Got super drunk at a friend's house last night - apologize?

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Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

This. Get her (and her husband) something non-alcoholic if you want, and be grateful you have such good friends. Hugs.

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Anonymous wrote:I would arrange for a cleaning lady to go to their house

For what? To clean where you barfed? What if they have their own cleaning person. Not a good idea. I wouldn’t want you sending a cleaning person to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I would arrange for a cleaning lady to go to their house

For what? To clean where you barfed? What if they have their own cleaning person. Not a good idea. I wouldn’t want you sending a cleaning person to me.

Umm yeah, clean where they barfed. It’s gross and unsanitary. You should def send a cleaning lady. They probably don’t want to use that bathroom. And buy them new towels and mats.

[Anonymous]

It is okay.

You are human, and good people will cut you slack (because they have had their own bad days),

This might be a warning though that you need outside support (therapy? Family support?).

I hope that the clouds pass quickly in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short: DH lost his job, I'm waiting for some medical results, my kid was just diagnosed with a learning disability and needs pretty structured and expensive remediation, work is so stressful, blah blah...Hung out with friends last night and got blitzed. Tears, crying, oversharing, then I threw up in her bathroom. I woke up this morning mortified. It's a mom-friend whom I know well but I would never, ever have behaved like that "normally." Her husband ended up driving me home.
I texted her this morning apologizing and she was really gracious about it but I still feel like a gigantic ball of cringe. Should I do anything else, like show up with a gift card or flowers? We go out together a lot and I've just never been like this; I'm sure the whole scene was totally jarring. It was for me. Ugh ugh ugh ugh.

Unless you vomited in their floor let it go and watch yourself next time.

Yikes! Reread. You did puke. That’s pretty bad. Who drinks so much they vomit? Alcoholic?

It's usually the people who don't drink a lot often who are the pukers. Alcoholics can usually hold down a lot of liquor.

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Anonymous wrote:I would arrange for a cleaning lady to go to their house

For what? To clean where you barfed? What if they have their own cleaning person. Not a good idea. I wouldn’t want you sending a cleaning person to me.

Umm yeah, clean where they barfed. It’s gross and unsanitary. You should def send a cleaning lady. They probably don’t want to use that bathroom. And buy them new towels and mats.

This is silly. I’m picky about cleanliness and if a friend barfed in my bathroom I would clean up and not worry about it.

OP, you deserve the grace you probably give your friends!

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OP, if you’d done this at my house, I’d have assured you that I’ve been there too and there’s nothing to apologize for! The more important thing is how you’re doing otherwise - sounds like a lot on your plate. I hope things look brighter soon.

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Anonymous wrote:I would arrange for a cleaning lady to go to their house

For what? To clean where you barfed? What if they have their own cleaning person. Not a good idea. I wouldn’t want you sending a cleaning person to me.

Umm yeah, clean where they barfed. It’s gross and unsanitary. You should def send a cleaning lady. They probably don’t want to use that bathroom. And buy them new towels and mats.

This is silly. I’m picky about cleanliness and if a friend barfed in my bathroom I would clean up and not worry about it.

OP, you deserve the grace you probably give your friends!

Meh. If you vomit all over my bathroom I am going to be livid bc of how much I’m going to need to scrub and clean it. A cleaning lady is an appropriate response.

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Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

Agree with this completely.

OP, sorry for what you are going through. Hope things get better. Try not to feel bad about what happened.

+1. I know people ostracized for far, far, far less OP, you are fine.

If you know people who are ostracized for less, then OP isn’t fine.

I said so because OP's seems like she has stable, forgiving friends who have seen it all, and don't live in a bubble.

[Anonymous]

OP you seem to have a drinking problem.

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Did the husband band you in the car?

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Anonymous wrote:I would arrange for a cleaning lady to go to their house

For what? To clean where you barfed? What if they have their own cleaning person. Not a good idea. I wouldn’t want you sending a cleaning person to me.

Umm yeah, clean where they barfed. It’s gross and unsanitary. You should def send a cleaning lady. They probably don’t want to use that bathroom. And buy them new towels and mats.

This is silly. I’m picky about cleanliness and if a friend barfed in my bathroom I would clean up and not worry about it.

OP, you deserve the grace you probably give your friends!

Meh. If you vomit all over my bathroom I am going to be livid bc of how much I’m going to need to scrub and clean it. A cleaning lady is an appropriate response.

She didn't barf all over the bathroom. Come on now. When friends spill wine on your floor, or poo in your toilet, or drop chocolate cake on your carpet, do you expect them to hire a cleaner?

And how do you get a cleaner to just do a bathroom?

Trust me .most NORMAL people would feel like they are dealing with insanity if the OP sent over a cleaner.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would arrange for a cleaning lady to go to their house

For what? To clean where you barfed? What if they have their own cleaning person. Not a good idea. I wouldn’t want you sending a cleaning person to me.

Umm yeah, clean where they barfed. It’s gross and unsanitary. You should def send a cleaning lady. They probably don’t want to use that bathroom. And buy them new towels and mats.

This is silly. I’m picky about cleanliness and if a friend barfed in my bathroom I would clean up and not worry about it.

OP, you deserve the grace you probably give your friends!

Meh. If you vomit all over my bathroom I am going to be livid bc of how much I’m going to need to scrub and clean it. A cleaning lady is an appropriate response.

Presumably she just threw up into the toilet.

Hiring a cleaner or sending flowers or whatever would just take an unfortunate situation into extremely weird territory

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You were overserved. Everyone goofed.