Got super drunk at a friend's house last night - apologize?

[Anonymous]

It’s ok OP, you are going through a lot. You don’t need to do anything else

[Anonymous]

They know why you were drinking. If I were the hostess I would not want you upset over that.

Please treat your self as kindly as you would treat someone in the same situation as you find yourself in.

[Anonymous]

I guess I’m in the minority but OP is way too old to be drinking enough to puke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short: DH lost his job, I'm waiting for some medical results, my kid was just diagnosed with a learning disability and needs pretty structured and expensive remediation, work is so stressful, blah blah...Hung out with friends last night and got blitzed. Tears, crying, oversharing, then I threw up in her bathroom. I woke up this morning mortified. It's a mom-friend whom I know well but I would never, ever have behaved like that "normally." Her husband ended up driving me home.
I texted her this morning apologizing and she was really gracious about it but I still feel like a gigantic ball of cringe. Should I do anything else, like show up with a gift card or flowers? We go out together a lot and I've just never been like this; I'm sure the whole scene was totally jarring. It was for me. Ugh ugh ugh ugh.

You apologized and she accepted. Leave it alone because the more you talk about it the harder it will be for her to forget. Also, stop drinking.

[Anonymous]

This just makes you human OP. I would use it as a warning sign though that alcohol and stress aren’t a good mix for you. I’d find some other outlet like exercise or gardening or whatever.

And you already apologized. Don’t keep bringing it up and making it more awkward. Let it die down. If your friend knows you aren’t normally like this, then it will just be a fluke occurrence.

[Anonymous]

I mean, they probably shouldn't have served you that much alcohol to begin with, but it's fine, send them some flowers, buy dinner the next time you go out, don't EVER do this again.

[Anonymous]

If she’s on DCUM then she knows how you feel now.

[Anonymous]

You should employ better coping mechanisms. The best thing you can do is ensure this will never happen again.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else there? Op, you need to apologize, individually, to every person who might have encountered you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m in the minority but OP is way too old to be drinking enough to puke.

I kinda agree. She's under no more stress than your average middle-age American. But like most American's OP doesn't have good coping tools.

However, I don't think she needs to keep apologizing.

If she totally wrecked the bathroom or ruined a rug I'd offer to replace that or pay for cleaning because that's what you do as an adult when you ruin something and apologize.

If no property was actually damaged, then the previous apology should suffice.

ANd in the future especially when at this friends house limit your breaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP, you're under a TON of stress. I'd rather you puke in my bathroom and overshare than you scream at your husband or hit your kid, or crash your car, or whatever.

It's a good idea to show up with a beautiful potted plant and a nice box of chocolates (no alcohol ), and apologize again, face-to-face, and thank her husband for driving you home.

I hope things get better for you rapidly!

As drunk as she was she would have crashed her car if her friend hadn't had her husband her hone
OP, do not be surprised if this friendship is kaput ! Drunk men are bad but drunk women are gross and disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They know why you were drinking. If I were the hostess I would not want you upset over that.

Please treat your self as kindly as you would treat someone in the same situation as you find yourself in.

If I had been the hostess, I would have stopped serving her alcoholic drinks but this for absolve OP. She made a fool.if herself and probably lost a friendship.

[Anonymous]

Oooof. Been there for sure and still cringe when I think about it. However, it didn’t affect the relationship I had with my friend. In fact it seemed to make her like me and trust me a bit more.

I wouldn’t get her anything and wouldn’t apologize again. It’s embarrassing but it happens to the best of us. Just try to let it go and be gentle with yourself. You have a lot going on!

[Anonymous]

So tacky get it together.

[Anonymous]

Tell your husband because your friend's husband is likely to ask him if you were call right the next day.