Can my mother get rid of my belongings without my permission ?

[Anonymous]

Trying to imagine what Judge Judy would say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trying to imagine what Judge Judy would say.

She's nasty.

[Anonymous]

Your family sucks. But you should have gotten your stuff.

[Anonymous]

How much are the coins worth, OP?

If the coins are worth more than the lawyers’ fees, go ahead and get a lawyer.

The rest of your stuff? Bygones.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

How could OP have done that if she wasn't even told it the space was being cleared out?

Mom sold the house five years ago. OP had five years - and should have potentially retrieved her belongings before mom sold the house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

How could OP have done that if she wasn't even told it the space was being cleared out?

Mom sold the house five years ago. OP had five years - and should have potentially retrieved her belongings before mom sold the house.

Five years ago OP's mom put OP's belongings in storage along with her own things. Whatever agreement regarding rent should have been addressed then. Now the mom has cleared out the space without telling OP to get her things, or even "You owe me money for 5 years of storage if you want to get your things back". Instead she says nothing. Just gets rid of the stuff. Come on, that's just crappy behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

How could OP have done that if she wasn't even told it the space was being cleared out?

Mom sold the house five years ago. OP had five years - and should have potentially retrieved her belongings before mom sold the house.

Five years ago OP's mom put OP's belongings in storage along with her own things. Whatever agreement regarding rent should have been addressed then. Now the mom has cleared out the space without telling OP to get her things, or even "You owe me money for 5 years of storage if you want to get your things back". Instead she says nothing. Just gets rid of the stuff. Come on, that's just crappy behavior.

Crappy, yes. And OP storing rent free for years is crappy.

OP asked what recourse they have. Zero.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

How could OP have done that if she wasn't even told it the space was being cleared out?

Mom sold the house five years ago. OP had five years - and should have potentially retrieved her belongings before mom sold the house.

Five years ago OP's mom put OP's belongings in storage along with her own things. Whatever agreement regarding rent should have been addressed then. Now the mom has cleared out the space without telling OP to get her things, or even "You owe me money for 5 years of storage if you want to get your things back". Instead she says nothing. Just gets rid of the stuff. Come on, that's just crappy behavior.

OP, no, it doesn't work that way.

You're an adult. Other people's homes, even your parents, are not appropriate storage spaces for your belongings. It was up to YOU to figure out what to do with YOUR stuff. YOU should have gotten the ball rolling on coming up with a plan for your things. You had many years by your own admission.

And no, I'm not a parent dealing with this. I never asked my parents to store my stuff, and I had a good relationship with them. When I moved out and way as an adult in my 20s, I moved all my stuff with me. Because I was a grownup.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

How could OP have done that if she wasn't even told it the space was being cleared out?

Mom sold the house five years ago. OP had five years - and should have potentially retrieved her belongings before mom sold the house.

Five years ago OP's mom put OP's belongings in storage along with her own things. Whatever agreement regarding rent should have been addressed then. Now the mom has cleared out the space without telling OP to get her things, or even "You owe me money for 5 years of storage if you want to get your things back". Instead she says nothing. Just gets rid of the stuff. Come on, that's just crappy behavior.

OP, no, it doesn't work that way.

You're an adult. Other people's homes, even your parents, are not appropriate storage spaces for your belongings. It was up to YOU to figure out what to do with YOUR stuff. YOU should have gotten the ball rolling on coming up with a plan for your things. You had many years by your own admission.

And no, I'm not a parent dealing with this. I never asked my parents to store my stuff, and I had a good relationship with them. When I moved out and way as an adult in my 20s, I moved all my stuff with me. Because I was a grownup.

Then her mother should have said that. "No, I don't want to store your belongings." Pretty simple. Instead she said okay, then trashed them.

Plenty of people enjoy storing their family things at their parents' houses. Some even sleep in their old bedrooms when they come home to visit. Really not that unheard of.

[Anonymous]

OP clearly your family is dysfunctional and don't communicate or get along well. You are learning now as an adult that you don't want to be like this. Get some help to address how this weird life your mother and family of origin lives so you can do it differently going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP clearly your family is dysfunctional and don't communicate or get along well. You are learning now as an adult that you don't want to be like this. Get some help to address how this weird life your mother and family of origin lives so you can do it differently going forward.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Wow. You all Are harsh. I will clarify, I gave my mom more than enough money for the storage unit when she moved. This isn’t a super expensive Dc storage. It’s $30 an month rural storage. Additionally, I partially supported my mother financially for a number of years. There is a bunch of family stuff in there that I wanted but at the time didn’t have the bandwidth to sort through. She didn’t either, which is why we stuck it in storage to deal with at a later date. I had three kids in 3 years so it wasn’t at the forefront of my mind. As for the coins, my brother agreed in writing to return them and not refuses to respond.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

How could OP have done that if she wasn't even told it the space was being cleared out?

Mom sold the house five years ago. OP had five years - and should have potentially retrieved her belongings before mom sold the house.

Five years ago OP's mom put OP's belongings in storage along with her own things. Whatever agreement regarding rent should have been addressed then. Now the mom has cleared out the space without telling OP to get her things, or even "You owe me money for 5 years of storage if you want to get your things back". Instead she says nothing. Just gets rid of the stuff. Come on, that's just crappy behavior.

OP, no, it doesn't work that way.

You're an adult. Other people's homes, even your parents, are not appropriate storage spaces for your belongings. It was up to YOU to figure out what to do with YOUR stuff. YOU should have gotten the ball rolling on coming up with a plan for your things. You had many years by your own admission.

And no, I'm not a parent dealing with this. I never asked my parents to store my stuff, and I had a good relationship with them. When I moved out and way as an adult in my 20s, I moved all my stuff with me. Because I was a grownup.

Then her mother should have said that. "No, I don't want to store your belongings." Pretty simple. Instead she said okay, then trashed them.

Plenty of people enjoy storing their family things at their parents' houses. Some even sleep in their old bedrooms when they come home to visit. Really not that unheard of.

OP, did you ever ask your mom if she was ok storing your things? Did she say she was happy to store your stuff at her house or in storage for 5 years?

Or did you never ask? It was your responsibility to ask, if you cared that much about your things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You all Are harsh. I will clarify, I gave my mom more than enough money for the storage unit when she moved. This isn’t a super expensive Dc storage. It’s $30 an month rural storage. Additionally, I partially supported my mother financially for a number of years. There is a bunch of family stuff in there that I wanted but at the time didn’t have the bandwidth to sort through. She didn’t either, which is why we stuck it in storage to deal with at a later date. I had three kids in 3 years so it wasn’t at the forefront of my mind. As for the coins, my brother agreed in writing to return them and not refuses to respond.

Include more detail.

Is your name on the storage agreement?

Is the stuff worth the lawyers’ fees?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mother sounds like a nightmare. This is the kind of unrelenting pain a parent like her will cause. You will never just "get over it' when it comes to your stuff.

Get a lawyer and have them send a letter to your mom and your brother.

I'm sorry you are being tortured by your brother and mom. You deserve better.

Oh it’s a nightmare to have someone else pay for storing your crap when you are a grown-ass adult?

Oh it’s torture that someone else is paying to store your crap?

Here’s a thought: be an adult and pay for your own storage.

Better yet, don’t be a hoarder and have stuff you don’t use, or get a real job and buy a nice house that has enough room.

Yikes. You don't sound like you have normal emotions so it's no wonder you can't relate.

Normal people say, "I don't want to pay for your things to be stored with mine" or "If you want your things kept in my storage space, it will you should pay X amount per month."

Then, "Your brother and I are clearing out the storage space. Do you want your things back? If not, what do you want to do with them, because we can't take them anywhere for you."

Etc.

Normal people say, “Hey, thanks for storing my stuff for years and years for free. Can I help pay to move it to storage and help pay for storage for the next five years?”

How could OP have done that if she wasn't even told it the space was being cleared out?

Mom sold the house five years ago. OP had five years - and should have potentially retrieved her belongings before mom sold the house.

Five years ago OP's mom put OP's belongings in storage along with her own things. Whatever agreement regarding rent should have been addressed then. Now the mom has cleared out the space without telling OP to get her things, or even "You owe me money for 5 years of storage if you want to get your things back". Instead she says nothing. Just gets rid of the stuff. Come on, that's just crappy behavior.

OP, no, it doesn't work that way.

You're an adult. Other people's homes, even your parents, are not appropriate storage spaces for your belongings. It was up to YOU to figure out what to do with YOUR stuff. YOU should have gotten the ball rolling on coming up with a plan for your things. You had many years by your own admission.

And no, I'm not a parent dealing with this. I never asked my parents to store my stuff, and I had a good relationship with them. When I moved out and way as an adult in my 20s, I moved all my stuff with me. Because I was a grownup.

Then her mother should have said that. "No, I don't want to store your belongings." Pretty simple. Instead she said okay, then trashed them.

Plenty of people enjoy storing their family things at their parents' houses. Some even sleep in their old bedrooms when they come home to visit. Really not that unheard of.

OP, did you ever ask your mom if she was ok storing your things? Did she say she was happy to store your stuff at her house or in storage for 5 years?

Or did you never ask? It was your responsibility to ask, if you cared that much about your things.

Yes. She agreed to store my things until we all had time to go back there and sort through it. That’s why I gave her money.