why are short woman blamed for dating tall men ?

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This is one of oddest threads on DCUM and I’m embarrassed to say I’ve read it all.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of oddest threads on DCUM and I’m embarrassed to say I’ve read it all.

I know, right? So bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

This is really weird and superficial. You sound like a very shallow person.

So much projection and hypocrisy going on here. On the one hand, women who are a foot shorter than their husbands are insisting that everyone else is jealous of them. On the other, they’re accusing others of being shallow and rude. Very odd.

There was perhaps one woman claiming that. The rest of us are wondering why you even care.

You need to stop assuming that multiple people agree with you and you’re all arguing with one person.

what is there to disagree with? My choice of partner? you are very strange.

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Anonymous wrote:Tall gorgeous women are intimidating to men. Petite women are much less intimidating. I definitely agree with the power dynamics comments.

Men may think models are hot, but they don't have the confidence to go for them.

I've never heard anyone "blaming" short women for men's lack of confidence though. I've heard people say the same thing about white women/black men, but I've never heard anyone actually say it IRL.

I don’t find this to be true at all. I’ve dated some beautiful tall women and in no way felt intimidated. I do prefer the short ones like my wife.

Why do you prefer shorter women? Especially if you apparently dated some beautiful tall women?

It would be one thing if you said "oh I've dated tall women and short women, height wasn't a determining factor, it turned out I married a short woman." But you go out of your way to say you prefer short women. Why? Why didn't things work out with any of these gorgeous tall women you dated who didn't intimidate you in the least?

I think you like how being with a shorter woman makes you feel (big). You won't say that out loud, you won't even admit it on an anonymous website, but it just does not make sense to specifically *prefer* shorter woman as a taller man unless there is something about their shortness that appeals to you.

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Something about tiny hands or what?

Well, yes.

There is that factor too.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of oddest threads on DCUM and I’m embarrassed to say I’ve read it all.

If you'd read it all you'd know this precise subject comes up once or twice a year, at least, and it's always like this.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of oddest threads on DCUM and I’m embarrassed to say I’ve read it all.

If you'd read it all you'd know this precise subject comes up once or twice a year, at least, and it's always like this.

This level of interest in how other couples look is mind-blowing. There is zero reason that anyone should concern themselves with this.

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Truly desirable men have their pick and usually like variety when they are sowing their wild oats. They’re not scared of tall or obsessed by short any more than James Bond would be. I blame women who don’t understand the appeal of variety and can’t get excited about guys of different heights.

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Anonymous wrote:Truly desirable men have their pick and usually like variety when they are sowing their wild oats. They’re not scared of tall or obsessed by short any more than James Bond would be. I blame women who don’t understand the appeal of variety and can’t get excited about guys of different heights.

Why do you keep [wrongly] assuming that we are seeking out tall men? Is that a complex of yours because you are short? I dated and married plenty of short men. I happen to have a tall partner now but it has almost nothing to do with his height. I would love him the same if he was 10 inches shorter. Stop projecting your insecurities onto women and men you know nothing about.

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Anonymous wrote:Tall gorgeous women are intimidating to men. Petite women are much less intimidating. I definitely agree with the power dynamics comments.

Men may think models are hot, but they don't have the confidence to go for them.

I've never heard anyone "blaming" short women for men's lack of confidence though. I've heard people say the same thing about white women/black men, but I've never heard anyone actually say it IRL.

I don’t find this to be true at all. I’ve dated some beautiful tall women and in no way felt intimidated. I do prefer the short ones like my wife.

Why do you prefer shorter women? Especially if you apparently dated some beautiful tall women?

It would be one thing if you said "oh I've dated tall women and short women, height wasn't a determining factor, it turned out I married a short woman." But you go out of your way to say you prefer short women. Why? Why didn't things work out with any of these gorgeous tall women you dated who didn't intimidate you in the least?

I think you like how being with a shorter woman makes you feel (big). You won't say that out loud, you won't even admit it on an anonymous website, but it just does not make sense to specifically *prefer* shorter woman as a taller man unless there is something about their shortness that appeals to you.

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Something about tiny hands or what?

Well, yes.

There is that factor too.

Many men dont have that issue...

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of oddest threads on DCUM and I’m embarrassed to say I’ve read it all.

If you'd read it all you'd know this precise subject comes up once or twice a year, at least, and it's always like this.

This level of interest in how other couples look is mind-blowing. There is zero reason that anyone should concern themselves with this.

Have you been on this site before? Of course people are interested in other couples, of course they judge, etc. You cannot get worked up about this. If these opinions upset you, it's best to just avoid these threads.

I personally find it funny.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like screwing a women the size of a man. Holding hands with man hands is creepy.

I am six foot two wife is five foot three

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of oddest threads on DCUM and I’m embarrassed to say I’ve read it all.

If you'd read it all you'd know this precise subject comes up once or twice a year, at least, and it's always like this.

This level of interest in how other couples look is mind-blowing. There is zero reason that anyone should concern themselves with this.

Have you been on this site before? Of course people are interested in other couples, of course they judge, etc. You cannot get worked up about this. If these opinions upset you, it's best to just avoid these threads.

I personally find it funny.

Well I find is extremely odd and kind of disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

You can't help your height but you can help who you choose to be with. Your DH chose a very short woman even though he is very tall. You chose a very tall man even though you are short. There's nothing wrong with it but it's interesting you were attracted to each other even though a big height differential can be very uncomfortable, especially up close. When I dated guys who were a foot taller than me, it was just physically uncomfortable to look up at him sometimes. I don't want to be craning my neck all the time, I assume a tall person wouldn't want to be stooping down all the time. It will also mean you are not comfortable in the same spaces. You'll have different preferences for homes and cars and strollers because you have different physical needs.

When I see couples with large height differentials like this, I do assume that the differential was itself a draw, which I do think reflects a desire for a big man/small woman dynamic. Because the height differential is inconvenient otherwise.

Honestly, there really isn't that big a problem. One could say it was small pototoes! I'm 5'2 and my dh is 6 feet. We share much more in common.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t like screwing a women the size of a man. Holding hands with man hands is creepy.

I am six foot two wife is five foot three

Closet gay eh

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Anonymous wrote:Truly desirable men have their pick and usually like variety when they are sowing their wild oats. They’re not scared of tall or obsessed by short any more than James Bond would be. I blame women who don’t understand the appeal of variety and can’t get excited about guys of different heights.

Why do you keep [wrongly] assuming that we are seeking out tall men? Is that a complex of yours because you are short? I dated and married plenty of short men. I happen to have a tall partner now but it has almost nothing to do with his height. I would love him the same if he was 10 inches shorter. Stop projecting your insecurities onto women and men you know nothing about.

That may be true, but in general there are more women into tall men than there are men who are into short women. There is plenty of dating app data that supports this.