Why do people overlook the advantages in dating if you go to a top school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was at Harvard, 99% of the guys wanted to date someone who would be impressed that they went to Harvard, AKA not the women also going to Harvard.

That would be me. Which is why I didn’t date classmates at Harvard law and never emphasized same to my daughter

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh sweetie….women don’t marry the guys they meet in college these days. They marry the ones they meet in law/med/ business/ graduate school.

Except, not everyone goes to law, business, grad school.

Right, low-earning do-gooders don’t.

Plenty of people make good money without grad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it is sexist and old fashioned.

Most of us expect our kids to have serious careers, and plenty of time to partner off after college.

Ironically, in the real old-fashioned days a lot of the elite schools were all-male/heavily male, so co-education ushered in a golden age of assortative mating in a target-rich environment with a more selective group of ready/willing/able/peak-attractive available partners (fewer slots available since the available seats are split between men and women).

If these schools don’t provide the ideal environment to find a partner, pray tell me a better one.

[Anonymous]

Lots of women marry guys they met in college. Or friends of guys they met in college. My DD is 25. ALL of her friends are in serious relationships with above. It’s a small network at some schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my duel ivy degreed husband in a bar and my degree is from a regionally ranked school. I guess I got lucky.

Lol. I met mine in church. No lie.
My degree is from a third tier liberal arts college.

[Anonymous]

In terms of marriage prospects, (in my experience in NW DC) it's better to go to a private HIGH SCHOOL. The kids loosely stick together in a giant pool years after graduation because they're childhood (high school) friends. Where they went to undergrad is less material (they all go to strong colleges).

Far more marriages and set-ups occur from these roots than from college roots. Most kids wants to marry someone who went to a different college than they did but then their high school friend pool sets them up with someone from undergrad or they meet friends through this group, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because it is sexist and old fashioned.

Most of us expect our kids to have serious careers, and plenty of time to partner off after college.

so co-education ushered in a golden age of assortative mating in a target-rich environment with a more selective group of ready/willing/able/peak-attractive available partners /quote]

God, why such a clinical tone? You sound like a mad scientist. And BTW, I don't think people are doubting that you can find a rich husband at an ivy, just that maybe modern women have priorities other than marrying the wealthiest husband they can as soon as they can?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my duel ivy degreed husband in a bar and my degree is from a regionally ranked school. I guess I got lucky.

And thank god you did after this gibberish response

[Anonymous]

Yep, this is the truth.

Major and career matter far more than the prestige of an undergraduate institution. And I say this as an Ivy grad. There is a point in adult life where the prestige of your undergrad degree just doesn't matter anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of women marry guys they met in college. Or friends of guys they met in college. My DD is 25. ALL of her friends are in serious relationships with above. It’s a small network at some schools.

But then they get divorced. Better to wait until the professional world

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think people overlook it, but they're generally let down when they go to "top schools" and see how many poor kids there are. This is not what they were expecting! This is not what Princeton looked like in 1984!

Yep!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the age of assortative mating, most high achievers want a spouse who went to a top school (even if they’ll end up being a SAHP). Going to a top school and then attending alumni clubs in big cities is a GREAT way to meet an elite spouse.

Go bust your ass to get that MRS degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the age of assortative mating, most high achievers want a spouse who went to a top school (even if they’ll end up being a SAHP). Going to a top school and then attending alumni clubs in big cities is a GREAT way to meet an elite spouse.

They don't overlook it. It's just uncouth to discuss out loud, and two, the bitter and seething masses who have degree mill degrees and send their average kids to degree mills make up about 99% of the posts on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of women marry guys they met in college. Or friends of guys they met in college. My DD is 25. ALL of her friends are in serious relationships with above. It’s a small network at some schools.

But then they get divorced. Better to wait until the professional world

Do you spam this entire website all day with your miserable hate? Go talk to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In terms of marriage prospects, (in my experience in NW DC) it's better to go to a private HIGH SCHOOL. The kids loosely stick together in a giant pool years after graduation because they're childhood (high school) friends. Where they went to undergrad is less material (they all go to strong colleges).

Far more marriages and set-ups occur from these roots than from college roots. Most kids wants to marry someone who went to a different college than they did but then their high school friend pool sets them up with someone from undergrad or they meet friends through this group, etc.

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