Can my mother get rid of my belongings without my permission ?

[Anonymous]

If you wanted the stuff, you should have taken it when she moved and rented your own storage unit. Same for the coins.

[Anonymous]

The move was a very sudden move and we had to clear out her home in a very short amount of time. We didn’t have time at that point to sort through all of the family stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

An adult should have taken her stuff when mom moved. Op could have arranged and paid for her own storage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The move was a very sudden move and we had to clear out her home in a very short amount of time. We didn’t have time at that point to sort through all of the family stuff.

OK. And after that? Mom paid for storage, she can dispose of the stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You all Are harsh. I will clarify, I gave my mom more than enough money for the storage unit when she moved. This isn’t a super expensive Dc storage. It’s $30 an month rural storage. Additionally, I partially supported my mother financially for a number of years. There is a bunch of family stuff in there that I wanted but at the time didn’t have the bandwidth to sort through. She didn’t either, which is why we stuck it in storage to deal with at a later date. I had three kids in 3 years so it wasn’t at the forefront of my mind. As for the coins, my brother agreed in writing to return them and not refuses to respond.

OK OP then I will simply answer your question: Yes your mother can get rid of your belongings without your permission because she clearly did just that. Nothing you could do about it now will help you in any way unless you could get your mother to go get your belongings back. Is that an option?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

An adult should have taken her stuff when mom moved. Op could have arranged and paid for her own storage.

I don’t know why I have to repeat this but I gave my mother ample money for the storage. She was not storing my stuff for free. I paid most of her bills for most of a decade so not sure why everyone is making me seem like a free loader. She agreed to store all of the stuff for not only me but my two other sibling because none of us could go through it at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

An adult should have taken her stuff when mom moved. Op could have arranged and paid for her own storage.

I don’t know why I have to repeat this but I gave my mother ample money for the storage. She was not storing my stuff for free. I paid most of her bills for most of a decade so not sure why everyone is making me seem like a free loader. She agreed to store all of the stuff for not only me but my two other sibling because none of us could go through it at that point.

She probably considers it her stuff, not "family stuff." I'm just guessing. Put your pride aside and ask her what happened to it. For all you know, it's in another storage space somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

An adult should have taken her stuff when mom moved. Op could have arranged and paid for her own storage.

I don’t know why I have to repeat this but I gave my mother ample money for the storage. She was not storing my stuff for free. I paid most of her bills for most of a decade so not sure why everyone is making me seem like a free loader. She agreed to store all of the stuff for not only me but my two other sibling because none of us could go through it at that point.

It seems like those details could have been in the opening post. They are im

[Anonymous]

*important. If the unit was only in her name she can empty it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She can do whatever she wants with your belonging if the stuff was important you would of kept it with you.

This. If you cared, you could’ve rented a storage unit.

[Anonymous]

Details are important.

Is your name on the storage agreement? Is your mom’s? What does it say about who has access?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*important. If the unit was only in her name she can empty it.

I did make a post clarifying that I did give her money for it. I didn’t think it would be an issue, but here we are. The storage until was in her name. We were on speaking terms at that point. We agreed that we would all (siblings and mom) return to sort it out in the future. It just appears my mother and brother did that by themselves. I didn’t think it was so bizarre to make verbal agreement with family but I guess from all the PPs it’s not as common as I thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*important. If the unit was only in her name she can empty it.

I did make a post clarifying that I did give her money for it. I didn’t think it would be an issue, but here we are. The storage until was in her name. We were on speaking terms at that point. We agreed that we would all (siblings and mom) return to sort it out in the future. It just appears my mother and brother did that by themselves. I didn’t think it was so bizarre to make verbal agreement with family but I guess from all the PPs it’s not as common as I thought.

But five years, OP. Come on. She probably thought you didn’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*important. If the unit was only in her name she can empty it.

I did make a post clarifying that I did give her money for it. I didn’t think it would be an issue, but here we are. The storage until was in her name. We were on speaking terms at that point. We agreed that we would all (siblings and mom) return to sort it out in the future. It just appears my mother and brother did that by themselves. I didn’t think it was so bizarre to make verbal agreement with family but I guess from all the PPs it’s not as common as I thought.

But five years, OP. Come on. She probably thought you didn’t care.

+1 plus I’m getting serious “worthless junk of hoarders” vibe from this post. Completely dysfunctional family with estrangement. Check. Storage that goes on for years. Check. Storage in a boonies that is fodder for those reality shows about storage unit auctions. Check. OP, I promise you that stuff you were holding onto was 100% certified crap. Please just walk away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The move was a very sudden move and we had to clear out her home in a very short amount of time. We didn’t have time at that point to sort through all of the family stuff.

But you could have easily gone to the storage unit once the move was over.