By what age do you stop laying with your kids in bed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a cultural thing. We are non-White immigrants. The crib was always in our bedroom. We nursed on demand, did not CIO. Baby slept on our chest, lap, bed when she was awake. From the crib, the baby went on a queen bed in her room. We read to kids snuggling with them in the bed. We talk and watch movies together in bed.

Around the world, this is normal behavior.

I posted above that I never lie down with my kids to get them to sleep. But we did have the crib in our bedroom until about 8-9 months when our babies started STTN and I did nurse on demand, I did not do CIO, and when my kids were babies they napped on me (on my chest/in my arms) or on the bed right next to me during the day until about 4-5 months old. So you and I are not that different in terms of baby sleep practices. However, I have never done the lying down with them til they fall asleep thing. We read books in their chair or in their bed then hug and kiss and say goodnight and leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that never lie in bed with their kids?

It is both odd and sad.

[Anonymous]

Icuddle with my kids in bed all the time. They are 3 are 7. Notnuntil they fqll asleep though unless sick.

[Anonymous]

Never really did this. I'd read to my son in his bed when he was little and I still do at 7 years old but just lying in his bed ... No. He also never did this in my bed. We cuddle on the couch and watch tv though. Lying in my bed was just something I never did or encouraged with him and I don't olan to do it with DD either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a cultural thing. We are non-White immigrants. The crib was always in our bedroom. We nursed on demand, did not CIO. Baby slept on our chest, lap, bed when she was awake. From the crib, the baby went on a queen bed in her room. We read to kids snuggling with them in the bed. We talk and watch movies together in bed.

Around the world, this is normal behavior.

I posted above that I never lie down with my kids to get them to sleep. But we did have the crib in our bedroom until about 8-9 months when our babies started STTN and I did nurse on demand, I did not do CIO, and when my kids were babies they napped on me (on my chest/in my arms) or on the bed right next to me during the day until about 4-5 months old. So you and I are not that different in terms of baby sleep practices. However, I have never done the lying down with them til they fall asleep thing. We read books in their chair or in their bed then hug and kiss and say goodnight and leave.

Same here. My kids have always been able to fall asleep on their own.

[Anonymous]

Tweens and teen still come lay in bed with me. Tweens still sleep in bed with us after a bad dream or if not feeling well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never

Ooops that came out wrong. I never started. This is not a normal thing to do, OP.

You should have stayed with your first post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 40 and will still lay in bed with either of my parents to watch a show or something if we're visiting each others houses. They both often go to their room to get settled and ready for bed before they want to go to sleep so I go hang out with them on their bed to chat and watch their shows

thats so special!

[Anonymous]

I’m kind of weirded out by the full grown adults doing this! I love my parents dearly, and we cuddled on the sofa even in HS (no TVs in bedrooms) but would feel awkward doing that after college, acquiring a spouse and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m kind of weirded out by the full grown adults doing this! I love my parents dearly, and we cuddled on the sofa even in HS (no TVs in bedrooms) but would feel awkward doing that after college, acquiring a spouse and kids.

What do you see at the difference? I’m the pp that lays on their bed with them to watch tv, we aren’t spooning just both laying back on their bed instead of a sofa. I personally find cuddling at that age (whether on a couch or bed) way more strange than hanging out on a bed

[Anonymous]

My of 3DC here.

When my DD20 was recuperating for an adenoidectomy and tonsillectomy (both), I provided round the clock care to her to include co-sleeping (with one eye open).

Our other DD turned 17 last week. She asked if she could have a sleepover in our bed the night before her birthday.


These days are fleeting. No regrets.

Number of times I ever slept in my parents’ bed: zero.

[Anonymous]

We used to "snuggle" with our kids, which meant lying in bed with them for 5 mins and chatting. My older one requested snuggles stop when she turned 13, but my younger one will be 13 in April and has shown no intentions of giving up snuggles any time soon. He would sleep in bed with us if we let him.

[Anonymous]

I lie down and chat with my 13 year old daughter at bedtime for about 10 minutes most nights.

My 11 year old son falls asleep in his own bed alone every night and most nights ends up coming and getting in bed with us still. We don't mind...he'll stop doing it when he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lie down and chat with my 13 year old daughter at bedtime for about 10 minutes most nights.

My 11 year old son falls asleep in his own bed alone every night and most nights ends up coming and getting in bed with us still. We don't mind...he'll stop doing it when he wants.

This is my worst nightmare (being woken up nightly post toddlerhood), but whatever works.

[Anonymous]

It hasn’t stopped. They are nearly 17 to nearly 30.