Got super drunk at a friend's house last night - apologize?

[Anonymous]

It’s ok. You are fine. I’m sure your friend understands. You apologized. Do not worry about it anymore. (This is something that would happen with my friends and I wouldn’t be offended at all if it happened at my house).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet your friend was honored you felt comfortable enough to be this way around her. I see this as the beginning of an amazing friendship!

This is a ridiculous fantasy idea. Not real. Honored? LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short: DH lost his job, I'm waiting for some medical results, my kid was just diagnosed with a learning disability and needs pretty structured and expensive remediation, work is so stressful, blah blah...Hung out with friends last night and got blitzed. Tears, crying, oversharing, then I threw up in her bathroom. I woke up this morning mortified. It's a mom-friend whom I know well but I would never, ever have behaved like that "normally." Her husband ended up driving me home.
I texted her this morning apologizing and she was really gracious about it but I still feel like a gigantic ball of cringe. Should I do anything else, like show up with a gift card or flowers? We go out together a lot and I've just never been like this; I'm sure the whole scene was totally jarring. It was for me. Ugh ugh ugh ugh.

Unless you vomited in their floor let it go and watch yourself next time.

Yikes! Reread. You did puke. That’s pretty bad. Who drinks so much they vomit? Alcoholic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

This, 1000%. And this is why do many on DCUM and in DC din't have close friends. Because they won't ever be vulnerable or ugly (even for a second or for a tiny crack) and they don't like it when others are vulnerable either.

Clearly there are 2 types of us on this thread. Those of us who appreciate this vulnerable display, wouldn't let this phase us and would find this a bonding experience. And those of us who would be disgusted by this show of weakness. You're going to have to hope that your friend is the former! As someone who is in the former, I would firmly say --don't send flowers or a plant or chocolates. That would make me feel super awkward as I'd be completely ok with (in fact as another poster said--almost honored by) what happened. Patching it up with a plant comes off as you saying "oh shoot. I was weak and showed that I needed you. Now let me put my armor back up". Just let it ride--you apologized. That was certainly needed but it is enough.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP, you're under a TON of stress. I'd rather you puke in my bathroom and overshare than you scream at your husband or hit your kid, or crash your car, or whatever.

It's a good idea to show up with a beautiful potted plant and a nice box of chocolates (no alcohol ), and apologize again, face-to-face, and thank her husband for driving you home.

I hope things get better for you rapidly!

As drunk as she was she would have crashed her car if her friend hadn't had her husband her hone
OP, do not be surprised if this friendship is kaput ! Drunk men are bad but drunk women are gross and disgusting.

Wow, you sound like a peach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

Agree with this completely.

OP, sorry for what you are going through. Hope things get better. Try not to feel bad about what happened.

[Anonymous]

Do not show up at their house! They've had enough of you for a bit.

If I was your friend I would be understanding and graciously accept your apology and laugh it off. No big deal! I have been on both sides of this.

But i would not have anything left in my social gas tank to deal with you the very next day.

If you stop by, wait until Wednesday evening or next weekend.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry op. I would certainly forgive you. Stop beating yourself up, and don’t make a habit of this type of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your anxiety is the hangover talking. You’ve got enough on your plate to waste energy worrying about this. If she’s a true friend, she won’t give it a second thought.

This

The hangover causes massive anxiety. It’s probably not as bad as you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

Agree with this completely.

OP, sorry for what you are going through. Hope things get better. Try not to feel bad about what happened.

+1. I know people ostracized for far, far, far less OP, you are fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

Agree with this completely.

OP, sorry for what you are going through. Hope things get better. Try not to feel bad about what happened.

+1. I know people ostracized for far, far, far less OP, you are fine.

If you know people who are ostracized for less, then OP isn’t fine.

[Anonymous]

Op, it’s fine. Forgive yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

Agree with this completely.

OP, sorry for what you are going through. Hope things get better. Try not to feel bad about what happened.

+1. I know people ostracized for far, far, far less OP, you are fine.

If you know people who are ostracized for less, then OP isn’t fine.

Yeah—the pp’s comment made no sense. But on the subject of ostracism—people are usually ostracized for being jerks, not for having moments of weakness. OP, you are fine. No more apologies. Anyone I know would have forgiven and forgotten immediately.

[Anonymous]

I had over a group of friends and 2 were over served. It’s become a funny memory and we all laugh about it. Really, not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I would arrange for a cleaning lady to go to their house