To those of you with a f*** buddy, how did it come about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a spin-off of the thread where divorced women say they have no desire to date but maintain a sex partner to satisfy that aspect of their lives. How did you (also asking single, never-married women) begin these relationships? Online dating, existing friend, past romantic partner, etc.?

As a guy, how can I set up one or a couple such relationships?

Be extremely low-maintenance and fun— come up with interesting things to do or places to go at non-date times if day.

Be accommodating of her schedule, realize a FWB is not a boyfriend and she doesn’t have commitments to you.

It should go without saying that you need to stay fit and be an excellent lover for it to be worth it— realize that commitment-free sex is extremely available for women and she gets to be as picky as she wants to be. Make sure you’re not slacking off at the gym, maybe listen to some women-focused sex-positive podcasts. Also make sure you’re a good conversationalist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman. Bumble. We only see each other. Sex and texting/talking on the phone.

NP. The bold seems very trusting. And note that the OP is asking here how to set up "a couple" of these no-strings, sex-only deals, not seeking just one "we only see each other" arrangement. So why believe that your "f*** buddy" is telling the truth about having sex only with you? Asking seriously, PP. How do you know that someone you met online and know in no other context than sex is being monogamous sexually? "Texting/talking on the phone" doesn't constitute enough of a relationship to know the person well enough for that level of trust, at least not to me, and I'm guessing the texting/phoning are at least partly focused on sex and logistics of meeting up for sex.

Since there's no way to hear "tone" in a DCUM post: I'm not judging the arrangement itself, PP, 'm just wondering how you trust that your sex partner is actually limiting sex to you. That seems like a "take him at his word" situation with someone who could have no real incentive to be truthful.

I really don’t see how it’s any different than trusting anybody else. Also it was discussed at length before we started sleeping with each other and we were both tested and we’re both paranoid about diseases, etc. our phone calls are usually about personal things and work and things like that. Text is usually “how was your day” ; “how’s your week or “when do you wanna meet?l

Are you both married to other people?

No! I am divorced. He has never been married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a spin-off of the thread where divorced women say they have no desire to date but maintain a sex partner to satisfy that aspect of their lives. How did you (also asking single, never-married women) begin these relationships? Online dating, existing friend, past romantic partner, etc.?

As a guy, how can I set up one or a couple such relationships?

Be extremely low-maintenance and fun— come up with interesting things to do or places to go at non-date times if day.

Be accommodating of her schedule, realize a FWB is not a boyfriend and she doesn’t have commitments to you.

It should go without saying that you need to stay fit and be an excellent lover for it to be worth it— realize that commitment-free sex is extremely available for women and she gets to be as picky as she wants to be. Make sure you’re not slacking off at the gym, maybe listen to some women-focused sex-positive podcasts. Also make sure you’re a good conversationalist.

Don’t get weird or jealous!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

As a healthcare professional, I’ve seen so many women and men with STDs. Where can you find just regular, normal, attractive fwb?

DP. Re-read your own statement, PP.

If you've "seen so many women and men with STDs," then guess what? Having an STD now IS what "regular, normal, attractive people" are like.

The second half of your post seems to indicate you think that "normal" means no STDs. The first half of your post says you have evidence from your own experience that STDs are common. Or rather, normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend gave my number to her co-worker who is married. Not sure what those two have been talking about at work for her to do so. After texting a bit, I asked him for his single friends and he sent one over to the club I was at.
That was two weeks ago. We hit it off but I think he is more married than I was led to believe.
My friend's co-worker plans to show up at my place also if he can find time. As I understood it, both are just want some excitement outside of marriage, but need to be super discreet.
Ask your friends. They like you and they will send you someone you might like.

Holy crap. Do you charge by the hour?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

I don’t usually use protection for oral, but have sometimes. Yet, no STDs! We discuss testing/history.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a spin-off of the thread where divorced women say they have no desire to date but maintain a sex partner to satisfy that aspect of their lives. How did you (also asking single, never-married women) begin these relationships? Online dating, existing friend, past romantic partner, etc.?

As a guy, how can I set up one or a couple such relationships?

Be extremely low-maintenance and fun— come up with interesting things to do or places to go at non-date times if day.

Be accommodating of her schedule, realize a FWB is not a boyfriend and she doesn’t have commitments to you.

It should go without saying that you need to stay fit and be an excellent lover for it to be worth it— realize that commitment-free sex is extremely available for women and she gets to be as picky as she wants to be. Make sure you’re not slacking off at the gym, maybe listen to some women-focused sex-positive podcasts. Also make sure you’re a good conversationalist.

I mean, it basically boils down to “give her orgasms every time,” right?

[Anonymous]

I’m a guy. We met on bumble and went on a first date. We didn’t have any chemistry but physically, we did. She would hit me up late at night on weekends and I’d come over or she’d come over. We knew what it was and we’re both ok with it. We told each other we’d end it once we find someone we really liked and that’s what happened. Really cool woman and we went out separate ways with zero animosity with us.

[Anonymous]

Bumble or Tinder better for F Buddy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

For all: This has been approved for oral on women.

https://www.thecut.com/2022/05/lorals-underwear-fda-cleared-for-oral-sex.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

For all: This has been approved for oral on women.

https://www.thecut.com/2022/05/lorals-underwear-fda-cleared-for-oral-sex.html

Here is a link to the company itself. https://mylorals.com/

[Anonymous]

I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my much younger fwb through a hobby related group. I genuinely like him as a person but the age/life stage difference means a relationship is completely off the table. Fortunately neither of us are really inclined towards jealousy and we’re able to have a non-exclusive but mutually satisfying fwb relationship

I'm at the point I'd just like a FWB and it doesn't have to be a relationship - so I wouldn't be jealous of his seeing other people.

My only concern is STDs. Full stop. Do you discuss this? Or always use protection?

Poster w/ the FWB and FB—we always use protection. There was one guy I was in more of a situation ship w/ and we stopped because we weren’t sleeping with anyone else during pandemic lockdown

So no oral? Or do you use protection for oral too? Because both of those options sound really unsatisfying.

For all: This has been approved for oral on women.

https://www.thecut.com/2022/05/lorals-underwear-fda-cleared-for-oral-sex.html

Here is a link to the company itself. https://mylorals.com/

This looks amazing. I hope it takes off.
-DW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have met some on this site from the old explicit forum. It was a great place back in the day.

I wish that would come back. I also wonder if they are still on here

Why did it go away?