Sharing pronouns at work

[Anonymous]

I like it and it’s no big deal. I’m straight
she/her/hers. We have a few non binary employees and I appreciate that it helps them feel more comfortable at work. Hearing them be misgendered by someone that’s not paying attention to or resistant to using their stated pronouns is obnoxious. Support your team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't forcing people to do this also be a micro-aggression?

I will never understand this sort of thing. Many of us don't even use email signature files at work.

Following standards is not a micro-aggression.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't forcing people to do this also be a micro-aggression?

I will never understand this sort of thing. Many of us don't even use email signature files at work.

Following standards is not a micro-aggression.

It is if they aren’t your standards

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

Leadership demanding that everyone share their pronouns so they can feel better about themselves.

Not sure I understand. PPs have explained how this helps people. Why are you opposed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Why doesn’t it make you mad? The point is to do one small thing that can help make other people’s lives easier. Is it really that difficult to edit your email signature?

In real life, this has zero impact. It’s woke virtue signaling that I will not support.

What is “woke virtue signaling” in your view?

A term used when someone doesn’t want to look at any situation or belief that makes them even slightly uncomfortable, so they cry virtue signaling as a way of name calling and discrediting. It’s a self righteous trolling phrase. And a tired one at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't forcing people to do this also be a micro-aggression?

In what way?

Imagine you feel like your assigned gender doesn't quite fit, but you aren't yet sure whether you're a genderqueer man/woman, nonbinary, trans, or what. You're experimenting with different pronouns in your personal life but are not ready to commit to one set and come out at work. Should you be forced to come out, or commit to the "old" pronouns that feel wrong until you're more confident in a new choice? Does that policy feel supportive to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

That’s nice. You’re obviously female and identify as such. How convenient! Also you’re queer. That certainly lets you off the hook for being compassionate to genderqueer folx. Not even slightly narrow or bigoted. Because, gay!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't forcing people to do this also be a micro-aggression?

In what way?

Imagine you feel like your assigned gender doesn't quite fit, but you aren't yet sure whether you're a genderqueer man/woman, nonbinary, trans, or what. You're experimenting with different pronouns in your personal life but are not ready to commit to one set and come out at work. Should you be forced to come out, or commit to the "old" pronouns that feel wrong until you're more confident in a new choice? Does that policy feel supportive to you?

I’m confident that’s not the situation of anyone complaining in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't forcing people to do this also be a micro-aggression?

I will never understand this sort of thing. Many of us don't even use email signature files at work.

Following standards is not a micro-aggression.

It is if they aren’t your standards

Your company sets standards.

For me wearing a suit is not my standard but it’s required for meetings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am queer and will never “proactively” share my pronouns. I’m a woman. It’s obvious. This is such virtue signaling bs I can’t even. This makes me so mad.

Serious I don’t GAF that you are LBGTQ … please tell me the gender of
Xiratoe
Punyask
Chiangois
Lireoibgro

I’m writing an email I don’t know your gender. If you’re cool with being “they” then leave it out. If you want to be referred to by your gender please let me know what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have mine listed in my email signature, though they are on my business cards. (I should have them in my signature; I just keep forgetting.) It’s important for cisgender people to proactively give their pronouns so that trans people aren’t the only ones giving theirs. If it becomes normalized to share pronouns proactively, then trans people who aren’t totally comfortable telling everyone they’re trans (which is reasonable, given the state of trans rights) will be able to let everyone know their pronouns without having to go out of their way or be singled out.

+1, well said.