Found a hotel notepad from a hotel we've never stayed at
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Anonymous
Exactly. This would be a weird souvenir to bring home to the house he shares with his wife. |
Anonymous
People take notepads when they need to write something down (eg work call) not as a souvenir. |
Anonymous
People also can have a shorter fuse if they are any of the following: Under stress at work (which they may or may not tell their spouse about so it's a mystery to the spouse sometimes) Worried about aging parents/caregiving in the future Worried about finances Stressed about a kid Depressed -- particularly in men, depression may not show up as seeming "blue" but may show up as anger Suffering from any of a raft of undiagnosed physical issues where mood is a symptom -- thyroid problems, for instance, can be associated with irritability And....who knows what else. Jumping to short fuse = could be an affair! without any other indicators is really ignoring what could be other more realistic problems. I wonder sometimes how many spouses of DCUM OPs wondering here, "Could it be an affair?" over something minuscule are actually people who have other, utterly non-affair, reasons for irritability. OP, forget the notepad and focus on why you haven't yet sat down with your own husband, whom you care about -- right? -- and told him you're worried about him because you feel he's unhappy or upset lately. Then look together at the list above. |
Anonymous
Agreed. He saw OP looking at it and panicked. I would ask him OP. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
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I would just think he used someone else's notepad. There are multiple notepads in my house from locations I've never gone to, all collected by either my husband or myself at various offices over the years. Also pens! |
Anonymous
Good lord, this is really really stretching it. People pick up notepads all sorts of places and not just from where the notepad says. I have notepads from all sorts of places the come and go from my desk. Coworkers take my notepads, and so I ask someone if they have an extra one and they give me one. There are several notepads around the office that have probably been on several people's desks over the least year or two. As for the "disappearance" from his desk, most likely he wrote something on the notepad and just picked up the pad instead of taking the top sheet. If I may need to make additional notes and add on to what I've already written, I might do that, especially with small pads. They're not glued to the desk. They are intended to be portable and they are. I may pick up a pad from my desk at work, take it hom, add to it and take it to work again. No one is taking notepads from hotels where they're having an affair. Period. You don't take anything identifying from a hotel like that. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Oh honey, if he were cheating on you, he wouldn't be stupid enough to take a notepad from the hotel. |
Anonymous
This. I've got pens and notepads from plenty of hotels that I've never stayed at |
Anonymous
| My experience is that is you are not a suspicious person, and then suddenly after many years of marriage you start to wonder if he’s having an affair, he’s having an affair. |
Anonymous
This is the issue, yes. |
Anonymous
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Fairmonts aren't always super expensive, especially before the pandemic. It's possible he stayed in one for work.
What's weird to me if that the pad was gone when you went back in. Maybe you should do some searching around for other clues before you ask him about it. |
Anonymous
He might if he did some work at the hotel before or after the dalliance and grabbed his notes that were on the pad. |
Anonymous
Exactly. Sometimes I’m in someone else’s office and forgot a notebook and use their pad of paper. |