800k plus |
+1. |
Lol |
$700K is not UMC.. that is upper class. You are exhausting. |
We do have maternity leave. It's called saving your leave like some of us did. I worked for many year at the same job, and rarely took a vacation or sick day knowing I wanted maternity leave. Then I used it all (and then realized how much I hated the job and quit). |
This has got to be a thread of trolls. Anyone who feels uncomfortable on $800k is an idiot. That's more than most make in a decade.
OP, record every dollar you spend for a couple of months, and then I would want and extra 20% on top of that for savings and emergencies. That might be $100k, it might be $500k. It depends on your family. |
You have to think long term. Can you still pay the mortgage, save for retirement and college, will you have $ to take vacations, new cars as needed, and have a 3-6 month emergency fund? Because an emergency fund is much more important when you are Single income with a family. For us, we always planned as if I'd stay home (despite the fact I was making 6 figures 20 years ago before age 30). That meant purchasing a home we could afford on one salary, living a lifestyle that could be supported comfortably with one income. Even though we knew spouse would likely begin to see a nice increase in salary over the years, we lived as if we were not going to get that. Then when they saw salary double we just saved that extra and never looked back. But first, you need to be happy with being out of the workforce. Each year you stay out it is harder to get back in, for most jobs. So plan, if you think you want to work when they are 10-12 yo, then maybe part time or some side consulting (or side work in whatever your career is) to keep in the market is a good idea. |
We do it with 3 kids and 150K
The key is we refinanced when rates were low and our mortgage is 1,900. We could not afford to buy our house today. 2 kids in daycare would cost more than my salary. Yes, I know daycare is temporary blah blah. Still, taking in all the stress and knowing that we weren’t even breaking even on all the work I was doing was enough to quit. We also have one child with special needs and the constant doctors appointments are brutal. Even as a SAHM it is draining. Plus it’s not something that you can truly divide and conquer—it’s important to coordinate with the doctors and make sure you’re getting all the information, so you need a point person. Even if I was working we would have redistributed other chores so one parent could be the point person for doctors/therapists/etc. and realistically that person was always going to be me. Just one small example, I can keep DS calm during an MRI, my husband absolutely cannot and he has a hard time coordinating with medical staff. This is not something you can say “have him take half of the doctor’s visits.” It’s not like soccer practice where you just drive and zone out and come home. |
Sure, 10 years ago. The economy has been bonkers for 5 years though, and especially in the upper 20%. If you're measuring yourself relative to your peers (which is what UMC and UC are), $700k in a hcol city like DC is the equivalent of what $400-500k was 5 years ago. Which for a couple people in their 40s was not upper class then either. That's solidly UMC. If you and your spouse are both feds, and you missed that gravy train - sucks for you. But don't act like a combined HHI of $700k in DC is rich compared to your peers. |
Actually many of them could not stay at home if they wanted, because they have built a lifestyle around the High Double income. If your ability to pay mortgage and monthly "needs" you have established as well as retirement/college/emergency fund requires both incomes then you cannot stay home without major adjustments. I agree---it's ridiculous to live like that IMO, but many do. If the mortgage is more than 50% of the top earners salary, the other cannot really stay home without selling the house and moving (not going to happen in todays environment) |
Because they build a lifestyle that requires more than 800K and don't/can't easily scale downwards. |
What you are describing is not maternity leave. It’s how people cope with not having maternity leave. |
I come from a middle class family (and I mean actual middle class, not DCUM middle class) - and from the type of place where hitting 100K salary means you have MADE IT BIG. Serious question: What do all of you actually DO that warrants these 500k+ salaries? I honestly cannot wrap my brain around it. And if possible (if you feel like answering) please avoid using corporate jargon catchphrases that don’t actually impart any meaningful information to those of us outside the know. |
But that’s not maternity leave. That’s saving your leave. Don’t you even understand your own post? |
You contradict yourself. They could absolutely stay at home if they wanted, but they don’t want to. Certainly not as much as they want the expensive house. |