Got super drunk at a friend's house last night - apologize?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP, you're under a TON of stress. I'd rather you puke in my bathroom and overshare than you scream at your husband or hit your kid, or crash your car, or whatever.

It's a good idea to show up with a beautiful potted plant and a nice box of chocolates (no alcohol ), and apologize again, face-to-face, and thank her husband for driving you home.

I hope things get better for you rapidly!

Why would she hit her kid or scream at her husband even if she didn’t get drunk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP, you're under a TON of stress. I'd rather you puke in my bathroom and overshare than you scream at your husband or hit your kid, or crash your car, or whatever.

It's a good idea to show up with a beautiful potted plant and a nice box of chocolates (no alcohol ), and apologize again, face-to-face, and thank her husband for driving you home.

I hope things get better for you rapidly!

Why would she hit her kid or scream at her husband even if she didn’t get drunk?

Well, that's what a lot of men do. Maybe not a lot of women. When people are under a lot of stress, they start cracking.

It's nice you don't know this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP, you're under a TON of stress. I'd rather you puke in my bathroom and overshare than you scream at your husband or hit your kid, or crash your car, or whatever.

It's a good idea to show up with a beautiful potted plant and a nice box of chocolates (no alcohol ), and apologize again, face-to-face, and thank her husband for driving you home.

I hope things get better for you rapidly!

Why would she hit her kid or scream at her husband even if she didn’t get drunk?

Well, that's what a lot of men do. Maybe not a lot of women. When people are under a lot of stress, they start cracking.

It's nice you don't know this

And a lot of men don’t do that.
A lot of women do.
You’re a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP, you're under a TON of stress. I'd rather you puke in my bathroom and overshare than you scream at your husband or hit your kid, or crash your car, or whatever.

It's a good idea to show up with a beautiful potted plant and a nice box of chocolates (no alcohol ), and apologize again, face-to-face, and thank her husband for driving you home.

I hope things get better for you rapidly!

Why would she hit her kid or scream at her husband even if she didn’t get drunk?

Well, that's what a lot of men do. Maybe not a lot of women. When people are under a lot of stress, they start cracking.

It's nice you don't know this

My father never did this, nor my spouse. You’re a man hater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

This. But also don’t make a habit of being a drunk scene. Next time keep it to one glass of wine.

[Anonymous]

I feel like this has been every one of my friends at some point, and probably me. People go through stuff, and sometimes we do stupid stuff to deal. I'm sure it's no big deal at all. You apologized, try not to do it again for awhile, and know that she may at some point gently tease you about being a lush. (Laugh it off.)

[Anonymous]

This has happened to me, to my friends, 1 bazilllion times since the beginning of ever. If I were your friend, you would be instantly forgiven.

Couple things though:
Check on your alcohol consumption, even if this isn't regular, do you recognize the feelings you ended up feeling?
The shame, embarrassment, etc, are they out of order to the situation? If so, you need to think about the shame/bad feelings in relation to your family of origin. You remind me of me, beating myself up in times of stress because I never had any comfort when stressed as a child. Instead I was berated and always made to feel ashamed, even when it wasn't my fault, even when it wasn't a big deal. It is rough.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be too hard on yourself OP. ❤️‍🩹

You are going through a rough time right now & you slipped up…..
We all have BTDT trust me.

You did the right thing by apologizing which bodes well for you.
Other than that - I would not drag it out any further by offering anything else.

The sooner everyone (including you!) forgets >> the sooner everyone will have moved on from this.

Yes (!!) -> this also includes you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short: DH lost his job, I'm waiting for some medical results, my kid was just diagnosed with a learning disability and needs pretty structured and expensive remediation, work is so stressful, blah blah...Hung out with friends last night and got blitzed. Tears, crying, oversharing, then I threw up in her bathroom. I woke up this morning mortified. It's a mom-friend whom I know well but I would never, ever have behaved like that "normally." Her husband ended up driving me home.
I texted her this morning apologizing and she was really gracious about it but I still feel like a gigantic ball of cringe. Should I do anything else, like show up with a gift card or flowers? We go out together a lot and I've just never been like this; I'm sure the whole scene was totally jarring. It was for me. Ugh ugh ugh ugh.

OP if it makes you feel better, my dear friend’s husband got very drunk and threw up in our guest bathroom during a wine tasting we were hosting. He had a job, was not waiting for medical results, did not have a kid with a learning disability, and he wasn’t my favorite person to begin with. But I wasn’t mad at all. I felt bad for my friend because she felt so bad, but we have all had lapses of judgment at one time or another. And you had a good excuse! So I would send a box of chocolates or flowers or whatever if you want to, but I’m sure your friend still loves and cares about you.

[Anonymous]

This is not a big deal. You’re going through a tough time and had too much to drink. The fact that (1) you over shared and (2) you’ve been out with her a bunch and this has never happened means that she will totally get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this has been every one of my friends at some point, and probably me. People go through stuff, and sometimes we do stupid stuff to deal. I'm sure it's no big deal at all. You apologized, try not to do it again for awhile, and know that she may at some point gently tease you about being a lush. (Laugh it off.)

Same. Me and my friends are open books. The people you have to worry about are those that blow things out of proportion, or try to sweep major things under the rug. If your friend said you are fine, you are fine, OP. Maybe work out instead of drink.

[Anonymous]

Learn better coping mechanisms and stop drinking. You should be embarrassed, as you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short: DH lost his job, I'm waiting for some medical results, my kid was just diagnosed with a learning disability and needs pretty structured and expensive remediation, work is so stressful, blah blah...Hung out with friends last night and got blitzed. Tears, crying, oversharing, then I threw up in her bathroom. I woke up this morning mortified. It's a mom-friend whom I know well but I would never, ever have behaved like that "normally." Her husband ended up driving me home.
I texted her this morning apologizing and she was really gracious about it but I still feel like a gigantic ball of cringe. Should I do anything else, like show up with a gift card or flowers? We go out together a lot and I've just never been like this; I'm sure the whole scene was totally jarring. It was for me. Ugh ugh ugh ugh.

Unless you vomited in their floor let it go and watch yourself next time.

[Anonymous]

I bet your friend was honored you felt comfortable enough to be this way around her. I see this as the beginning of an amazing friendship!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet your friend was honored you felt comfortable enough to be this way around her. I see this as the beginning of an amazing friendship!

Honored that she puked in her house?