To those of you with a f*** buddy, how did it come about?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

Why did it go away?

because it required people to sign in and it eventually dried up. Like the soccer forums now, they are all but gone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

"we always use protection." ok, so that was a lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

Why did it go away?

because it required people to sign in and it eventually dried up. Like the soccer forums now, they are all but gone.

looking at some of the posts here.. I wish they got it back. It'll certainly help a few folks.

I am DH looking out for a FWB too near Fairfax .. Hopefully someone is interested

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

Why did it go away?

because it required people to sign in and it eventually dried up. Like the soccer forums now, they are all but gone.

looking at some of the posts here.. I wish they got it back. It'll certainly help a few folks.

I am DH looking out for a FWB too near Fairfax .. Hopefully someone is interested

On of my requirements for a FWB/F buddy is that they are single. I have no desire to be an AP which if you are a DH is what you are looking for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

"we always use protection." ok, so that was a lie.

So, what is your point? Doesn't change anything..... Still never so much as a cold sore. But carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

Why did it go away?

because it required people to sign in and it eventually dried up. Like the soccer forums now, they are all but gone.

looking at some of the posts here.. I wish they got it back. It'll certainly help a few folks.

I am DH looking out for a FWB too near Fairfax .. Hopefully someone is interested

On of my requirements for a FWB/F buddy is that they are single. I have no desire to be an AP which if you are a DH is what you are looking for.

The spouse may know. Not saying this guy’s does, but there are a lot of married couples who agree to ethical non-monogamy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

"we always use protection." ok, so that was a lie.

So, what is your point? Doesn't change anything..... Still never so much as a cold sore. But carry on.

I guess I get annoyed because you're patting yourself on the back for being safe, when actually you're being irresponsible and are just lucky. (My ex gave me an STD while cheating on me and haphazardly using protection like you.)

[Anonymous]

I'm divorced and my FWB must be single. I hate cheaters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

Why did it go away?

I think because of advertising problems. Advertisers don’t want to be on sites with explicitly things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

"we always use protection." ok, so that was a lie.

So, what is your point? Doesn't change anything..... Still never so much as a cold sore. But carry on.

Many infections can be silent for a very long time.

Before I was married, I always asked: When was the last time you were tested, what were you tested for, and what were the results. No one had a problem swapping images of results.

If they’d never been tested or it’d been over half a year, oral sex was out unless they were ok with a condom. If they had negative results and tested within six months I’d give oral without a condom, but finishing had to be by hand. No ejaculation in the mouth does reduce the chances of some infections for the giver.

Condoms always for PIV.

I got tested annually, which meant both a blood test and vaginal swab, and then I’d test in between for those that can be tested by blood only.

This is a good site to have as a resource. https://smartsexresource.com/about-stis/know-your-chances-0

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and my FWB must be single. I hate cheaters.

+19

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

He gave you an STD from oral? Which one? Did you insist on testing or did you conveniently forget that part.

"we always use protection." ok, so that was a lie.

So, what is your point? Doesn't change anything..... Still never so much as a cold sore. But carry on.

I guess I get annoyed because you're patting yourself on the back for being safe, when actually you're being irresponsible and are just lucky. (My ex gave me an STD while cheating on me and haphazardly using protection like you.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

"we always use protection." ok, so that was a lie.

So, what is your point? Doesn't change anything..... Still never so much as a cold sore. But carry on.

I guess I get annoyed because you're patting yourself on the back for being safe, when actually you're being irresponsible and are just lucky. (My ex gave me an STD while cheating on me and haphazardly using protection like you.)

You should be annoyed with your cheating ex who’s too dumb to use a condom, not me. And maybe your poor choices in men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

Why did it go away?

because it required people to sign in and it eventually dried up. Like the soccer forums now, they are all but gone.

looking at some of the posts here.. I wish they got it back. It'll certainly help a few folks.

I am DH looking out for a FWB too near Fairfax .. Hopefully someone is interested

God I hope you aren’t my DH…
Tell us why you are looking for a FWB?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

"we always use protection." ok, so that was a lie.

So, what is your point? Doesn't change anything..... Still never so much as a cold sore. But carry on.

I guess I get annoyed because you're patting yourself on the back for being safe, when actually you're being irresponsible and are just lucky. (My ex gave me an STD while cheating on me and haphazardly using protection like you.)

You should be annoyed with your cheating ex who’s too dumb to use a condom, not me. And maybe your poor choices in men

Um, like I said, he used condoms "most" of the time -- just like you!