Difficult ex wife

[Anonymous]

Sadly the kids also see the bad relationship pattern and fake behavior

[Anonymous]

OP good luck! I am counting the days my twin graduate college and I won’t see my ex wife ever again. I feel for you. I am dealing with a similar ex wife who has managed to sabotage many relationships that I have had since we divorced. She simply could not accept me being with another woman. I don’t see it’s a a gender thing. It’s a personality thing. For some people they just can’t let things go. And as people age, they enter a new phase in life where perhaps they get far less attention that they used to when they were younger and it bothers them. And unfortunately the legal system has limitations when it comes to exes who are not doing anything violent and/or illegal but are sabotaging your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women have a support network of other women giving empathy and telling them it isn't their fault (even when it is).

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok please folks explain this to me. Is OP’s ex wife in a relationship or no? If yes why does it matter what her ex husband is doing? I am really confused here by the women taking her side. I actually feel bad for the guy the ex wife is dating. I wonder if he knows about her reaction. And I hope if he finds out to take the exit ASAP.

Because mothers will always have a problem with any other woman who gets involved with her ex because she MIGHT be in a motherly-like position to her kids. Period.

I know a woman who had an AP and filed for divorce. Once the husband had moved out after being served, she immediately moved her AP into the family home with the minor children. No consultation with father of children was sought.

When father expressed concern about AP/strange man moving in and living with his kids, he was told to MYOB and that her relationship was none of his business. AP was paraded around to family events and was fully accepted by woman's friends and family, because she made it a point to tell them all how happy she was with him. Divorce case wasn't even finalized.

Several YEARS down the road father remarries. Mom begins to tacitly manipulate kids and tells them they no longer have to visit father since it's probably uncomfortable there with dad's new wife, that mom understands they don't like her and that's OK, that this woman cannot ever be a mom to them so don't refer to her as a step"mom," tells kids to return gifts from woman because they are inferior, etc.

Complete double-standard.

Wow. I am not surprised though. All women need to tell anyone who wants to her it about their AP is that they are NOW HAPPY. That will disarm most people from criticisms. If a man were in a reverse situation he would not get the same sympathy. Women have a monopoly on happiness.

You don't think that people accept men's affair partner's too? They do, and they don't even need to say they are happy. But it is especially true if they say they are happy. A lot of celebrities come to mind: Ryan Reynolds, Brat Pitt, Daniel Craig, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP good luck! I am counting the days my twin graduate college and I won’t see my ex wife ever again. I feel for you. I am dealing with a similar ex wife who has managed to sabotage many relationships that I have had since we divorced. She simply could not accept me being with another woman. I don’t see it’s a a gender thing. It’s a personality thing. For some people they just can’t let things go. And as people age, they enter a new phase in life where perhaps they get far less attention that they used to when they were younger and it bothers them. And unfortunately the legal system has limitations when it comes to exes who are not doing anything violent and/or illegal but are sabotaging your life.

How on earth does someone else successfully sabotage your own relationships? If it was false they’d look like a total loon.

Good luck with the holidays, weddings and grandkids!

[Anonymous]

I bet she is wondering what your new flame looks like. Is she prettier? Is she younger? Is she thinner. Women have far more insecurities about these things than men. Guys won’t loose if their 40 years old ex starts dating a 25 years old, but for women it’s a different story.

[Anonymous]

Keep your dating to weekends where she has the kids and then tell her to myofb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet she is wondering what your new flame looks like. Is she prettier? Is she younger? Is she thinner. Women have far more insecurities about these things than men. Guys won’t loose if their 40 years old ex starts dating a 25 years old, but for women it’s a different story.

Exactly. They can't handle it, no matter who the new GF is. Women are so insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet she is wondering what your new flame looks like. Is she prettier? Is she younger? Is she thinner. Women have far more insecurities about these things than men. Guys won’t loose if their 40 years old ex starts dating a 25 years old, but for women it’s a different story.

I’m 53 and never think about is she prettier is she thinner is she younger. I’m still thin and pretty myself. All I know, and all I need to know, is that she is dumber, more gullible, more naive. Time will do the rest of the work.