Question for older men who date much younger women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

It’s in your head. Many 40+ women don’t have what you described, and do my mother it’s not even there at 70. You must be gay or have ED

Taking a post *insulting men* and attacking the poster as either homosexual (so, bad!) or suffering from a medical condition is so peak DCUM, it’s breathtaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I’m 45 very slim and young looking, have no issues dating within 5 years of my own age. Current BF of 6 months is 1.5 years younger and very accomplished and mature. Being slim on dating market does change the game. You’ve got to be super slim, not just normal size. Men associate thin with youthfulness. Few women over 40 are like that but they attract majority of serious relationship minded men. I don’t want to brag, but I had 2-3 weekly dates and dozens of inquiries per day when I was looking

I have no doubt you can get plenty of dates, but you are the exception. Most women in their 40s are not as attractive as you.

I just got back from church and was looking at the families with parents in their 50s, usually with teenaged or college-aged kids with them. Overall, the men looked more attractive than the women. More fit, better dressed. Many of the men had grey hair, but they wore it well.

Nah, most men in their 40s look terrible also. That’s why the first instinct here is to not believe me when I pop up in these threads to mention how easy a time I have dating college students. I’m fine being an outlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

It’s in your head. Many 40+ women don’t have what you described, and do my mother it’s not even there at 70. You must be gay or have ED

This. It’s like men have no idea that womens bodues don’t age the way their faces/necks and hands do. I’m 51 and my body still looks 36.

You guys are confused. The PP is stating that the idea of a young woman's firm body comingled with an aging man's body, with moobs (man boobs), wrinkled sagging skin is gross.

And I kinda agree.

I'm 52, DH 57. I'm Asian American, and yes, I do look younger, and my flesh is not as wrinkled as many other 50 something yr old women. I've only just started going gray. I love DH very much, but he's an aging white guy with very wrinkled saggy skin with moobs.

If I were to be complete superficial, I don't find that attractive, at all. The thought of sleeping with someone like Donald Trump truly makes me gag.

For the most part, these older men will become even less attractive to these young women who will still be in their prime in 10 years.

I hope both the women and the men in these relationships realize this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

It’s in your head. Many 40+ women don’t have what you described, and do my mother it’s not even there at 70. You must be gay or have ED

This. It’s like men have no idea that womens bodues don’t age the way their faces/necks and hands do. I’m 51 and my body still looks 36.

You guys are confused. The PP is stating that the idea of a young woman's firm body comingled with an aging man's body, with moobs (man boobs), wrinkled sagging skin is gross.

And I kinda agree.

I'm 52, DH 57. I'm Asian American, and yes, I do look younger, and my flesh is not as wrinkled as many other 50 something yr old women. I've only just started going gray. I love DH very much, but he's an aging white guy with very wrinkled saggy skin with moobs.

If I were to be complete superficial, I don't find that attractive, at all. The thought of sleeping with someone like Donald Trump truly makes me gag.

For the most part, these older men will become even less attractive to these young women who will still be in their prime in 10 years.

I hope both the women and the men in these relationships realize this.

I am a woman and yes I agree. White American women and men look terrible. I’m not US born and also more of mixed race maybe that’s why I look younger at 45.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Why did you need to date so many mid 20s women, and didn’t stop on one ? Are you poly or smth ?

Because they're hot and less picky than women in the 40s and up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Why did you need to date so many mid 20s women, and didn’t stop on one ? Are you poly or smth ?

Because they're hot and less picky than women in the 40s and up.

That’s ok but why don’t you stay with one woman in her 20s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It mostly the comingling of her firm, young body with the withered flesh, sagging moobs, and flabby belly that makes me want to vomit.

It’s in your head. Many 40+ women don’t have what you described, and do my mother it’s not even there at 70. You must be gay or have ED

This. It’s like men have no idea that womens bodues don’t age the way their faces/necks and hands do. I’m 51 and my body still looks 36.

You guys are confused. The PP is stating that the idea of a young woman's firm body comingled with an aging man's body, with moobs (man boobs), wrinkled sagging skin is gross.

And I kinda agree.

I'm 52, DH 57. I'm Asian American, and yes, I do look younger, and my flesh is not as wrinkled as many other 50 something yr old women. I've only just started going gray. I love DH very much, but he's an aging white guy with very wrinkled saggy skin with moobs.

If I were to be complete superficial, I don't find that attractive, at all. The thought of sleeping with someone like Donald Trump truly makes me gag.

For the most part, these older men will become even less attractive to these young women who will still be in their prime in 10 years.

I hope both the women and the men in these relationships realize this.

As a 46 year old man, I totally agree that men and women both are physically more attractive when we are younger. For better or worse, women prize things in men more than physical appearance, like wealth and ambition and wit, etc.

And I have no desire to be dating the same woman in 10 years so this isn't an issue

[Anonymous]

I'm mid 50s and male. I have never looked better, although I look more or less my age. (Maybe I look 5-10 years younger because I have been eating well, exercising, and dressing well lately.) My girlfriend is 20 years younger. She loves running her fingers through my salt and pepper hair and telling me how sexy it is.

I also have been very attracted to women my own age and older. based on those prior relationships, I completely agree with the prior comment that their hands, necks and faces age the most. Their sexual function seems different too. Though their bodies look fantastic, they seem slower to warm up and get lubricated than younger women. Forutnartely most of them still responded etremely well when I moved things along things slowly.

One thing that women of all ages have shown me is that a woman's sexul response depends a lot on where she is emotionally, how she is feeling at the moment, and how she likes to be held, touched, etc. I've had crazy hot sex for an extended period of time with a highly orgasmic woman who was almost 60, but she told me she went three years without having an O at the end of her marriage. I also totally flopped with a woman in her mid-30s. I couldn't get her off no matter what I did--she said she preferred much rougher men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 50s and male. I have never looked better, although I look more or less my age. (Maybe I look 5-10 years younger because I have been eating well, exercising, and dressing well lately.) My girlfriend is 20 years younger. She loves running her fingers through my salt and pepper hair and telling me how sexy it is.

I also have been very attracted to women my own age and older. based on those prior relationships, I completely agree with the prior comment that their hands, necks and faces age the most. Their sexual function seems different too. Though their bodies look fantastic, they seem slower to warm up and get lubricated than younger women. Forutnartely most of them still responded etremely well when I moved things along things slowly.

One thing that women of all ages have shown me is that a woman's sexul response depends a lot on where she is emotionally, how she is feeling at the moment, and how she likes to be held, touched, etc. I've had crazy hot sex for an extended period of time with a highly orgasmic woman who was almost 60, but she told me she went three years without having an O at the end of her marriage. I also totally flopped with a woman in her mid-30s. I couldn't get her off no matter what I did--she said she preferred much rougher men.

30s to me was the lowest libido age. Child birth really affected it, and I had multiple endometriosis related surgeries. It was insane high and fast multiple Os in my 20s. I remember being so wet it was slurping and sheets all wet. Men in early 30s were best marches sexually, we would spend many hours in bed and they could finish 3-4 times
In my 40s the libido from 20s is almost back now that my child is grown up. It does take longer to warm up (but there are good V creams for that, and it’s probably couple min difference). If a man is hot I still finish pretty fast, but men 5+ years older are more on same page with me in terms of tempo, amplitude and time it takes us both to O. I like finishing at the same time with him. A younger man has to finish first then rest then put it in again to let me finish.

It’s just different preferences depending on age. I can understand why 50 yo man would date a 30 yo women - it’s the lower libido years for women with kids, professional demanding jobs etc.

[Anonymous]

I've been in relationships with younger women for about 15 years now. I'm dating a woman now who is 18 years younger than me.

-Do you go out in public on dates?
Absolutely. And younger women love to go out, dancing, bar hopping, etc. I love to be seen with her.

-Do your friends and family know about her?
Of course they do. Why not? Are you implying that I should keep her hidden?

-Do you see a long-term relationship or marriage happening?
I had a long-term, 10 year relationship with my last GF who was 14 years younger. We were talking marriage but she passed. My current relationship is too new to answer that question,

-Is it just to get through to the next “real” relationship?
Again, the implications in your question. Why would it not be a "real" relationship?

-What do you have to talk about?
Everything and anything although I will limit my discussions to things I know she will be aware of and not common knowledge of things before she was born. But I will kind of mansplain those times if I really want to talk about something from those years. Definitely, some of my musical interests include bands she has never heard of but that also makes it intersting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you guys meeting these younger women on the normal apps (Tinder/Bumble/Hinge) or in some other way?

Bumble and Hinge.

And POF but I do much better meeting younger women in person at social events. YOu can claim to look and act younger than your age all you want but it's still a big, looming number on a dating site if you tell the truth. In person, they meet the real me long before my age comes out. I may have a first date before that happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been in relationships with younger women for about 15 years now. I'm dating a woman now who is 18 years younger than me.

-Do you go out in public on dates?
Absolutely. And younger women love to go out, dancing, bar hopping, etc. I love to be seen with her.

-Do your friends and family know about her?
Of course they do. Why not? Are you implying that I should keep her hidden?

-Do you see a long-term relationship or marriage happening?
I had a long-term, 10 year relationship with my last GF who was 14 years younger. We were talking marriage but she passed. My current relationship is too new to answer that question,

-Is it just to get through to the next “real” relationship?
Again, the implications in your question. Why would it not be a "real" relationship?

-What do you have to talk about?
Everything and anything although I will limit my discussions to things I know she will be aware of and not common knowledge of things before she was born. But I will kind of mansplain those times if I really want to talk about something from those years. Definitely, some of my musical interests include bands she has never heard of but that also makes it intersting.

Honestly, what’s your annual income and net worth ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Wow - do their parents tend to hate you?? I don’t find a 50 year old dating a 35 year old remarkable, but mid 20s is YOUNG and that seems creepy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been in relationships with younger women for about 15 years now. I'm dating a woman now who is 18 years younger than me.

-Do you go out in public on dates?
Absolutely. And younger women love to go out, dancing, bar hopping, etc. I love to be seen with her.

-Do your friends and family know about her?
Of course they do. Why not? Are you implying that I should keep her hidden?

-Do you see a long-term relationship or marriage happening?
I had a long-term, 10 year relationship with my last GF who was 14 years younger. We were talking marriage but she passed. My current relationship is too new to answer that question,

-Is it just to get through to the next “real” relationship?
Again, the implications in your question. Why would it not be a "real" relationship?

-What do you have to talk about?
Everything and anything although I will limit my discussions to things I know she will be aware of and not common knowledge of things before she was born. But I will kind of mansplain those times if I really want to talk about something from those years. Definitely, some of my musical interests include bands she has never heard of but that also makes it intersting.

Honestly, what’s your annual income and net worth ?

I drive a 12 year old Toyota, live in a very modest house I own, not high income at all or anything that shows signs of wealth except one very expensive hobby that I don't even mention for a while. Again, I like your implication that a younger woman only wants me for my money, or perceived wealth but you've failed at it. I will readily admit, as I've gotten older, the pool of women who are willing to date a man 12-20 years younger than me (the range I like) is small, but they are definitely out there and I've learned how to find them. The ratio of available women to men in this area is very favorable to men in general so I believe that does make it easier than most other places in the country. If I chose to date within my age range, or maybe just 5-10 years younger I could line up 3 dates a week for the rest of the year. But, no thanks. I will date women in that range, but it's a rare exception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Wow - do their parents tend to hate you?? I don’t find a 50 year old dating a 35 year old remarkable, but mid 20s is YOUNG and that seems creepy

Not the PP answering you here. IN my experience, most of them are on bad terms with their parents.