By what age do you stop laying with your kids in bed?

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that never lie in bed with their kids?

It is both odd and sad.

I say this as a person who still lies in bed with their kids (11 and 13 years old...)

I don't think it's odd or sad. People have very different levels of comfort around physical affection and what the bedroom is for (just sleep? sleep and sex? TV? Everyone piles into bed together to sleep? lots of other options). I am NOT a snuggly person but my son is the most snuggly child in the world and has been from birth. My daughter is way more prickly and only wants snuggly attention on her own terms, for short periods, and she's always been that way too.

As long as there's nothing sexy going on, there's nothing wrong with cosleeping until adulthood (in my opinion) and as long as a child gets comfort in ways other than physical closeness, there's nothing wrong with NEVER cosleeping (in my opinion).

Same. We talk, listen to audio books, tell funny stories about the day. It's the time when my 13 year old DS really talks to me. My 13 year old is a very funny person and that comes out the most when we lie there at night. Other family members get annoyed because they can hear us laughing.

My 11 year old is most likely to fall asleep immediately but he wants me by his side. He likes to listen to podcasts together and he'll fall asleep before they're over. It's comforting for him.

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12 yo boy still climbs in our bed every morning. No more bedtime cuddles though.

When my mom was dying we would sometimes just lie on her bed side by side and talk bc that was all she could do, to be together.

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10 and 7 and DH and I still both take turns reading and spending time lying in bed with them so they have time with both of us each night. We each have our special thing - I scratch their backs, DH sings to them. I asked the 10 year old if we should stop and the answer was not yet! 10 yo still comes in our room in the middle of the night quite often and sleeps on the floor and it's fine. Neither were problematic sleepers as babies or toddlers and they rarely give us pushback at bedtime. Both have slept elsewhere without us fine too. Bedtime is when they talk the most and when we feel most connected. Why rock the boat?

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Whenever he won’t let me anymore! Hoping that is never.

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My 13 y.o. son still comes and sits on the bed in our room (I tend to go to bed earlier and read) and listen to an audio book, read something together, or just talk. It seems these are the moments when he is most open to sharing about his life and asking the big questions, and I really appreciate that time together.

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Anonymous wrote:Question in the title.

Dad and daughter? By age 4

Mom and daughter? Never

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This thread has been so reassuring. DH had always done this with our kids, and it was so foreign to me I was worried there was something wrong. Glad to read this is not uncommon.

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Still do this most nights with my 17 year old. I sing a little song, then get up and kiss the top of his head and say good night and I love you.
I asked him if he wanted me to stop but he said it helps him relax and go to sleep. My nephew is 18 and he spends weeks with us in the summer and comes into my sons room for the good night ritual. Last summer he got upset when I started without him (thinking he probably had outgrown it— not so!).

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These posts are making me cry.

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I'm a mom. After divorce, my daughters slept in my bed with me. 11yo finally decided she wanted to sleep in her own bed. 7yo still sleeps next to me. They've always been big snuggles. We also have a couple of terriers in the bed. I know she'll outgrow it one day. Ex-h disagrees. I have a close bond with my kids, and co-slept as babies. I don't have a problem with it, but can see why other parents refuse to co-sleep. Having your own space is nice, too.

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I’m 58 and still get in bed with my Mom to chat/read/watch Tv with her when I visit. I’d do the same with my Dad if he was alive.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Question in the title.

Dad and daughter? By age 4

Mom and daughter? Never

Why is it different for dad and daughter?