are 8th graders doing it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of us did circa 1970 and the parents had no clue. They were sure it wasn’t happening. I could never understand how parents could be so stupid. People’s ability to believe what they want to believe never ceases to amaze me. My concern actually runs the other way. DS is 14 and has no interest whatsoever in sex, which I find weird. I was girl crazy at his age. DS can’t understand what I ever found interesting about girls. I’ve broached the subject of whether his interests run in the other direction but no, he just isn’t interested. DW sees nothing weird about it at all. At school reunions when we see our former partners it’s always happy. VERY happy. I’ve never known anyone to regret anything. I know I’m going to get flailed for this but it’s the way it is.

Wait. You’re convinced your son isn’t having sex…the same way your parents were convinced you weren’t. 🤨 maybe your son is doing it??

You’re not getting it. The parents back circa 1970 would have been horrified had they found out about how much sex was going on. I’d be thrilled if DS would show some interest in sex. He attends an all boys school and thinks sex is disgusting. I’ve told him I find this weird in a 14 year old boy.

What kind of parent are you? That's a terrible attitude. Not all boys are sex maniacs. There's nothing wrong with maturing slower or being interested in different things. Support the child you've got.

Besides, I think most people think other people having sex is disgusting. I really don't want to know about my friends, relatives, neighbors, family members having sex. Blech. Totally into it with dh though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What age are you that you can’t spell out the word and say “doing it?”

+1 Go get ready for school, Timmy.

Eh, I think Google algorithms block DCUM when it gets explicit and that affects advertising revenue.

[Anonymous]

Isn’t the incident of teen pregnancy going down?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the incident of teen pregnancy going down?

*incidence

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the incident of teen pregnancy going down?

*incidence

They could be having just as much sex, but using protection.

Or maybe there is far more same-sex intercourse between 8th graders today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of us did circa 1970 and the parents had no clue. They were sure it wasn’t happening. I could never understand how parents could be so stupid. People’s ability to believe what they want to believe never ceases to amaze me. My concern actually runs the other way. DS is 14 and has no interest whatsoever in sex, which I find weird. I was girl crazy at his age. DS can’t understand what I ever found interesting about girls. I’ve broached the subject of whether his interests run in the other direction but no, he just isn’t interested. DW sees nothing weird about it at all. At school reunions when we see our former partners it’s always happy. VERY happy. I’ve never known anyone to regret anything. I know I’m going to get flailed for this but it’s the way it is.

Wait. You’re convinced your son isn’t having sex…the same way your parents were convinced you weren’t. 🤨 maybe your son is doing it??

You’re not getting it. The parents back circa 1970 would have been horrified had they found out about how much sex was going on. I’d be thrilled if DS would show some interest in sex. He attends an all boys school and thinks sex is disgusting. I’ve told him I find this weird in a 14 year old boy.

What kind of parent are you? That's a terrible attitude. Not all boys are sex maniacs. There's nothing wrong with maturing slower or being interested in different things. Support the child you've got.
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Now there’s a thought! Support the child I’ve got! It’s at times like this that I can really see the value of DCUM!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the incident of teen pregnancy going down?

*incidence

They could be having just as much sex, but using protection.

Or maybe there is far more same-sex intercourse between 8th graders today?

We used protection back in 1970. Nothing new about that.

[Anonymous]

Parents worry but sexual activity between teenagers involves a huge spectrum of activities. The intimacy is gradual and is usually age appropriate. In an emotionally healthy teen, they are not going from 0-60, from no activity to intercourse. Instead, exploration is much more gradual, years pass and there is lots of contemplation.

And if you are not in the room -- you do not know, exactly, "what" what was being done. The word "sex" is used by others when they really don't know.

[Anonymous]

How have you not had the talk by now? WTF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents worry but sexual activity between teenagers involves a huge spectrum of activities. The intimacy is gradual and is usually age appropriate. In an emotionally healthy teen, they are not going from 0-60, from no activity to intercourse. Instead, exploration is much more gradual, years pass and there is lots of contemplation.

And if you are not in the room -- you do not know, exactly, "what" what was being done. The word "sex" is used by others when they really don't know.

I dunno. During Bill Clinton’s deposition he said that “having sex” must include sexual intercourse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How have you not had the talk by now? WTF

We never had the talk. He just knew. Just like tying his shoelaces and playing chess. He just knew.

[Anonymous]

And recently before being taught quadratic equations. He just knew.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they start having *** at age ** usually. By ** they are putting their ***** on each other’s ****. Some people even engage in **** *** *****. Kids who don’t **** or worse, even talk about *******, are usually ostracized.

[Anonymous]

My 8th grader now 9th was doing it even during pandemic when seeing few people in person. Got away with hiding it for a while until caught. Now on birth control. Seems like I lot of them are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents worry but sexual activity between teenagers involves a huge spectrum of activities. The intimacy is gradual and is usually age appropriate. In an emotionally healthy teen, they are not going from 0-60, from no activity to intercourse. Instead, exploration is much more gradual, years pass and there is lots of contemplation.

And if you are not in the room -- you do not know, exactly, "what" what was being done. The word "sex" is used by others when they really don't know.

Good point.

This especially applies to girls today, who may fool around with each other a lot during a sleep over or camp or a slumber party.

But they aren’t having sex obviously.