Why do people overlook the advantages in dating if you go to a top school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son goes to a T20. At the end of his first year he started dating a student from a nearby school, not quite in the same class as his.Two years later, still together. My elitist husband is super annoyed, even though he married me, and graduated from an Ivy while I went GW. Go figure.

I'm guessing your husband is annoyed because the nearby college is public, the gal is MC, and hubby thinks she's a common schemer and his son is a falling in love with his first piece of tail.

This sort of pairing is common at Notre Dame and St Mary's, but St Mary's is private and the girls are UMC if not wealthy and often attractive, so ND parents don't mind. Even so, lots of gold digging by the St Mary's women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the divorce rate in this country?

Probably higer if you meet someone early like in colleges

Spam this some more. My gosh, how miserable and angry you must be as you reflect on your years of poor choices.

[Anonymous]

While a high-achieving peer group is a nice plus, who is it exactly that OP is arguing with? As I see it there are a few different types of students...

1. Students who can be accepted to a "top school" and whose parents can pay for it (either because they can full pay or because they get a ton of aid). Those students should probably pick the "top school" where they feel most at home and enjoy.

2. Students who can be accepted to a "top school" and whose parents can't pay for it. Their option is a ton of debt or choose a lower ranked school they can afford. Taking on a ton of debt on the outside chance that you might marry a rich classmate seems like a pretty poor strategy. And also taking a risk that you'll end up instead marrying someone with a similarly big debt load.

3. Students who can't be accepted to a "top school", who I guess OP thinks don't exist? They, like all students, should find a school that is a good balance of cost and the academics and lifestyle they want. (which, really, applies to the top-school-contenders too)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because many (most?) of us meet our spouses in the workplace or through post-college networks. Gone are the days of marrying right out of college. How old are you?

Not true if you go to school in the south. D has so many friends that are engaged or about to get engaged and she just finished junior year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because many (most?) of us meet our spouses in the workplace or through post-college networks. Gone are the days of marrying right out of college. How old are you?

Not true if you go to school in the south. D has so many friends that are engaged or about to get engaged and she just finished junior year.

Well, that's the south

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the divorce rate in this country?

Probably higer if you meet someone early like in colleges

Very low for dual-college-educated couples.