Sharing pronouns at work

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Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

Not sure I understand. PPs have explained how this helps people. Why are you opposed?

Because the people who write things like this assume to know what helps people.

I’m Jewish and I don’t expect people to write #fightantisemitism on their signature so I know they don’t hate me before they know my religion. I choose to just respect people and use the pronouns they prefer. I don’t feel I need to share mine. My name is an obvious female name.

Obvious to whom?

Not the PP but I'm assuming it's obvious to anyone who still chooses to use common sense.

I will support and use proper terminology for anyone who chooses to include that in the email or in conversation. I'm not against it at all.

I will not be forced into this virtue-signaling BS for myself. I am a woman, no one is confused about that. They do not need me to announce it intentionally in emails or verbally. Why would someone named Sarah who obviously is a woman, dresses like one, and sounds like one need to include she/her/hers??

It's stupid and pointless. But again, ask me to refer to you as anything you wish and I'll respect that and do it gladly.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad my company doesn't make me do it. If they did, I would be annoyed, but do it.

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Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

Not sure I understand. PPs have explained how this helps people. Why are you opposed?

I value freedom of choice and I think that used to be one of America's highest ideals - it's not only the right that's a threat to democracy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

Not sure I understand. PPs have explained how this helps people. Why are you opposed?

Because the people who write things like this assume to know what helps people.

I’m Jewish and I don’t expect people to write #fightantisemitism on their signature so I know they don’t hate me before they know my religion. I choose to just respect people and use the pronouns they prefer. I don’t feel I need to share mine. My name is an obvious female name.

Obvious to whom?

Not the PP but I'm assuming it's obvious to anyone who still chooses to use common sense.

I will support and use proper terminology for anyone who chooses to include that in the email or in conversation. I'm not against it at all.

I will not be forced into this virtue-signaling BS for myself. I am a woman, no one is confused about that. They do not need me to announce it intentionally in emails or verbally. Why would someone named Sarah who obviously is a woman, dresses like one, and sounds like one need to include she/her/hers??

It's stupid and pointless. But again, ask me to refer to you as anything you wish and I'll respect that and do it gladly.

Thanks.

It’s been obvious to all people I’ve met in 43 years on the planet and in every country I’ve visited, but I guess if someone incorrectly thought it was male I’d not be much offended.

[Anonymous]

OMG, like it harms you to be respectful of other people, especially in such a way that will take 3 minutes to set up in your signature and then give no more thought to it.

[Anonymous]

My problem is that I just don't care one way or the other or the other ways, I'm just lazy, but I'm worried about being lumped in with the people making a big deal of protesting it for ignorant or bad faith reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, like it harms you to be respectful of other people, especially in such a way that will take 3 minutes to set up in your signature and then give no more thought to it.

You do you - stop trying to control what other people do. You can only control yourself.

[Anonymous]

"Hey mom, what's a virchoo signaling?"

"Oh honey, you know how sometimes your teacher tells you do something, and you don't think it's important, but you do it anyway because they are in charge of the whole class? That's virtue signaling, and it's bad. Always insist that your teacher allow a full debate before issuing any instructions."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, like it harms you to be respectful of other people, especially in such a way that will take 3 minutes to set up in your signature and then give no more thought to it.

People should equally be respectful of those who choose not to share their pronouns, some of whom explained why in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday my company had an Inclusivity training for managers, and during this training one of the topics discussed was micro aggressions in the workplace. The goal was to educate managers on all things that could be perceived as offensive to employees.

One thing that came up is the use of pronouns in our email signatures as well as when we introduce ourselves in meetings. The facilitator of the training said it’s offensive and unsupportive for ALL employees to not follow this protocol of including our pronouns.

The company asked us to start including/using them a year or so ago and maybe 50% of employees max do. I am one of the employees who does not list or proactively share my pronouns, which I feel is equally my right to do.

What I don’t understand is how this specific inaction OFFENDS others and looks like I am not supportive. As a straight female does listing she/her/hers indicate support? Overall my company is very inclusive and a decent number of employees are not straight, so this is definitely not just a handful of people being singled out.

Now we have all been asked again to add our pronouns by the end of the week or it will signal to employees that we don’t support equality or something like that. I truly don’t understand. Can someone enlighten me?

Again I am all for anyone listing their pronouns who wants to, I don’t understand why it’s essentially mandatory for all to do so.

Because Gen Z cares one heck of a lot and Gen Z is entering the workplace in droves and the race for talent is real.

Either get with the program or get gone. You’re likely too expensive anyway and no one cares if it makes you uncomfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

Not sure I understand. PPs have explained how this helps people. Why are you opposed?

Because the people who write things like this assume to know what helps people.

I’m Jewish and I don’t expect people to write #fightantisemitism on their signature so I know they don’t hate me before they know my religion. I choose to just respect people and use the pronouns they prefer. I don’t feel I need to share mine. My name is an obvious female name.

Obvious to whom?

Not the PP but I'm assuming it's obvious to anyone who still chooses to use common sense.

I will support and use proper terminology for anyone who chooses to include that in the email or in conversation. I'm not against it at all.

I will not be forced into this virtue-signaling BS for myself. I am a woman, no one is confused about that. They do not need me to announce it intentionally in emails or verbally. Why would someone named Sarah who obviously is a woman, dresses like one, and sounds like one need to include she/her/hers??

It's stupid and pointless. But again, ask me to refer to you as anything you wish and I'll respect that and do it gladly.

Lynn
Dana
Renee
Ashley
Leslie

There are more, but all of these were (are) common male names before the morphed into more common female names. Common sense has nothing to do with it.

I don't believe the whole pronoun thing is necessary, but if you don't know who is at the other end of an email you have no way of knowing that they definitely know what your sex/gender are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

Not sure I understand. PPs have explained how this helps people. Why are you opposed?

Because the people who write things like this assume to know what helps people.

I’m Jewish and I don’t expect people to write #fightantisemitism on their signature so I know they don’t hate me before they know my religion. I choose to just respect people and use the pronouns they prefer. I don’t feel I need to share mine. My name is an obvious female name.

Obvious to whom?

Not the PP but I'm assuming it's obvious to anyone who still chooses to use common sense.

I will support and use proper terminology for anyone who chooses to include that in the email or in conversation. I'm not against it at all.

I will not be forced into this virtue-signaling BS for myself. I am a woman, no one is confused about that. They do not need me to announce it intentionally in emails or verbally. Why would someone named Sarah who obviously is a woman, dresses like one, and sounds like one need to include she/her/hers??

It's stupid and pointless. But again, ask me to refer to you as anything you wish and I'll respect that and do it gladly.

Thanks.

It’s been obvious to all people I’ve met in 43 years on the planet and in every country I’ve visited, but I guess if someone incorrectly thought it was male I’d not be much offended.

Aren't we talking about emails?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

Not sure I understand. PPs have explained how this helps people. Why are you opposed?

Because the people who write things like this assume to know what helps people.

I’m Jewish and I don’t expect people to write #fightantisemitism on their signature so I know they don’t hate me before they know my religion. I choose to just respect people and use the pronouns they prefer. I don’t feel I need to share mine. My name is an obvious female name.

Obvious to whom?

Not the PP but I'm assuming it's obvious to anyone who still chooses to use common sense.

I will support and use proper terminology for anyone who chooses to include that in the email or in conversation. I'm not against it at all.

I will not be forced into this virtue-signaling BS for myself. I am a woman, no one is confused about that. They do not need me to announce it intentionally in emails or verbally. Why would someone named Sarah who obviously is a woman, dresses like one, and sounds like one need to include she/her/hers??

It's stupid and pointless. But again, ask me to refer to you as anything you wish and I'll respect that and do it gladly.

Lynn
Dana
Renee
Ashley
Leslie

There are more, but all of these were (are) common male names before the morphed into more common female names. Common sense has nothing to do with it.

I don't believe the whole pronoun thing is necessary, but if you don't know who is at the other end of an email you have no way of knowing that they definitely know what your sex/gender are.

So who is stopping a man named Lynn, Dana, Renee, Ashley or Leslie from putting their pronouns in the signature line? No one.

[Anonymous]

I don’t include it because I really don’t care if anyone at work thinks that I am a man or a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t include it because I really don’t care if anyone at work thinks that I am a man or a woman.

Precisely.