Why do some parents support Beach Week?

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Anonymous wrote:Since I was raped at BW, no I would never anyone to it. I think most parents would be shocked about what goes on there. I was.

I am so sorry. And yes, it is these exact horrific experiences I don't my kid anywhere near at Beach Week....

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

yes, I saw the rental that my DC and friends are renting. It's a nice place. Big - I think there will be like 10 of them in there.

DC told me that the 18 yr old friend is renting it. And since this friend is the one legally responsible for the home, they get say in what is or is not allowed, and the rest of them have agreed to adhere to this friend's rules.

LMAO! Good luck to that friend!

Getting a bunch of 17 or 18-year-olds to adhere to rules while no adults are around to enforce said rules sounds like it'll be real easy.

Beach week has been a thing for many many years. If things got out of hand in prior years, don't you think those people would stop renting to the 18 yr olds?

Read:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/parents-beach-week/571576/

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/345261

https://bethesdamagazine.com/2014/01/28/bethesda-seniors-parents-get-police-version-of-beach-week/

And do you think they don't do these things at college in 3 months time?

also, in the article, a parent let a sophmore in HS attend. That I would not do. Not legal age. Also, in the article it says that lots of kids don't do anything really stupid and have fun bonding with their friends.

Also, like I said, if the rentals have had issues with 18 yr old renters, then they wouldn't allow them to rent anymore. That's what car rental places did. Too many under 25 renters destroying the cars, so they stopped renting to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Rich parents who checked out a long time ago.

Yeah. That's my thought.

no. Some of the kids who are going this year aren't from wealthy families. They are straight A magnet students who are reasonably responsible. I'm not saying they are perfect, but they spent the past 4 years in HS being responsible, working hard. If I can't trust my kid in June to have fun responsibly, I don't think I'd let them go off to college.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

I HATE this argument. Do we really have to explain to parents that the very purpose of going off to college is not to get drunk, do drugs and have sex?

some kids don't go to beach to " get drunk, do drugs and have sex". They are going to be with their friends one last time before they separate for college.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

yes, I saw the rental that my DC and friends are renting. It's a nice place. Big - I think there will be like 10 of them in there.

DC told me that the 18 yr old friend is renting it. And since this friend is the one legally responsible for the home, they get say in what is or is not allowed, and the rest of them have agreed to adhere to this friend's rules.

LMAO! Good luck to that friend!

Getting a bunch of 17 or 18-year-olds to adhere to rules while no adults are around to enforce said rules sounds like it'll be real easy.

Beach week has been a thing for many many years. If things got out of hand in prior years, don't you think those people would stop renting to the 18 yr olds?

Read:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/parents-beach-week/571576/

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/345261

https://bethesdamagazine.com/2014/01/28/bethesda-seniors-parents-get-police-version-of-beach-week/

And do you think they don't do these things at college in 3 months time?

also, in the article, a parent let a sophmore in HS attend. That I would not do. Not legal age. Also, in the article it says that lots of kids don't do anything really stupid and have fun bonding with their friends.

Also, like I said, if the rentals have had issues with 18 yr old renters, then they wouldn't allow them to rent anymore. That's what car rental places did. Too many under 25 renters destroying the cars, so they stopped renting to them.

Most of the reports I came across saw the rentals done by adults, not the teens themselves. You're saying it's possible, but that doesn't appear to be the norm, but I'm just taking you at your word that it might be. But even if it is, it doesn't appear to be the majority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:maybe another perspective
my kid went to beach week last summer and by the 4th day was sun burned and over it; tired of the mess of the house and the drama with her friends
if I had not let her go she would have idealized the entire concept and who knows how that would have played out come the start of college
sometimes it really is better to let them experience things and realize that reality is not always like it seems on social media

Interesting point of view! Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

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https://www.oceancity.com/senior-week/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just got into a disagreement with my HS senior because for the....umpteenth time, I said no to him going to Beach Week. He tried to use the fact that a family friend of ours is letting their son go to Beach Week, as if that should mean we should do the same for him.

My first prompt to him was "Who's he going with?" to which he couldn't answer.

But it just boggles my mind that parents PAY MONEY to leave their 17 or 18-year-old kid alone in a house or hotel room with a bunch of other people that same age for a WEEK, and think it's a good idea? How or why? I obviously am under no illusions that teens can't or won't try to find ways to have drugs, sex or drink, by why PAY for them to do so with a free pass? That's insane to me.

He's trying to make me feel like I'm the bad guy, but what am I missing? Why is sending your senior to Beach Week a good idea??

1. HS senior = adult if you did your job
2. If they pay I see no reason why a kid especially one heading to college should not be trusted to go.
3. Beach week is not a guarantee or right or whatever, but also not your business why I or anyone else chooses to let their "kid" go.

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Anonymous wrote:maybe another perspective
my kid went to beach week last summer and by the 4th day was sun burned and over it; tired of the mess of the house and the drama with her friends
if I had not let her go she would have idealized the entire concept and who knows how that would have played out come the start of college
sometimes it really is better to let them experience things and realize that reality is not always like it seems on social media

Interesting point of view! Thank you.

Agreed!

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

yes, I saw the rental that my DC and friends are renting. It's a nice place. Big - I think there will be like 10 of them in there.

DC told me that the 18 yr old friend is renting it. And since this friend is the one legally responsible for the home, they get say in what is or is not allowed, and the rest of them have agreed to adhere to this friend's rules.

LMAO! Good luck to that friend!

Getting a bunch of 17 or 18-year-olds to adhere to rules while no adults are around to enforce said rules sounds like it'll be real easy.

Beach week has been a thing for many many years. If things got out of hand in prior years, don't you think those people would stop renting to the 18 yr olds?

Read:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/parents-beach-week/571576/

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/345261

https://bethesdamagazine.com/2014/01/28/bethesda-seniors-parents-get-police-version-of-beach-week/

If it bleeds it leads.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since I was raped at BW, no I would never anyone to it. I think most parents would be shocked about what goes on there. I was.

I am so sorry. And yes, it is these exact horrific experiences I don't my kid anywhere near at Beach Week....

Or Prep students

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, Op. we said no to our kids. It’s a terrible idea.

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

Then the same should be for OP she is judgemental and should mind her own business.

If she doesn't want her kid to go fine. She has no business judging anyone who thinks it's ok to go.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

This is beyond dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just got into a disagreement with my HS senior because for the....umpteenth time, I said no to him going to Beach Week. He tried to use the fact that a family friend of ours is letting their son go to Beach Week, as if that should mean we should do the same for him.

My first prompt to him was "Who's he going with?" to which he couldn't answer.

But it just boggles my mind that parents PAY MONEY to leave their 17 or 18-year-old kid alone in a house or hotel room with a bunch of other people that same age for a WEEK, and think it's a good idea? How or why? I obviously am under no illusions that teens can't or won't try to find ways to have drugs, sex or drink, by why PAY for them to do so with a free pass? That's insane to me.

He's trying to make me feel like I'm the bad guy, but what am I missing? Why is sending your senior to Beach Week a good idea??

Have you asked the family friend?