why are short woman blamed for dating tall men ?

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IMO, a woman with a shorter man looks even more pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

+1 I feel like Xena Princess warrior on the inside. Unfortunately, I'm barely 5'. Doesn't stop me from having a strong personality who absolutely in no way defers to DH, who is 6'2". He knows I can take care of myself.

Right but if you had the exact same "strong personality" and were 6 inches taller, do you think your DH would still be into it?

Men LOVE a little woman who acts bossy and big. Why? Because they know she isn't. They are secure in the knowledge that they are *letting* her boss them around. Try being a very strong-willed, bossy woman who is 5'10" and tell me how men react.

Your short statures lets you get away with acting/feeling that way and still not being threatening to men.

Except you are still a betch - a short one, but still a betch.

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Anonymous wrote:The shorties always get very defensive about this subject on here. That's how you know you struck a nerve. If this was truly not a thing, people wouldn't get SO MAD at the implication.

We get, it y'all have a fetish. Just own it.

We get it, you're really dumb. Just own it.

You are resorting to name calling and taunting because you know I'm right and cannot make an argument to refute what I'm saying.

haahahha, you keep getting dumber with every comment. I'll have to show this to my tall partner tonight. We'll have a good laugh about it.

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Anonymous wrote:IMO, a woman with a shorter man looks even more pathetic.

If everything is in proportion, it does not look "pathetic" or like a circus act.

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Anonymous wrote:The shorties always get very defensive about this subject on here. That's how you know you struck a nerve. If this was truly not a thing, people wouldn't get SO MAD at the implication.

We get, it y'all have a fetish. Just own it.

Tall trolls can’t help but instigate. Short girls are the best.

Ironically, I'm not tall, I'm average height. But there's that fetish -- why are "short girls the best." What is best about them.

You all want it both ways. You love to giggle about how little you are, how your big tall husband is so tall he has to stoop to kiss you. You loooove being the little woman, it makes you feel dainty and feminine. But the moment someone calls this out for what it is (a fetish), you're so mad and hey, you can't help your height, and that is prejudiced!

Which is it? Are "short girls the best"? Or is height simply incidental? We both know the answer, don't we.

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Anonymous wrote:As a tall woman, I did find that most taller men preferred the shortest women they could find. I think the men liked the power dynamic, and didn't want a woman who was too much like an equal.

This dynamic absolutely exists for some people.

Hilarious some of you do not see it or deny it exists.

This is actually true - seems like a good ol' boy thing - wants to control his woman.

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Anonymous wrote:If there is too much of a height disparity, either way, it tends to look more like a circus act.

You sound like a clown so I guess you would know.

So defensive! Interesting.

[Anonymous]

I don't really like being short, and if I had sons, I didn't want them to be short as its such a disadvantage. Luckily, I fell in love with a 6'4 guy and our three teens are all taller than average.

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Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

+1 I feel like Xena Princess warrior on the inside. Unfortunately, I'm barely 5'. Doesn't stop me from having a strong personality who absolutely in no way defers to DH, who is 6'2". He knows I can take care of myself.

Right but if you had the exact same "strong personality" and were 6 inches taller, do you think your DH would still be into it?

Men LOVE a little woman who acts bossy and big. Why? Because they know she isn't. They are secure in the knowledge that they are *letting* her boss them around. Try being a very strong-willed, bossy woman who is 5'10" and tell me how men react.

Your short statures lets you get away with acting/feeling that way and still not being threatening to men.

Except you are still a betch - a short one, but still a betch.

I'm 5'4", you goof. Not tall, not short. But I call 'em like I see 'em, and I can see that your big ole husband has a shortie fetish and you looooove it. Makes you feel like a little girl on papa's knee.

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5'4 is kinda short.

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Anonymous wrote:The shorties always get very defensive about this subject on here. That's how you know you struck a nerve. If this was truly not a thing, people wouldn't get SO MAD at the implication.

We get, it y'all have a fetish. Just own it.

Tall trolls can’t help but instigate. Short girls are the best.

Ironically, I'm not tall, I'm average height. But there's that fetish -- why are "short girls the best." What is best about them.

You all want it both ways. You love to giggle about how little you are, how your big tall husband is so tall he has to stoop to kiss you. You loooove being the little woman, it makes you feel dainty and feminine. But the moment someone calls this out for what it is (a fetish), you're so mad and hey, you can't help your height, and that is prejudiced!

Which is it? Are "short girls the best"? Or is height simply incidental? We both know the answer, don't we.

oh honey, you have some things to work out, don't you. Belss your heart.

The only one bringing dainty and little woman is you. You're the obsessed one.

I'm 4.11 and was married to a man who was 5.3. Didn't work out. My now partner is 6 foot and he was married to a woman close to his height. Didn't work out. But sure, both of us have a fetish. We just married the wrong people to "look" right to idiots like you.

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Anonymous wrote:I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.

You are so far off the mark. I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic. I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you. Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime

+1 I feel like Xena Princess warrior on the inside. Unfortunately, I'm barely 5'. Doesn't stop me from having a strong personality who absolutely in no way defers to DH, who is 6'2". He knows I can take care of myself.

Right but if you had the exact same "strong personality" and were 6 inches taller, do you think your DH would still be into it?

Men LOVE a little woman who acts bossy and big. Why? Because they know she isn't. They are secure in the knowledge that they are *letting* her boss them around. Try being a very strong-willed, bossy woman who is 5'10" and tell me how men react.

Your short statures lets you get away with acting/feeling that way and still not being threatening to men.

DH has a type, but he's definitely dated taller women. But, his type is petite and darker coloring, which I am. His previous LTR was a petite dark blonde but taller than me.

DH is not bossy. He's rather passive. Maybe that's why it works. I don't appear threatening physically, to be sure, but I know my personality is. Have had several people tell me guys were scared of me in HS.

I find it hysterical that some (bitter) women are telling us what men really think and want, and even telling men what they really think or want. Too funny, and kinda pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:IMO, a woman with a shorter man looks even more pathetic.

If everything is in proportion, it does not look "pathetic" or like a circus act.

? how is a shorter man in "proportion" to a tall woman but a short woman is not in proportion to a tall man?

At the least, in our culture, the dynamic you mostly see is shorter woman/taller man, not the other way around.

Yet, I see short men with taller women all the time, and some of those men are not good looking nor are they that rich. I see it a lot more in the DC area than where I'm from originally out west. I was surprised to see such a dynamic here because it was rare to see that out west where I'm from.

Should I judge the tall woman and think, "Gosh, she must not be able to find a tall man who wants her, so she had to settle for a shortie."

I, as a short woman, don't even find those shorter men all that attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree OP; I’m 5’3 and while I’ve dated shorter guys (5’8-5’10) my serious relationships have been with men over 6’. Who pursued me by the way. My husband is 6’4.

Seethe.

I’m not seething. I’m the same height as you and am not attracted to men over 5’10”. 5’7” to 5’9” is best. Obviously if I meet someone I like and he happens to be really tall, it’s not a dealbreaker, but if I’m on an app and a man’s height is listed as 6’ or above, it’s an automatic left swipe.

I like looking like I fit with my partner.

You might be really happy, and that’s the most important thing, but a 13 inch height disparity doesn’t look good.

This is really weird and superficial. You sound like a very shallow person.

So much projection and hypocrisy going on here. On the one hand, women who are a foot shorter than their husbands are insisting that everyone else is jealous of them. On the other, they’re accusing others of being shallow and rude. Very odd.

There was perhaps one woman claiming that. The rest of us are wondering why you even care.

You need to stop assuming that multiple people agree with you and you’re all arguing with one person.

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Anonymous wrote:Tall gorgeous women are intimidating to men. Petite women are much less intimidating. I definitely agree with the power dynamics comments.

Men may think models are hot, but they don't have the confidence to go for them.

I've never heard anyone "blaming" short women for men's lack of confidence though. I've heard people say the same thing about white women/black men, but I've never heard anyone actually say it IRL.

I don’t find this to be true at all. I’ve dated some beautiful tall women and in no way felt intimidated. I do prefer the short ones like my wife.

Why do you prefer shorter women? Especially if you apparently dated some beautiful tall women?

It would be one thing if you said "oh I've dated tall women and short women, height wasn't a determining factor, it turned out I married a short woman." But you go out of your way to say you prefer short women. Why? Why didn't things work out with any of these gorgeous tall women you dated who didn't intimidate you in the least?

I think you like how being with a shorter woman makes you feel (big). You won't say that out loud, you won't even admit it on an anonymous website, but it just does not make sense to specifically *prefer* shorter woman as a taller man unless there is something about their shortness that appeals to you.

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Something about tiny hands or what?