Parents Self-Selecting Daughters with IVF

[Anonymous]

Oh please I had my first child at Duke University Hospital in 1889. The handed me this book, https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/how-to-choose-the-sex-of-your-baby_landrum-b-shettles_david-m-rorvik/271037/item/3616816/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=high_vol_backlist_standard_shopping_customer_aquistion&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=659174113139&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwi_exBhA8EiwA_kU1Mms3XWyaFvLgQr1eFpGFUMPBCEP-rRVF_8_jVov8mkG5z1tgVmWm0hoCIbcQAvD_BwE#idiq=3616816&edition=2382153

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found it interesting that one of the motivations was to have a connection with their kids in adulthood. It seems that boys aren’t as good at caring for their parents as they get older in their eyes but I don’t think that’s necessarily true.

Yes, I am raising boys and I hope we will always have a good relationship. Both of our boys' grandfathers cared for their elderly mothers, so it doesn't seem like a crazy expectation.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t do this, and I adore my sons (and my DD).

But girls are generally easier to raise, can do nearly anything that boys can do, are less “risky” in terms of turning out REALLY poorly (bell curve), & more likely to stay emotionally close to parents later in life. Outliers and anecdotal stories aside…if you were betting, girls would be the better bet.

This doesn’t surprise me.

And again - I would never do this myself unless there was a valid medical reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found it interesting that one of the motivations was to have a connection with their kids in adulthood. It seems that boys aren’t as good at caring for their parents as they get older in their eyes but I don’t think that’s necessarily true.

Sure, there are always exceptions to the rule. Doesn’t mean that on the whole, daughters are better to older parents than sons. My own parents keep lamenting the fact I don’t have a daughter.

[Anonymous]

Is this worse than when people keep “trying” for the other gender by having more babies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this worse than when people keep “trying” for the other gender by having more babies?

I don't think so. I think it's better to cut to the chase and get what you want than have multiple kids that are disappointments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please I had my first child at Duke University Hospital in 1889. The handed me this book, https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/how-to-choose-the-sex-of-your-baby_landrum-b-shettles_david-m-rorvik/271037/item/3616816/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=high_vol_backlist_standard_shopping_customer_aquistion&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=659174113139&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwi_exBhA8EiwA_kU1Mms3XWyaFvLgQr1eFpGFUMPBCEP-rRVF_8_jVov8mkG5z1tgVmWm0hoCIbcQAvD_BwE#idiq=3616816&edition=2382153

That is some impressive longevity 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found it interesting that one of the motivations was to have a connection with their kids in adulthood. It seems that boys aren’t as good at caring for their parents as they get older in their eyes but I don’t think that’s necessarily true.

Yes, I am raising boys and I hope we will always have a good relationship. Both of our boys' grandfathers cared for their elderly mothers, so it doesn't seem like a crazy expectation.

I have a boy and a girl and I don’t really expect to be closer to my girl as an adult. But like you, my father (not his older sister) was the primary caregiver to my grandmother in her old age so I don’t think it’s unreasonable for assume men can grow up to be loving and caring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Medical reasons are legitimate.

I used to think I would want only girls in the future, because our oldest is a boy with autism and ADHD, and that profile is more commonly found in boys...

...but then our second, a daughter, was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that our family is apparently predisposed to. Women are by far the main sufferers.

So now I suppose we shouldn't have any more children.

Sigh.

Is it by chance ankylosing spondylitis? DD has autism, my sister's son has ADHD and my sister has AS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Makes sense, daughters are far more likely to succeed in the US

+1 the human race can comfortably sustain itself with a ratio of 90% females to less than 10% males. Male embryos can then be carefully selected for the most desirable traits and health and the rest culled from the gene pool.

We do t need to ensure that every incel has a prospective mate

Could not agree more. The world would be such a better place.

So you don’t think the women want male spouses? They’ll be fighting over the few men available.

Not everyone is straight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found it interesting that one of the motivations was to have a connection with their kids in adulthood. It seems that boys aren’t as good at caring for their parents as they get older in their eyes but I don’t think that’s necessarily true.

I didn't have kids so they could care for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Medical reasons are legitimate.

I used to think I would want only girls in the future, because our oldest is a boy with autism and ADHD, and that profile is more commonly found in boys...

...but then our second, a daughter, was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that our family is apparently predisposed to. Women are by far the main sufferers.

So now I suppose we shouldn't have any more children.

Sigh.

You probably shouldn’t have even had the two you did. What was your motivation?

I didn’t know at the time they were conceived, you blithering idiot! I don’t have this auto-immune disease, but now I know I’m a carrier. The autism is on my husband’s side, and my son has the only diagnosed case - others are “odd”, but in their home country they don’t run out to get evaluated…

What a moron you are.

[Anonymous]

I have only boys and the idea of selecting females for the purpose of making the world a better place makes me laugh.

Not only would that go wrong but can you imagine those men? Talk about peacocks. They would be insufferable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I found it interesting that one of the motivations was to have a connection with their kids in adulthood. It seems that boys aren’t as good at caring for their parents as they get older in their eyes but I don’t think that’s necessarily true.

Yes, I am raising boys and I hope we will always have a good relationship. Both of our boys' grandfathers cared for their elderly mothers, so it doesn't seem like a crazy expectation.

Good luck. That’s great that men in your family have stepped up, but it’s highly unusual.

When I look at my own friends and family I only know one man who would possibly take care of his mother one day. One.

Consider how men don’t even take long, if any, parental leave after their wife has a baby. You think these same men will provide unpaid care later for a parent? They will be busy working which was their excuse when the baby came and they returned to work.

There are a lot of cultural and societal dynamics at play and having a male child take care of elderly parents is highly unusual.

[Anonymous]

We did this. Sorry not sorry.

Girls have fewer behavioral issues and are less likely to get in trouble. They can have male and female interests. They are typically more helpful at home and stay close to their parents throughout their life. I’m