's nothing wrong with it but it's interesting you were attracted to each other even though a big height differential can be very uncomfortable, especially up close. When I dated guys who were a foot taller than me, it was just physically uncomfortable to look up at him sometimes. I don't want to be craning my neck all the time, I assume a tall person wouldn't want to be stooping down all the time. It will also mean you are not comfortable in the same spaces. You'll have different preferences for homes and cars and strollers because you have different physical needs.

When I see couples with large height differentials like this, I do assume that the differential was itself a draw, which I do think reflects a desire for a big man/small woman dynamic. Because the height differential is inconvenient otherwise.

But we met sitting down!

So? Look, I'm married. My DH is about 6 inches taller than me. When we were dating, we spent a lot of time standing next to each other -- walking together, going to concerts, going to parties, etc. Just like now. I dated taller men and doing those things was awkward. It is awkward to talk to someone or kiss someone who is over a foot taller than you. Possible, yes, but why bother when there are lots of people closer in height? I think the only reason people do it is because there is something specifically appealing to them about the height differential. There's no other good reason for it.

What is even your point? You are married, congrats!!! You found your perfect man. Don't worry about anyone else. It's none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

You can't help your height but you can help who you choose to be with. Your DH chose a very short woman even though he is very tall. You chose a very tall man even though you are short. There's nothing wrong with it but it's interesting you were attracted to each other even though a big height differential can be very uncomfortable, especially up close. When I dated guys who were a foot taller than me, it was just physically uncomfortable to look up at him sometimes. I don't want to be craning my neck all the time, I assume a tall person wouldn't want to be stooping down all the time. It will also mean you are not comfortable in the same spaces. You'll have different preferences for homes and cars and strollers because you have different physical needs.

When I see couples with large height differentials like this, I do assume that the differential was itself a draw, which I do think reflects a desire for a big man/small woman dynamic. Because the height differential is inconvenient otherwise.

But we met sitting down!

So? Look, I'm married. My DH is about 6 inches taller than me. When we were dating, we spent a lot of time standing next to each other -- walking together, going to concerts, going to parties, etc. Just like now. I dated taller men and doing those things was awkward. It is awkward to talk to someone or kiss someone who is over a foot taller than you. Possible, yes, but why bother when there are lots of people closer in height? I think the only reason people do it is because there is something specifically appealing to them about the height differential. There's no other good reason for it.

I think you should have gone shorter than you for ultimate comfort. Wouldn't want to pull a muscle in your neck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tall gorgeous women are intimidating to men. Petite women are much less intimidating. I definitely agree with the power dynamics comments.

Men may think models are hot, but they don't have the confidence to go for them.

I've never heard anyone "blaming" short women for men's lack of confidence though. I've heard people say the same thing about white women/black men, but I've never heard anyone actually say it IRL.

I don’t find this to be true at all. I’ve dated some beautiful tall women and in no way felt intimidated. I do prefer the short ones like my wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

This is really weird and superficial. You sound like a very shallow person.