Rant: I stupidly picked a career that’s not family friendly
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Anonymous
What do you all think is more balanced? OP stated Law, which is laughable outside of certain highly coveted roles (e.g. government). All of which pay less. And none of which are giving 5-6 mos maternity leave. |
Anonymous
In government for a lawyer at least for the feds you get three months of unpaid leave and that’s it |
Anonymous
There are tons of options out there that earn between 60 and 100K. |
Anonymous
1 day a week??? Trust me there is no decent paying job in law that allows you to work one day a week. The fields my relatives are in is GI and urology (lots of procedures so good money and hours), psychiatrist, and anesthesia. They all have a way better ability to earn a lot of money while controlling their hours than any lawyer I know. Plus tremendous job security. |
Anonymous
If you're a doctor in private practice in a specialty like OB/GYN, the malpractice insurance is going to be high, whether you're part time or full time. You're also paying for overhead, including employees, if you're a business owner (partner or member in the medical practice). Unlike a law firm, it's not a business where overhead can be reduced by telework. |
Anonymous
| As an OB/GYN, could you go into a more specialized role like menopause care? There is a huge lack of available doctors in that space, and you won’t be delivering babies. Many older women are looking for a specialist in that area, as well as wanting a practice where appointment times are more likely to be honored because of far fewer unexpected emergency issues or delivery calls. I don’t know how much malpractice insurance would go down if you dropped the OB entirely. |
Anonymous
OP, it sounds like you are in private practice, but there are also government jobs in medicine that you could look into. Your husband is a government lawyer, which is much different than private practice in a law firm. A law firm is a business, just as a private medical practice is a business. You are right that law is more conducive to telework than medicine, for obvious reasons. However, in both businesses, it's about getting clients (patients) and billing hours/appointments/procedures to cover overhead and make a profit. As an aside, from purely a business perspective, medicine is an "easier" business to start in the sense that you can collect payments from insurance companies, whereas in law, you have to be able to collect from the individual client or a business. That's why BigLaw typically makes so much more money than solos or family law, criminal law -- because their clients are Big Businesses that have the ability to pay. With medicine, at least you know you can count on insurance to pay. That's why your husband's job as a government lawyer seems comparatively easy-- he's not being squeezed to bill hours to cover overhead and partner profit. You could look into VA or some government / non-profit work. Or work directly for a large hospital network or mega medical practice, where they can afford to float the insurance because it's spread out among so many providers. Compared to lawyers, your malpractice insurance is high -- thanks, in part, to lawyers and lawsuits... |
Anonymous
Jackpot, absolute jackpot! Women are clamoring for this. Menopause specialists are booked and don’t have to take insurance. |
Anonymous
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P. S. As a matter of fact, a quick search showed that Winona, an online platform for menopause care, is advertising for two remote part-time physician positions!!
https://jobs.ashbyhq.com/Winona You would need to get a licensed in other states, but that’s a matter of paperwork and $. You could also leave your job, tighten the belt for 6 months, then get snapped back up into full-time somewhere. That’s possible in medicine. |
Anonymous
| You can bond with your child starting today. There is nothing magical about the bonding in early infancy. Sure it’s fun to have, and it’s understandable you feel the loss, but it doesn’t make or break the relationship. Snuggle with your kid today. |
Anonymous
| Consider some life coaching for ideas. https://www.mamadoclifecoach.com/pages/about-us |
Anonymous
Lol wut? |
Anonymous
| OP can do plenty with her MD degree and is in a far more fortunate position than most. But it’s easier to sit around and moan. |
Anonymous
That's crazy. Medicine is incredibly family-unfriendly because of the strict schedules, which only gets worse if you have to do call. Except in cases where there is a SAHP, every doctor I know with young kids gets a nanny that is able to work long and unpredictable hours. Which obviously gets expensive. Mid-level providers end up in a very difficult middle zone. The hours are still inflexible, but they don't make nearly enough money for a nanny. I really don't understand how those got a reputation for being more family-friendly careers in medicine. In my experience, it is precisely the opposite. |
Anonymous
No, you get 12 weeks paid leave. |