Found a hotel notepad from a hotel we've never stayed at

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh honey, if he were cheating on you, he wouldn't be stupid enough to take a notepad from the hotel.

Oh sweetie, how do you know how stupid her husband is?

[Anonymous]

WTF? Who are you people afraid to ask your spouse a question?

My first response--would have been to say 'hey-where did you get that notepad?'--not walk away and try to sleuth it out later.

I think OP is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Who are you people afraid to ask your spouse a question?

My first response--would have been to say 'hey-where did you get that notepad?'--not walk away and try to sleuth it out later.

I think OP is a troll.

Amen to the bold!

The bold is something I've started to wonder on almost every marriage-related thread here, PP. So, so many OPs who come here before they ever ASK their spouses about anything. I get not doing so if you have a fear of an abusive response, or if you're weighing what to do after repeated problematic incidents, etc. But I do not get this repeated trend of people who sit silently, observe things they think are suspicious or wrong, and say and do...nothing, except run to strangers for a read on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would ask in a light way about it. Note his response. DO NOT indicate suspicion or anger. If he is cheating you need to act like you have no idea for as long as you can to get your ducks in a row.

I hope it’s nothing OP.

Right, say, ooooh the Fairmont did you have afternoon tea?

She can't...it's gone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only strange thing is that the notepad disappeared after the first time you saw it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Maybe it was his co-workers or his client's who forgot and left it there.
Controlling and non-trusting much?

[Anonymous]

My first thought is being at a work event at a hotel. Conference. A hotel notepad is sometimes all you can find.

No would grab a hotel notepad if they are having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He might not have stayed there but went for a meeting in a conf room where everyone got a pen and notepad at their seat. I have those from hotels where I went to a lunch or panel or something.

This

[Anonymous]

"Hey, have you seen a notepad lying around? I wrote a phone number on it but now I can't find it. I think the pad said Fairmont on it."

[Anonymous]

Speaking as someone who has had illicit sex in hotel rooms, there was no way any work was being done before, during or after in this imaginary scenario. Nobody banging in a hotel room is plugging in their computer and connecting to wifi and taking notes on the complimentary hotel notepad. Bang and go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as someone who has had illicit sex in hotel rooms, there was no way any work was being done before, during or after in this imaginary scenario. Nobody banging in a hotel room is plugging in their computer and connecting to wifi and taking notes on the complimentary hotel notepad. Bang and go.

Speaking as a DP who has also had illicit sex in hotel rooms, I have in fact done work before and/or after (albeit not during). Not everyone is “bang and go” - depends on schedule and relationship of the parties involved.

[Anonymous]

I would casually inquire about this w/my hubby.

I don’t see why you haven’t so far.

Just ask him about it in a non-confrontational manner & see how he reacts and what he responds back.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever worked in an office before? Probably someone else came in with it to take notes and accidentally left it there. It's gone because they remembered that they left it there. Chill out, lady.

[Anonymous]

I think OP should get a job. Either her husband is having an affair or she is bored, but either way, a job will benefit her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever worked in an office before? Probably someone else came in with it to take notes and accidentally left it there. It's gone because they remembered that they left it there. Chill out, lady.

It a home office. Coworkers aren't dropping in with notepads.