I hate having friends’ kids over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bore and a mean person. Relax and stop being so uptight.

Found OP’s friends.

+1

No kidding! Not even trying to hide. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Do you set them up for failure? Are there things that they can play with - something for a large age range (legos, magnatiles, wherever).

Just out on a movie (made for all ages like Minions, Encanto, whatever) works too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

I don’t really want to hire a babysitter for guests.

Then don’t. In that case, your options are:

1) Don’t invite them over.
2) Invite them over, but explicitly ask the parents to watch their kids because they are out of control.
3) Invite them over, but be prepared to supervise the kids yourself (or you and DH if DH agrees to do so).

Those are your choices. Whining on the internet about something you keep doing over and over is not a choice, because you have control over whether you invite them or not, etc. Make your pick from the list above and then shut up.

Clearly OP's friends are entitled bores, and are chiming in here. Thank you for outing yourself.

OP, your friends know you are too nice, and they are clearly taking advantage. They are users, and they know a target when they see one.

Better to learn this early!

There was a PP who assumed you were "rich" OP - intriguing how these people think, and how they presume to know anyone's financial situation - says so much about their entitlement.

Again, better learn this early - there are some beauties out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you set them up for failure? Are there things that they can play with - something for a large age range (legos, magnatiles, wherever).

Just out on a movie (made for all ages like Minions, Encanto, whatever) works too.

+1 Did you do anything to prepare for 5 kids under the age of 12, or were you really expecting them all to sit and quietly read a book the whole time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you set them up for failure? Are there things that they can play with - something for a large age range (legos, magnatiles, wherever).

Just out on a movie (made for all ages like Minions, Encanto, whatever) works too.

Maybe the friend could bring ANYTHING to help OP. If the kids have ADD and too much energy lose interest quickly, there is no winning for OP - and surely these other parents know that (which is why the friend tends to have OP host).

OP, does the other family ever host, or bring any toys, games, activities, etc.? Not talking about brining sugar, of course (those kids kids need might need a better diet, for one).

You said they are SAHM's - are you? You want "friends" (even if it is just for the kids) to be on the same page as you. You don't want to spend too much time on other children - you need your energy for your own children! Example: look at the moms on their phones at the park, while their children are hurt or bothered by other kids - those kids aren't learning anything but that their parent could not GAF about them. I am talking about the kids who approach other moms for help/assistance/engagement. If that is not you, don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you set them up for failure? Are there things that they can play with - something for a large age range (legos, magnatiles, wherever).

Just out on a movie (made for all ages like Minions, Encanto, whatever) works too.

+1 Did you do anything to prepare for 5 kids under the age of 12, or were you really expecting them all to sit and quietly read a book the whole time?

Did their parents??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

I don’t really want to hire a babysitter for guests.

Then don’t. In that case, your options are:

1) Don’t invite them over.
2) Invite them over, but explicitly ask the parents to watch their kids because they are out of control.
3) Invite them over, but be prepared to supervise the kids yourself (or you and DH if DH agrees to do so).

Those are your choices. Whining on the internet about something you keep doing over and over is not a choice, because you have control over whether you invite them or not, etc. Make your pick from the list above and then shut up.

Clearly OP's friends are entitled bores, and are chiming in here. Thank you for outing yourself.

OP, your friends know you are too nice, and they are clearly taking advantage. They are users, and they know a target when they see one.

Better to learn this early!

There was a PP who assumed you were "rich" OP - intriguing how these people think, and how they presume to know anyone's financial situation - says so much about their entitlement.

Again, better learn this early - there are some beauties out there.

Oh, you tried so hard! I have two extremely well-behaved daughters, and we actively parent our children. We do most of the hosting in our group, but when we are guests, our children are unfailingly polite and are often complimented.

But I think it’s pointless and tiresome for OP to complain about a repeated dynamic that is 100% in her control. Tell me—do tell—what is the solution beyond what I’ve pointed out above? Or are you really so defensive that you can’t point out an alternate solution. I’d love to hear it, truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

I don’t really want to hire a babysitter for guests.

Then don’t. In that case, your options are:

1) Don’t invite them over.
2) Invite them over, but explicitly ask the parents to watch their kids because they are out of control.
3) Invite them over, but be prepared to supervise the kids yourself (or you and DH if DH agrees to do so).

Those are your choices. Whining on the internet about something you keep doing over and over is not a choice, because you have control over whether you invite them or not, etc. Make your pick from the list above and then shut up.

Clearly OP's friends are entitled bores, and are chiming in here. Thank you for outing yourself.

OP, your friends know you are too nice, and they are clearly taking advantage. They are users, and they know a target when they see one.

Better to learn this early!

There was a PP who assumed you were "rich" OP - intriguing how these people think, and how they presume to know anyone's financial situation - says so much about their entitlement.

Again, better learn this early - there are some beauties out there.

Oh, you tried so hard! I have two extremely well-behaved daughters, and we actively parent our children. We do most of the hosting in our group, but when we are guests, our children are unfailingly polite and are often complimented.

But I think it’s pointless and tiresome for OP to complain about a repeated dynamic that is 100% in her control. Tell me—do tell—what is the solution beyond what I’ve pointed out above? Or are you really so defensive that you can’t point out an alternate solution. I’d love to hear it, truly.

Whoa. Struck a. nerve!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you set them up for failure? Are there things that they can play with - something for a large age range (legos, magnatiles, wherever).

Just out on a movie (made for all ages like Minions, Encanto, whatever) works too.

+1 Did you do anything to prepare for 5 kids under the age of 12, or were you really expecting them all to sit and quietly read a book the whole time?

I told them to bring their own toys because we have very few left. We have a box of legos, board games, and TV with all movies under the sun.
One kid broke all DC’s architectural legos that were constructed.

[Anonymous]

OP are you the one in the thread about their kids saying slang words? You give off that vibe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

I don’t really want to hire a babysitter for guests.

Then don’t. In that case, your options are:

1) Don’t invite them over.
2) Invite them over, but explicitly ask the parents to watch their kids because they are out of control.
3) Invite them over, but be prepared to supervise the kids yourself (or you and DH if DH agrees to do so).

Those are your choices. Whining on the internet about something you keep doing over and over is not a choice, because you have control over whether you invite them or not, etc. Make your pick from the list above and then shut up.

Clearly OP's friends are entitled bores, and are chiming in here. Thank you for outing yourself.

OP, your friends know you are too nice, and they are clearly taking advantage. They are users, and they know a target when they see one.

Better to learn this early!

There was a PP who assumed you were "rich" OP - intriguing how these people think, and how they presume to know anyone's financial situation - says so much about their entitlement.

Again, better learn this early - there are some beauties out there.

Oh, you tried so hard! I have two extremely well-behaved daughters, and we actively parent our children. We do most of the hosting in our group, but when we are guests, our children are unfailingly polite and are often complimented.

But I think it’s pointless and tiresome for OP to complain about a repeated dynamic that is 100% in her control. Tell me—do tell—what is the solution beyond what I’ve pointed out above? Or are you really so defensive that you can’t point out an alternate solution. I’d love to hear it, truly.

DP. Same. My two kids are very well-behaved and I would never let them get out of control at someone else’s home. But I also think OP sounds ridiculous. She has options here, but she’s rather just whine about it to make herself feel superior.

[Anonymous]

Invite less children, maybe one couple + kids. Everybody outside - and that means activities and food. Setup beverages outside. Indoors is for the bathroom only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

I don’t really want to hire a babysitter for guests.

Then don’t. In that case, your options are:

1) Don’t invite them over.
2) Invite them over, but explicitly ask the parents to watch their kids because they are out of control.
3) Invite them over, but be prepared to supervise the kids yourself (or you and DH if DH agrees to do so).

Those are your choices. Whining on the internet about something you keep doing over and over is not a choice, because you have control over whether you invite them or not, etc. Make your pick from the list above and then shut up.

Clearly OP's friends are entitled bores, and are chiming in here. Thank you for outing yourself.

OP, your friends know you are too nice, and they are clearly taking advantage. They are users, and they know a target when they see one.

Better to learn this early!

There was a PP who assumed you were "rich" OP - intriguing how these people think, and how they presume to know anyone's financial situation - says so much about their entitlement.

Again, better learn this early - there are some beauties out there.

Oh, you tried so hard! I have two extremely well-behaved daughters, and we actively parent our children. We do most of the hosting in our group, but when we are guests, our children are unfailingly polite and are often complimented.

But I think it’s pointless and tiresome for OP to complain about a repeated dynamic that is 100% in her control. Tell me—do tell—what is the solution beyond what I’ve pointed out above? Or are you really so defensive that you can’t point out an alternate solution. I’d love to hear it, truly.

Whoa. Struck a. nerve!

Got it: you have no other solution to offer. If you did, you’d have posted it. So you are one of those do-the-same-things-and-complain types. How dreadful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you set them up for failure? Are there things that they can play with - something for a large age range (legos, magnatiles, wherever).

Just out on a movie (made for all ages like Minions, Encanto, whatever) works too.

+1 Did you do anything to prepare for 5 kids under the age of 12, or were you really expecting them all to sit and quietly read a book the whole time?

I told them to bring their own toys because we have very few left. We have a box of legos, board games, and TV with all movies under the sun.
One kid broke all DC’s architectural legos that were constructed.

Kids don’t want to play with their own toys when they’re at someone else’s house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you set them up for failure? Are there things that they can play with - something for a large age range (legos, magnatiles, wherever).

Just out on a movie (made for all ages like Minions, Encanto, whatever) works too.

+1 Did you do anything to prepare for 5 kids under the age of 12, or were you really expecting them all to sit and quietly read a book the whole time?

I told them to bring their own toys because we have very few left. We have a box of legos, board games, and TV with all movies under the sun.
One kid broke all DC’s architectural legos that were constructed.

Yeah, it is tough, OP. Some kids are not checked in on, and you now know you have to do that. Too much work for you!

Do your kids even like or enjoy their kids?

We knew one family who had a hitter (old enough to know better, but never disciplined), and that was the end of that. If these kids know that you don't want to watch them 24/7 (as you should not have to), then they know they can do WTH they want - and those parents will be more than happy to watch from the sidelines.

Hide your sulfur matches, or just meet elsewhere.