Got super drunk at a friend's house last night - apologize?

[Anonymous]

Long story short: DH lost his job, I'm waiting for some medical results, my kid was just diagnosed with a learning disability and needs pretty structured and expensive remediation, work is so stressful, blah blah...Hung out with friends last night and got blitzed. Tears, crying, oversharing, then I threw up in her bathroom. I woke up this morning mortified. It's a mom-friend whom I know well but I would never, ever have behaved like that "normally." Her husband ended up driving me home.
I texted her this morning apologizing and she was really gracious about it but I still feel like a gigantic ball of cringe. Should I do anything else, like show up with a gift card or flowers? We go out together a lot and I've just never been like this; I'm sure the whole scene was totally jarring. It was for me. Ugh ugh ugh ugh.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP please stop beating yourself up.

You had a lot going on.

No one was hurt. These are your friends. People have crappy days. You did and luckily you were with friends got home safe, etc..

[Anonymous]

Did you come on to the husband? If not, flowers should do the trick.

[Anonymous]

Oh, OP, you're under a TON of stress. I'd rather you puke in my bathroom and overshare than you scream at your husband or hit your kid, or crash your car, or whatever.

It's a good idea to show up with a beautiful potted plant and a nice box of chocolates (no alcohol ), and apologize again, face-to-face, and thank her husband for driving you home.

I hope things get better for you rapidly!

[Anonymous]

This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

[Anonymous]

I would try to buck up and move on. You’ve already apologized and if you keep doing so you’re putting her in the position of having to continually reassure you. Under no circumstances “show up there” with flowers! And never, ever have more than single hlasd of wine at her house again. Good luck-the cringe will fade!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would try to buck up and move on. You’ve already apologized and if you keep doing so you’re putting her in the position of having to continually reassure you. Under no circumstances “show up there” with flowers! And never, ever have more than single hlasd of wine at her house again. Good luck-the cringe will fade!

I agree with this! This is not unique- a lot of people have unfortunately been there and you are probably the only one thinking about it. I wouldn’t prolong it with more apologies. I hope things start turning your way soon!

[Anonymous]

Your anxiety is the hangover talking. You’ve got enough on your plate to waste energy worrying about this. If she’s a true friend, she won’t give it a second thought.

[Anonymous]

I’d send her a new bathroom rug

[Anonymous]

Yes to the anxiety coming from the hangover. Dont worry about it. It sounds like you gave a heartfelt apology, and she accepted it with grace. Time to give yourself some grace!

I'd be weirded out if someone showed up to my house with a plant after a party where you cried. No need.

[Anonymous]

If it’s an actual friend and not just an acquaintance then one apology is enough. Just don’t do it again (at least not for several years).

[Anonymous]

Don't do any more apologizing.

Don't ever do that again around the same friend.

[Anonymous]

Stop worrying about it. Imagine if you were the other mom. If I was her, I would feel bad for you but but not think differently if you. Hope things start looking up. Sometimes we need to just let loose. Life is stressful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This how you make close friends, by exposing yourself and trusting others. Try to pay it back by being there for her. Hope things get better for you.

+100. Were human.

[Anonymous]

You did what a lot of people would do in such a stressful situation (me included!). Don’t beat yourself up. Rest up: tomorrow’s a new day.