Friend with low-key WFH job doesn't get it

[Anonymous]

I would ask this woman to put in a referral for you at her company!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I think she's trying to sympathize, but you're very sensitive and insecure about your work and you can't process her comments the right way.

I don’t know, she doesn’t seem sympathetic. Maybe socially awkward best case scenario. I am the one at the bus stop with the super flexible WAH job and I would never make comments like this to a work in office mom.

One of my neighbors has to commute to DC a couple times per week. On those days I’m happy to have her drop off her kid at my house 15 min early and walk him to the bus stop so she can get a head start (our kids are friends). I will sometimes tell her I like her outfit when she’s dressed up for a meeting. I think that is how you support another mom.

Not with stupid comments about how much their commute sucks. Like I’m sure the commute does suck for most people. Why comment on it?

[Anonymous]

I would just jokingly respond with "Well, that's why I get paid the big bucks!" and let her stew on that.

[Anonymous]

Well she’s right that you’re a sucker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well she’s right that you’re a sucker

this. LOL

Why have kids if you are just going to work all the time and have other people raise them. Just because that's what most people are doing in this area, doesn't mean you're doing it right.

[Anonymous]

I just think people forget what other schedules are like sometimes.

My teacher friends are always saying how lucky I am to work at home and how easy it must be- which I agree with and say yes, I am very lucky ...then they ask what I am doing for summer break or anytime school is closed for longer periods (winter, spring, etc). Um Jan... I am working. My kid is in camp. I dont have any leave because we take leave for every random day school is closed or has a 3 hr dismissal.

It doesnt sound like a purposefully hurtful statement, more just unaware.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would either say, “ack, don’t remind me!” every time she says it till she stops, or if you want to be a little more acidic, I’d say something like “Thank goodness! I would go crazy if I had up be here all the time!” Smile brightly.

Pls do NOT use “ack”. It is very annoying.

[Anonymous]

You should report her to her employer for not actually working.

I forget that you work Larla, since I always see you out and about doing XYZ…

[Anonymous]

She must be my out of touch colleague. She is being phased out and will be fired soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think she's trying to sympathize, but you're very sensitive and insecure about your work and you can't process her comments the right way.

I don’t know, she doesn’t seem sympathetic. Maybe socially awkward best case scenario. I am the one at the bus stop with the super flexible WAH job and I would never make comments like this to a work in office mom.

One of my neighbors has to commute to DC a couple times per week. On those days I’m happy to have her drop off her kid at my house 15 min early and walk him to the bus stop so she can get a head start (our kids are friends). I will sometimes tell her I like her outfit when she’s dressed up for a meeting. I think that is how you support another mom.

Not with stupid comments about how much their commute sucks. Like I’m sure the commute does suck for most people. Why comment on it?

I love this - this is how you help another mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she’s right that you’re a sucker

this. LOL

Why have kids if you are just going to work all the time and have other people raise them. Just because that's what most people are doing in this area, doesn't mean you're doing it right.

Oh please. I am absolutely raising my kids. A parent drops them off and picks them up every single day. There are tons of people who are great parents who work in person. Get real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she’s right that you’re a sucker

this. LOL

Why have kids if you are just going to work all the time and have other people raise them. Just because that's what most people are doing in this area, doesn't mean you're doing it right.

Oh please. I am absolutely raising my kids. A parent drops them off and picks them up every single day. There are tons of people who are great parents who work in person. Get real.

Yea maybe on weekends LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would either say, “ack, don’t remind me!” every time she says it till she stops, or if you want to be a little more acidic, I’d say something like “Thank goodness! I would go crazy if I had up be here all the time!” Smile brightly.

Pls do NOT use “ack”. It is very annoying.

Aaaaaaack

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she’s right that you’re a sucker

this. LOL

Why have kids if you are just going to work all the time and have other people raise them. Just because that's what most people are doing in this area, doesn't mean you're doing it right.

Oh please. I am absolutely raising my kids. A parent drops them off and picks them up every single day. There are tons of people who are great parents who work in person. Get real.

Yea maybe on weekends LOL

Are you spending more time with your elementary school kids than someone who drops them in the am and meets them in the pm? The only difference is the work in office mom is making money for her family while you go to yoga and organize your closets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she’s right that you’re a sucker

this. LOL

Why have kids if you are just going to work all the time and have other people raise them. Just because that's what most people are doing in this area, doesn't mean you're doing it right.

Oh please. I am absolutely raising my kids. A parent drops them off and picks them up every single day. There are tons of people who are great parents who work in person. Get real.

Yea maybe on weekends LOL

Are you spending more time with your elementary school kids than someone who drops them in the am and meets them in the pm? The only difference is the work in office mom is making money for her family while you go to yoga and organize your closets.

Think you missed the original point