Why do people overlook the advantages in dating if you go to a top school?

[Anonymous]

In the age of assortative mating, most high achievers want a spouse who went to a top school (even if they’ll end up being a SAHP). Going to a top school and then attending alumni clubs in big cities is a GREAT way to meet an elite spouse.

[Anonymous]

They don’t overlook it. They just don’t admit that they care about it.

[Anonymous]

^^ women don't attend college to get their MRS degrees any longer

[Anonymous]

Because many (most?) of us meet our spouses in the workplace or through post-college networks. Gone are the days of marrying right out of college. How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because many (most?) of us meet our spouses in the workplace or through post-college networks. Gone are the days of marrying right out of college. How old are you?

Nobody said anything about “marrying right out of college.”

[Anonymous]

Because it is sexist and old fashioned.

Most of us expect our kids to have serious careers, and plenty of time to partner off after college.

[Anonymous]

Even if you don’t find your mate in college, you may well be introduced to them during hangouts with the college friends in your city after you start working, at weddings etc. And the mate is then likely to be of similar status.

That being said, a university that attracts talented people, even if it’s not a “top” university, can still lead to good marriages.

[Anonymous]

You sound gross.

Of all of the qualities I hope my daughter lands in a lifelong partner, "elite" is not one that comes to mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it is sexist and old fashioned.

Most of us expect our kids to have serious careers, and plenty of time to partner off after college.

Higher chance of partnering off with someone similarly situated if you went to a top college.

[Anonymous]

I hope my kid marries and starts having kids soon after college. We waited too long and ended up having fertility issues.

[Anonymous]

Sure. There is a great likelihood that they will come in the orbit of a future spouse in college.

But dating indiscriminately just because one is in college?? It’s a recipe to become a man whore or a cum bucket.

Good judgement is always required to find a quality spouse.

[Anonymous]

Many guys are not ready for relationships that lead to marriage either in college or just after leaving college. If I told my DD to pursue someone like this, I'd just be setting her up to be a long term girl friend who gets dumped just when the guy realizes what he really wants in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

I don't think people overlook it, but they're generally let down when they go to "top schools" and see how many poor kids there are. This is not what they were expecting! This is not what Princeton looked like in 1984!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many guys are not ready for relationships that lead to marriage either in college or just after leaving college. If I told my DD to pursue someone like this, I'd just be setting her up to be a long term girl friend who gets dumped just when the guy realizes what he really wants in a marriage.

High earning men who went to a top schools aren’t settling down until their 30s, and if and when they are, it’s with a woman in her 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think people overlook it, but they're generally let down when they go to "top schools" and see how many poor kids there are. This is not what they were expecting! This is not what Princeton looked like in 1984!

Where's that vomit emoji when you need it?

By the way PP, just have your kid join a top, top frat/sorority (if they can get in.) The 2020s version of Buffy/Kip still lives on there.