Difficult ex wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should your ex babysit while you go on a date? Grow up! Get a babysitter. Or date when you don’t have the kids.

This. You’re infantile OP. And also, if you can’t figure out that divorced mothers still care who is around their children you are a few bricks short of a load. Do you have Asperger’s or high functioning autism perchance?

That or another troll post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you TELL her that you were asking her to take the kids because you had a date to go on? You were inviting drama. It's ridiculous but you should not have done that.

Hopefully things will calm down but wisen up. And you really should be using your time with the kids to spend with the kids, not on dates.

My friend's ex always pulled stunts like OP did (ask a recent ex to babysit during his parenting time and make sure she knew it was because he had a date). Given that they had long been married, OP likely knew how she'd respond. My friend's ex was a sociopath and enjoyed the feeling of power and control he got from making her lose control, so he intentionally did things he knew would upset her just to watch her lose it and then bask in the power he still had over her and vent to our friends about it. His behavior was intentional and cruel, and it went on until our friend learned how to manage what little communication they needed to have to co-parent (grey rock, everything is recorded).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your life should be a complete black hole to your ex-w.

Don't talk about dating, don't talk about anything in your life except something that happens with the kids.

Also, don't date while you have the kids, date on the days you don't have them.

Just because your ex is a psycho doesn't mean you have to be an idiot.

Keep your side of the street clean.

Duh

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to date when you have the kids?

This. I would be devastated to see how much you are not putting the kids first already.

Divorced parents are allowed to date!!!

NP. He's welcome to date on his non-custodial days. Why not choose one of those instead?

The new date was just too hot to turn down for an asap evening. I’ll ping my ex again to see if she can rush over and grab the kids tonight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hate to tell you this, but you will NEVER have another relationship with a woman that will not be tainted by your ex and whatever her attitude is.

And your kids will be pawns in it.

She's already shown her hand. Rather than admit to herself she is jealous and deal with that emotion, she is using her rights as a mother to make demands that would restrict your rights as a father to be punitive, because you have the audacity to be thinking of eventually exposing HER kids to a woman you may have interest in.

Fair warning. No matter how old your children get, any of your future relationships (no matter how serious, to include remarriage) will never be free from your ex's influence, and how she influences the children.

And vice versa

Duh

You are coparenting forever! The four college years, young adulthood, weddings, grandkids, holidays.

Grow up and coparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you TELL her that you were asking her to take the kids because you had a date to go on? You were inviting drama. It's ridiculous but you should not have done that.

Hopefully things will calm down but wisen up. And you really should be using your time with the kids to spend with the kids, not on dates.

But OP's ex-wife is in a relationship herself. Why is she suddenly acting this way when OP finally is starting to date. Why would she even care????

I dont even want to overhear my coworkers dating lives, why would I want emails, texts and voicemails on my Ex’ dating life?
Go gossip with your gossip friends instead Op.

No gracias.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you TELL her that you were asking her to take the kids because you had a date to go on? You were inviting drama. It's ridiculous but you should not have done that.

Hopefully things will calm down but wisen up. And you really should be using your time with the kids to spend with the kids, not on dates.

But OP's ex-wife is in a relationship herself. Why is she suddenly acting this way when OP finally is starting to date. Why would she even care????

Because she still cares and is not ready for him to be moving on. HE should not be over HER yet!

lol

Who filed and did all the work here?

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for anyone going on dates with my ex. Buyer beware!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you TELL her that you were asking her to take the kids because you had a date to go on? You were inviting drama. It's ridiculous but you should not have done that.

Hopefully things will calm down but wisen up. And you really should be using your time with the kids to spend with the kids, not on dates.

But OP's ex-wife is in a relationship herself. Why is she suddenly acting this way when OP finally is starting to date. Why would she even care????

I don't know, maybe she is crazy, maybe OP is leaving out details. That's irrelevant to my point. OP should not have invited drama by *telling* his ex this information, especially because he was asking her to do work for him to go on a date when most good parents would be using their limited time with the kids to spend time with the kids. What OP did was dumb, full stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you TELL her that you were asking her to take the kids because you had a date to go on? You were inviting drama. It's ridiculous but you should not have done that.

Hopefully things will calm down but wisen up. And you really should be using your time with the kids to spend with the kids, not on dates.

But OP's ex-wife is in a relationship herself. Why is she suddenly acting this way when OP finally is starting to date. Why would she even care????

I don't know, maybe she is crazy, maybe OP is leaving out details. That's irrelevant to my point. OP should not have invited drama by *telling* his ex this information, especially because he was asking her to do work for him to go on a date when most good parents would be using their limited time with the kids to spend time with the kids. What OP did was dumb, full stop.

I too would be very curious to hear the ex’s side of the story. It does sound like she was very strongly triggered, but I wonder if the issues she is pursuing (custody and CS) are valid and this is just what pushed her over the edge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every woman that files for divorce thinks that not only she deserve better but is convinced that her next man will be an upgrade. You can thank our culture of giving every woman a queen crown whether deserved or not.

Most divorced moms don’t date the first year or two nor care to.

This post makes less and less sense.

Why is it even so long? Is the supposed male Op a YA writer?

She may have had an affair and she is now officially with the other guy. Women are very smart. They will make sure they have a plan in place before exiting the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Ok please folks explain this to me. Is OP’s ex wife in a relationship or no? If yes why does it matter what her ex husband is doing? I am really confused here by the women taking her side. I actually feel bad for the guy the ex wife is dating. I wonder if he knows about her reaction. And I hope if he finds out to take the exit ASAP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every woman that files for divorce thinks that not only she deserve better but is convinced that her next man will be an upgrade. You can thank our culture of giving every woman a queen crown whether deserved or not.

Most divorced moms don’t date the first year or two nor care to.

This post makes less and less sense.

Why is it even so long? Is the supposed male Op a YA writer?

She may have had an affair and she is now officially with the other guy. Women are very smart. They will make sure they have a plan in place before exiting the marriage.

Yes more fabrications needed. Anything is possible in DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok please folks explain this to me. Is OP’s ex wife in a relationship or no? If yes why does it matter what her ex husband is doing? I am really confused here by the women taking her side. I actually feel bad for the guy the ex wife is dating. I wonder if he knows about her reaction. And I hope if he finds out to take the exit ASAP.

Because mothers will always have a problem with any other woman who gets involved with her ex because she MIGHT be in a motherly-like position to her kids. Period.

I know a woman who had an AP and filed for divorce. Once the husband had moved out after being served, she immediately moved her AP into the family home with the minor children. No consultation with father of children was sought.

When father expressed concern about AP/strange man moving in and living with his kids, he was told to MYOB and that her relationship was none of his business. AP was paraded around to family events and was fully accepted by woman's friends and family, because she made it a point to tell them all how happy she was with him. Divorce case wasn't even finalized.

Several YEARS down the road father remarries. Mom begins to tacitly manipulate kids and tells them they no longer have to visit father since it's probably uncomfortable there with dad's new wife, that mom understands they don't like her and that's OK, that this woman cannot ever be a mom to them so don't refer to her as a step"mom," tells kids to return gifts from woman because they are inferior, etc.

Complete double-standard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every woman that files for divorce thinks that not only she deserve better but is convinced that her next man will be an upgrade. You can thank our culture of giving every woman a queen crown whether deserved or not.

Most divorced moms don’t date the first year or two nor care to.

This post makes less and less sense.

Why is it even so long? Is the supposed male Op a YA writer?

She may have had an affair and she is now officially with the other guy. Women are very smart. They will make sure they have a plan in place before exiting the marriage.

Lol

She may also be a difficult alien from another galaxy. Sleeping around here in earth after her failed marriage to OP.

Discuss.