Parents Self-Selecting Daughters with IVF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys are ick. Girls are better and more loving.

Are you a girl married to a girl?

[Anonymous]

I’m do not want my children to care for me when I am elderly. Sure, visits would be nice but actual hands-on care? No. Also I would love to be a mother-in-law, and if my DIL doesn’t want me overly involved, all the better. I don’t really want to raise infants/toddlers again. Visits are enough for me but I don’t want to be a main caregiver to young children when I am old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please I had my first child at Duke University Hospital in 1889. The handed me this book, https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/how-to-choose-the-sex-of-your-baby_landrum-b-shettles_david-m-rorvik/271037/item/3616816/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=high_vol_backlist_standard_shopping_customer_aquistion&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=659174113139&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwi_exBhA8EiwA_kU1Mms3XWyaFvLgQr1eFpGFUMPBCEP-rRVF_8_jVov8mkG5z1tgVmWm0hoCIbcQAvD_BwE#idiq=3616816&edition=2382153

Yeah?

[Anonymous]

I have a girl and a boy. My DD who I love and adore is much more challenging, defiant, hard headed, and oppositional practically from the day she was born. I have no worries that she will succeed in the real world once she’s left for college but I worry she will never come back. My DH and I believe she’s wanted to leave for college since she was 5. I never wanted or expected a mini me and I celebrate the young woman she is.

My son on the other hand is much more even keeled, is still independent but seems to enjoy spending time with family, kinder with friends and family. He’s also a big jock, so all the testosterone everywhere.

Gender stereotypes are just stereotypes. I read the entire article and if those women had a DD like mine instead of seeing the amazing person she is I worry they’d be too disappointed in the fantasy not being reality that the poor child would suffer and suffer greatly.

I had my children via PGD (which is what gender selection is, not sure why it isn’t mentioned even once in the article) IVF for a single cell mutation genetic disorder that had a 75% of inheritance. All I wanted were healthy babies. My insurance didn’t cover anything. It cost me about $150,000 for both successful pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

If you think the lopsided gender ratio in many colleges is bad now...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think the lopsided gender ratio in many colleges is bad now...

I don’t se a problem with this. The world is becoming a better place with this change.

[Anonymous]

If you have enough time and money to do ivf, you can select on iq, height, personality, mental health, physical health already. Certainly not fully accurate, but if you have 10 embryos it’s easy to identify which two have the best health profile. You can add on average 4 years to your future child’s life by choosing the best health profile over the worst. Predictive genomics is getting more accurate every year. I have often wondered if my own teens will do this for their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have enough time and money to do ivf, you can select on iq, height, personality, mental health, physical health already. Certainly not fully accurate, but if you have 10 embryos it’s easy to identify which two have the best health profile. You can add on average 4 years to your future child’s life by choosing the best health profile over the worst. Predictive genomics is getting more accurate every year. I have often wondered if my own teens will do this for their children.

I feel like people have a rosey view of IVF. I started the process at 36. Of two retrievals, 30+ eggs each retrieval we only got 1 euploid each time. There was no hundreds of embryos to decide between. So it's not like this concept is feasible for most people

[Anonymous]

I’ll admit it. I wanted a girl and would have had some initial disappointment about a boy. I just felt I’d be better at mothering a girl. Luckily I did have a girl. A crazy active one however!! I would not resort to IVF to pick a girl tho, but I get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have enough time and money to do ivf, you can select on iq, height, personality, mental health, physical health already. Certainly not fully accurate, but if you have 10 embryos it’s easy to identify which two have the best health profile. You can add on average 4 years to your future child’s life by choosing the best health profile over the worst. Predictive genomics is getting more accurate every year. I have often wondered if my own teens will do this for their children.

I feel like people have a rosey view of IVF. I started the process at 36. Of two retrievals, 30+ eggs each retrieval we only got 1 euploid each time. There was no hundreds of embryos to decide between. So it's not like this concept is feasible for most people

Did you do IVF for fertility issues? It's a different ballgame when fully elective with no fertility conditions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have enough time and money to do ivf, you can select on iq, height, personality, mental health, physical health already. Certainly not fully accurate, but if you have 10 embryos it’s easy to identify which two have the best health profile. You can add on average 4 years to your future child’s life by choosing the best health profile over the worst. Predictive genomics is getting more accurate every year. I have often wondered if my own teens will do this for their children.

I feel like people have a rosey view of IVF. I started the process at 36. Of two retrievals, 30+ eggs each retrieval we only got 1 euploid each time. There was no hundreds of embryos to decide between. So it's not like this concept is feasible for most people

Did you do IVF for fertility issues? It's a different ballgame when fully elective with no fertility conditions.

I have no issues with conceiving, no. I've conceived every single time I've tried which is 9 pregnancies now.

I have recurrent pregnancy loss. So I lose them later on. They told IVF would solve my issues. They were dead wrong.

[Anonymous]

I have a boy and a girl. That’s what I would have picked if I had done IVF and sex selection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit it. I wanted a girl and would have had some initial disappointment about a boy. I just felt I’d be better at mothering a girl. Luckily I did have a girl. A crazy active one however!! I would not resort to IVF to pick a girl tho, but I get it.

It’s okay, your daughter will be disappointed in you some day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have enough time and money to do ivf, you can select on iq, height, personality, mental health, physical health already. Certainly not fully accurate, but if you have 10 embryos it’s easy to identify which two have the best health profile. You can add on average 4 years to your future child’s life by choosing the best health profile over the worst. Predictive genomics is getting more accurate every year. I have often wondered if my own teens will do this for their children.

I feel like people have a rosey view of IVF. I started the process at 36. Of two retrievals, 30+ eggs each retrieval we only got 1 euploid each time. There was no hundreds of embryos to decide between. So it's not like this concept is feasible for most people

Did you do IVF for fertility issues? It's a different ballgame when fully elective with no fertility conditions.

I have no issues with conceiving, no. I've conceived every single time I've tried which is 9 pregnancies now.

I have recurrent pregnancy loss. So I lose them later on. They told IVF would solve my issues. They were dead wrong.

They really don’t know much when it comes to fertility and women’s health

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the one hand I find this revolting.

On the other hand, I totally get it. And it's actually not that different from animals where communities are comprised of mostly females with much fewer males who are needed for breeding, and then the males deemed less suitable for breeding are killed or expelled.

I don't know. Men and male aggression and the way testosterone tends to motivate men to behave in selfish, anti-communal ways kind of are a problem.

You can yell at me now.

Nah, I kinda like you. I don’t really agree that this is happening in all communities, but I can see how it happens in some - especially those where the women literally do everything - child rearing, birthing, caregiving, and are the primary bread winners. How are men more than sperm donors in those environments?