Dating for 50+ men

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Lots of men like to think younger women to be into them for their “experience” and superior skills in bed. The idea that younger women want something in return is a rude awakening.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of men like to think younger women to be into them for their “experience” and superior skills in bed. The idea that younger women want something in return is a rude awakening.

Yep. By the time the younger woman is in her 40s/50s she has wised up.

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Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.

According to this study, it's true that men are much more likely to leave their ill spouse than women do. Nevertheless, the overwhelming majority of men stay with their wives when they are sick. From the same study "The rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient." So roughly 80% of men stay with their wives when they are sick. THis is not as good as what women do, but you're wrong to interpret this as "men will not take care of their wives." 4 out of 5 husbands take care of their wives when they are sick.
Who refused “any form”?

DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?

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https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm#:~:text=Why%20men%20leave%20a%20sick,family%2C%20the%20study%20authors%20said.

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Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.

Who refused “any form”?

DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?

:lol:

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm#:~:text=Why%20men%20leave%20a%20sick,family%2C%20the%20study%20authors%20said.

According to this study, it's true that men are much more likely to leave their ill spouse than women do. Nevertheless, the overwhelming majority of men stay with their wives when they are sick. From the same study "The rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient." So roughly 80% of men stay with their wives when they are sick. THis is not as good as what women do, but you're wrong to interpret this as "men will not take care of their wives." 4 out of 5 husbands take care of their wives when they are sick.

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Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.

Who refused “any form”?

DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?

:lol:

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm#:~:text=Why%20men%20leave%20a%20sick,family%2C%20the%20study%20authors%20said.

According to this study, it's true that men are much more likely to leave their ill spouse than women do. Nevertheless, the overwhelming majority of men stay with their wives when they are sick. From the same study "The rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient." So roughly 80% of men stay with their wives when they are sick. THis is not as good as what women do, but you're wrong to interpret this as "men will not take care of their wives." 4 out of 5 husbands take care of their wives when they are sick.

“Not leaving” is not the same thing as “taking care of.”

[Anonymous]

Whether you’re divorced, single, etc. What is it like for you? As easy to find younger women as many seem to say it is? Or is it a challenge?

OP - Please tell us why you seek a "younger" woman. How much younger? I am in my min-50s, and the youngest I dated was in her 30s. She was great but was looking for something different (she wanted a serious, exclusive relationship).

I found that women my age (from the mid-40s to mid-60s) are more likely to be looking for the same thing I am (i.e. a great FWB who I enjoy when we can get together.) I am divorced with adult children (the youngest is in grad school) and have the most fun with women in the same boat. Bottom line: This group provides way more fun and fewer problems than the other groups.

One final suggestion: try women five to ten older. Tons of beautiful women in this group and they can be very fun with very little baggage.

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Whether you’re divorced, single, etc. What is it like for you? As easy to find younger women as many seem to say it is? Or is it a challenge?

OP - Please tell us why you seek a "younger" woman. How much younger? I am in my min-50s, and the youngest I dated was in her 30s. She was great but was looking for something different (she wanted a serious, exclusive relationship).

I found that women my age (from the mid-40s to mid-60s) are more likely to be looking for the same thing I am (i.e. a great FWB who I enjoy when we can get together.) I am divorced with adult children (the youngest is in grad school) and have the most fun with women in the same boat. Bottom line: This group provides way more fun and fewer problems than the other groups.

One final suggestion: try women five to ten older. Tons of beautiful women in this group and they can be very fun with very little baggage.

Yeah... but sorry to say, these women look really old to me. In fact, it has always been true that no matter how old I am, women 5-10 years older look really old to me.

It is undeniably true that there are plenty of women who think "ewww gross" about dating men 5-10 years older than they are.

So, you will have trouble wanting to date older women, and you will have trouble finding younger women who want to date you. That suggests you should probably try to date women roughly your own age.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of men like to think younger women to be into them for their “experience” and superior skills in bed. The idea that younger women want something in return is a rude awakening.

I bet you think you're a nice, intelligent person?

I'm 50s. So far in post-divorce life, I've had 5 or 6 gfs who were in their 20s. None of them have asked for anything other than my time.

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45 yo woman here. 5'8, 138 pounds, model looking according to dating feedback I was receiving. I date around my age (plus minus 5 years). Had no problems finding even seriously minded guys. My current partner is 43 y.o. , he's never been married, very marriage oriented and wants us to have a baby in 2-3 years. I'm wealthy, no in a hurry to marry him but don't mind trying for a second child via IFV in a year or so. He's an executive at a large tech company.

I dated one 53 y.o. man but he only wanted FWB and wouldn't allow the relationship to develop into anything emotional so I dropped him. I did try to date men who were 10+ years older, but they were in terrible shape and looked old to me (bold, dad bods etc).

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Anonymous wrote:You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.

If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)

If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.

One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.

She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.

I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together. That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.

Why on earth would you want a 50+ yo man for a FWB situation? I’d see men in their late twenties to thirties personally.

Exactly: plenty of late 30s men on dating apps looking for FWB with 40+ women. Great bodies, stamina, fun to go out at times. Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me

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Anonymous wrote:You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.

If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)

If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.

One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.

She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.

I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together. That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.

Why on earth would you want a 50+ yo man for a FWB situation? I’d see men in their late twenties to thirties personally.

Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me

Why do you want remarriage plus merging finances and "certain guarantees"? If you've already had kids and you have a career, what do you need marriage and financial merge and "guarantees" for?

And what does he get in exchange for providing merged finances and "guarantees" to you? Is your p*ssy really that great?

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Anonymous wrote:You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.

If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)

If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.

One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.

She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.

I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together. That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.

Why on earth would you want a 50+ yo man for a FWB situation? I’d see men in their late twenties to thirties personally.

Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me

Why do you want remarriage plus merging finances and "certain guarantees"? If you've already had kids and you have a career, what do you need marriage and financial merge and "guarantees" for?

And what does he get in exchange for providing merged finances and "guarantees" to you? Is your p*ssy really that great?

A 40+ p*ssy is certainly not that special in feel and in look and neither are wrinkly balls lol. Past 40 for both. Men and women sex is not really a differentiator.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of men like to think younger women to be into them for their “experience” and superior skills in bed. The idea that younger women want something in return is a rude awakening.

I bet you think you're a nice, intelligent person?

I'm 50s. So far in post-divorce life, I've had 5 or 6 gfs who were in their 20s. None of them have asked for anything other than my time.

That's because they haven't learned yet how to stand up for themselves and ask for what they want. They are only dating you for what they think you can "provide" for them. They don't think you're hot. You know this and you're preying on their vulnerability and the power imbalance.

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Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.

The real reason old men aren’t worth it.

Such an attractive mindset

No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.

Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.

It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.

Who refused “any form”?

DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?

:lol:

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm#:~:text=Why%20men%20leave%20a%20sick,family%2C%20the%20study%20authors%20said.

According to this study, it's true that men are much more likely to leave their ill spouse than women do. Nevertheless, the overwhelming majority of men stay with their wives when they are sick. From the same study "The rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient." So roughly 80% of men stay with their wives when they are sick. THis is not as good as what women do, but you're wrong to interpret this as "men will not take care of their wives." 4 out of 5 husbands take care of their wives when they are sick.

“Not leaving” is not the same thing as “taking care of.”

True, but the PP was citing this study to prove men would abandon their wives whereas the reverse was not true. The study does not support the PP's contention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Young women with choices aren't that much into older men, unless they are gold diggers or out of options.

A friend just got married to someone 15 year younger who was looking forward to get a green card and have a luxurious life.

He had a heart attack with months and during testing for a cardiac bypass, they found liver cancer. She seems puzzled about becoming a caregiver or getting divorce.

'A friend'... lol. You seem invested in this man's personal life. Is he your ex-husband/father of your kids? Did he dump you for this green card wife? He got what his heart (and other body parts) desired: a younger wife. The green card seeker gets stability. I'm sure she can convince him to sign over assets to her before he shrugs off his mortal coil. She seems persuasive.