Friend bringing kids and dogs on our girls weekend trip

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if she is your friend, and she is having a rough time of it, you just support her, and try to have fun. It's just a weekend.

This.

+1 I think that's right. This s**ks for both of you - and she's your friend, and it sounds like she is doing her best to make this work. Plan another weekend away that's just you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t share the room. Bring your kids too. Going away on a girls trip over memorial day, for 4 days, is kind of weird.

House accommodates 4, doubt the owner would be thrilled to bend the rules to accommodate 2 adults, 2+ kids and a dog.

[Anonymous]

Refund her money, get another friend, and go. Too bad for this flaky friend, but nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t share the room. Bring your kids too. Going away on a girls trip over memorial day, for 4 days, is kind of weird.

House accommodates 4, doubt the owner would be thrilled to bend the rules to accommodate 2 adults, 2+ kids and a dog.

Next time plan trips when single mom doesn’t have kids for the weekend. Trying to do this over a holiday weekend was never a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a tough situation. I think if you cancel on the friend, it’s probably the end of the friendship. She obviously doesn’t think there’s anything wrong in just announcing this.
If I valued the friendship, I would go but insist on my own room. Do you have kids? Maybe I’d bring my kids too and just make it a mother / child trip.
Then I would never do another trip with her again.

+1

[Anonymous]

I would be more upset that she texted this to you and didn't call and talk this through. That's really rude. I get that she's in a tough spot but she should have called, presented all of the options that others have presented here and leave the decision up to you. If you decide to tell her that you are going alone, bringing someone else, etc, you shouldn't feel bad about it as she was rude to just tell you what the new plans are over text.

I also agree that if you don't suck it up and do this, you will likely lose/damage this friendship. So, make your decision with that in mind.

But do not share a room. She needs to figure it out but that would be completely out of line.

[Anonymous]

You are both weird. You don't like her enough to go with her and her kids. She is a single mother with fairly young kids and that would have been on my mind the whole time with a back-up plan.
She is too broke to have a dog and you can't afford to help her with any expenses. You can probably barely afford going yourself.
You two have no business going anywhere unless you'll be tending bar at the beach.

[Anonymous]

Can the dog be boarded or someone come to your friend's house to watch the dog? I would offer to pay the difference after $150 since that is the pet fee for the rental.

With the kids they stay in mom's room. You get your own room.

Tell your friend that you will be doing a few things solo throughout the day and you two can catch up later in the evening after the kids are asleep.

Never plan another vacation with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I believe it was her sister who was supposed to sit for the kids and dog, and I don’t think she pays her. I don’t think she has or knows else to watch them.

I do like the air mattress idea. But the vibe of this getaway will completely change. When kids are involved, everything revolves around their needs, which was the intent of a “getaway” to begin with.

There is a no way you're a parent if you think someone just finds a "sitter" for 4 days over a holiday weekend. Most everyone else has their own plans then. Hiring someone for 4 day should be insanely expensive and it sounds like there are financial issues. You should have been more concerned about her child care plan if you wanted to pull this off. Sounds like this was not a very well thought out plan.

[Anonymous]

Op, take your kids along, too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up. There is no such thing as a girls trip when people have children.

LMAO. I’ve gone on several trips with other moms. It’s called a husband, grandparents, babysitter, etc., to watch the kids. Sorry if you’ve isolated yourself and deluded yourself to the point where you don’t think other moms have freedom, but we do.

And you all are desperate wannabe cougars who will be divorcees.

Sad when you want to bring other women down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, take your kids along, too!

Can you read? It’s a two-bedroom house. That means it’s not very big.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up. There is no such thing as a girls trip when people have children.

LMAO. I’ve gone on several trips with other moms. It’s called a husband, grandparents, babysitter, etc., to watch the kids. Sorry if you’ve isolated yourself and deluded yourself to the point where you don’t think other moms have freedom, but we do.

Not going on trips means no freedom? Sorry you’ve isolated and deluded yourself to the point where you don’t think other moms don’t have freedom, but we do.

I feel really bad for you if you never go on a girls’ trip. I guess you’re one of those moms who has no friends and has no idea what to do with herself when her kids leave the nest. Are you also divorced?

I really feel bad for you if you need to go on girls’ trips to be happy. Not divorced, but you will be.

No, I won’t. I don’t know what you are missing: friends, money, a good husband, a network of friends and family, or an identity of your own outside of motherhood, but if you are never going on girls’ trips, you are missing at least one of those things. It sounds to me like you have no friends and no identity outside of motherhood. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Wow. Is this now the usual relationship between old, close friends? These posts make me so sad. The normal response should be something like... "oh no, i'm so sorry you're stuck with bringing the kids and dog. don't worry, we can still have lots of fun. i'll bring a few more bottles of wine and grab some of the good tequila at liquor store. do you have any air mattresses? if not, i can bring mine. the kids can sleep in the living room. have your kids ever played taco/goat/cheese/pizza? i'll bring a set!"

Yes, it is frustrating and disappointing. But you should make the best of it in support of your good, close friend. Because that is what good, close friends do for one another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, take your kids along, too!

Can you read? It’s a two-bedroom house. That means it’s not very big.

We can tell OP doesn't have kids or none of this would have been a surprise. So she either sucks it up and goes or finds someone else and cancels on her "friend."