Dating for 50+ men

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of men like to think younger women to be into them for their “experience” and superior skills in bed. The idea that younger women want something in return is a rude awakening.

I bet you think you're a nice, intelligent person?

I'm 50s. So far in post-divorce life, I've had 5 or 6 gfs who were in their 20s. None of them have asked for anything other than my time.

That's because they haven't learned yet how to stand up for themselves and ask for what they want. They are only dating you for what they think you can "provide" for them. They don't think you're hot. You know this and you're preying on their vulnerability and the power imbalance.

lol at the idea women in their 20s don't know how to get what they want.

There is no "power imbalance" between a guy in his 50s and a woman in her 20s. She can walk away at any time and there's nothing he can do about it. If anything there is a power imbalance in her favor - she has the hot young body that he wants and that is relatively hard for him to get.

[Anonymous]

Exactly: plenty of late 30s men on dating apps looking for FWB with 40+ women. Great bodies, stamina, fun to go out at times. Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me

This post is not an answer to OP's question.

Instead, it is a poster doing what so many women on DCUM complain about men doing (i.e., inserting her thoughts on a question no one asked her.) Please stay on point.

If you cannot stay on point, please start another thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.

If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)

If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.

One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.

She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.

I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together. That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.

Why on earth would you want a 50+ yo man for a FWB situation? I’d see men in their late twenties to thirties personally.

Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me

Why do you want remarriage plus merging finances and "certain guarantees"? If you've already had kids and you have a career, what do you need marriage and financial merge and "guarantees" for?

And what does he get in exchange for providing merged finances and "guarantees" to you? Is your p*ssy really that great?

I would certainly benefit from a marriage to an equal earner (400K+) and at least 15 more years of building a joint life, wealth, joint assets and retirement planning with an equal partner. Of course I would expect being a primary beneficiary to all marital assets in such scenario. A man either should be able to provide it in his 50s (where they are usually at career prime and make about the same as me). In a lack of such relationship I would just sleep with younger man for health related reasons without expecting much.

[Anonymous]

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Exactly: plenty of late 30s men on dating apps looking for FWB with 40+ women. Great bodies, stamina, fun to go out at times. Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me

This post is not an answer to OP's question.

Instead, it is a poster doing what so many women on DCUM complain about men doing (i.e., inserting her thoughts on a question no one asked her.) Please stay on point.

If you cannot stay on point, please start another thread.

It is an answer, though. Women either expect hotness for FWB or stability in a real partnership

[Anonymous]

It is an answer, though. Women either expect hotness for FWB or stability in a real partnership.

You are lost.

The statement: "Women either expect hotness for FWB or stability in a real partnership" answers the OP's question about what men in their 50s can expect from dating. The OP said nothing about any kind of partnership; however, this problem is minor compared to the slop in the earlier post.

Read this post again:

Exactly: plenty of late 30s men on dating apps looking for FWB with 40+ women. Great bodies, stamina, fun to go out at times. Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me.

The post is a tacky commercial for cougar dating. Why would a man in his 50s care if you date "late 30s men"? You are posting for your ego and little else.

The only slightly relevant part (if the reader can suffer through to read it) is the statement that the poster (a woman in her 40s) would only date a man in his 50s if he is "into remarrying/long term [sic] partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me.""

So, OP, have at this gem if you do not mind presenting her with "certain guarantees." For guarantees, I would start with making sure she can pass STD testing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

Au contraire. I have millions. That is because I am not stupid.

Yes, I too am a smart, happy, multimillionaire hanging out in the Relationship Forum.

Bon jour.

Well hurrrumpt! I'm a billionaire with inches of 8!
I'm a ripped 6 pack genius too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

Labor is not free last time I checked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

Au contraire. I have millions. That is because I am not stupid.

Yes, I too am a smart, happy, multimillionaire hanging out in the Relationship Forum.

Bon jour.

Not to defend the PP but a few millions is not that hard if you have a house and a 401K, plus an investment account.

[Anonymous]

OP, have at this gem if you do not mind presenting her with "certain guarantees." For guarantees, I would start with making sure she can pass STD testing.

The main guarantee that a recently divorced guy wants is "willingness to have sex at least three times a week for ten years". Soon as she provides that guarantee (backed by actual experience) then yes agree to marriage, but not before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

Au contraire. I have millions. That is because I am not stupid.

Yes, I too am a smart, happy, multimillionaire hanging out in the Relationship Forum.

Bon jour.

Not to defend the PP but a few millions is not that hard if you have a house and a 401K, plus an investment account.

I am that PP and I agree with you. It’s quite telling that the OP thinks someone with these stats must be fantastical. He must be a tremendous loser IRL.

[Anonymous]

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It is an answer, though. Women either expect hotness for FWB or stability in a real partnership.

You are lost.

The statement: "Women either expect hotness for FWB or stability in a real partnership" answers the OP's question about what men in their 50s can expect from dating. The OP said nothing about any kind of partnership; however, this problem is minor compared to the slop in the earlier post.

Read this post again:

Exactly: plenty of late 30s men on dating apps looking for FWB with 40+ women. Great bodies, stamina, fun to go out at times. Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me.

The post is a tacky commercial for cougar dating. Why would a man in his 50s care if you date "late 30s men"? You are posting for your ego and little else.

The only slightly relevant part (if the reader can suffer through to read it) is the statement that the poster (a woman in her 40s) would only date a man in his 50s if he is "into remarrying/long term [sic] partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me.""

So, OP, have at this gem if you do not mind presenting her with "certain guarantees." For guarantees, I would start with making sure she can pass STD testing.

Don't worry for my STD testing, I have a long term partner who is early 40s is successful. The response was to give men in their 50s an idea what they can expect from dating. What women's expectations are. That's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP, have at this gem if you do not mind presenting her with "certain guarantees." For guarantees, I would start with making sure she can pass STD testing.

The main guarantee that a recently divorced guy wants is "willingness to have sex at least three times a week for ten years". Soon as she provides that guarantee (backed by actual experience) then yes agree to marriage, but not before.

Why not? You should put this in the contract as well: what if you can't get it up? Older men are quite delicate sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether you’re divorced, single, etc. What is it like for you? As easy to find younger women as many seem to say it is? Or is it a challenge?

I dated age appropriate and it was easy and a good experience overall. Even the women where there was no spark were at least interesting and fun, although they didn't lead to second dates (and not all of them resulted in sex, although a number of them did. Most women on these sites are DTF pretty quickly, even if they say they're not looking for a hookup. Ask me how I know.).

The one time I dated a 27 year-old it was tedious. We had nothing in common and while it was really hot to relive what it was like to sleep with a woman with a younger body, she was just a little too vapid and into Insta, etc. that I just couldn't. So I broke it off the first time she asked me for money.

I eventually met a 45-year-old woman and now we're in a committed relationship and just moved in together six months ago. We've been together about 3 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

Au contraire. I have millions. That is because I am not stupid.

Why do people with so much money waste time on the DCUM board? I'd be on the beach today, instead.

As if you can't be on DCUM from the beach?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.

If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)

If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.

One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.

She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.

I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together. That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.

Why on earth would you want a 50+ yo man for a FWB situation? I’d see men in their late twenties to thirties personally.

Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me

Why do you want remarriage plus merging finances and "certain guarantees"? If you've already had kids and you have a career, what do you need marriage and financial merge and "guarantees" for?

And what does he get in exchange for providing merged finances and "guarantees" to you? Is your p*ssy really that great?

I would certainly benefit from a marriage to an equal earner (400K+) and at least 15 more years of building a joint life, wealth, joint assets and retirement planning with an equal partner. Of course I would expect being a primary beneficiary to all marital assets in such scenario. A man either should be able to provide it in his 50s (where they are usually at career prime and make about the same as me).

And what does he get out of this?

If you came at me with that deal - and I am that kind of earner - my reaction is "you are primary beneficiary of the marital assets and my kids get shut out? Pfffft, nope." I'm doing just great building wealth and planning my retirement by myself, I don't need to marry "an equal partner" for that.

You may say, why would you marry me if you're not the primary beneficiary of the marital assets? Well, you are clearly not poor and you will have no problem retiring comfortably if we maintain separate finances.

Getting remarried after you are done having kids is all downside for a man, tbh.