are 8th graders doing it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have started this discussion years ago.

Any yes, 8th graders are having sex. One of my son’s friends has parents who allow him to bring girls into his bedroom with the door shut. When asked about it, this 13 year olds dad shrugged and said was fine with his son having sex in his bedroom whenever he wanted. So, yes, it happening and you cannot trust that other parents have even half a brain.

This, so much this.

[Anonymous]

The county survey has your answer, OP.

I swear, do any of you read your email from the county?? They mention this at least once every year!

https://www.fcps.edu/sites/default/files/media/forms/SSAW-FFX-Youth-Survey-8-10-12.pdf

[Anonymous]

Oops - posted wrong link; here are the results for the county:

https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/data/sites/data/files/assets/documents/youth%20survey/2019%20fairfax%208th-12th%20report.pdf

[Anonymous]

Most of us did circa 1970 and the parents had no clue. They were sure it wasn’t happening. I could never understand how parents could be so stupid. People’s ability to believe what they want to believe never ceases to amaze me. My concern actually runs the other way. DS is 14 and has no interest whatsoever in sex, which I find weird. I was girl crazy at his age. DS can’t understand what I ever found interesting about girls. I’ve broached the subject of whether his interests run in the other direction but no, he just isn’t interested. DW sees nothing weird about it at all. At school reunions when we see our former partners it’s always happy. VERY happy. I’ve never known anyone to regret anything. I know I’m going to get flailed for this but it’s the way it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of us did circa 1970 and the parents had no clue. They were sure it wasn’t happening. I could never understand how parents could be so stupid. People’s ability to believe what they want to believe never ceases to amaze me. My concern actually runs the other way. DS is 14 and has no interest whatsoever in sex, which I find weird. I was girl crazy at his age. DS can’t understand what I ever found interesting about girls. I’ve broached the subject of whether his interests run in the other direction but no, he just isn’t interested. DW sees nothing weird about it at all. At school reunions when we see our former partners it’s always happy. VERY happy. I’ve never known anyone to regret anything. I know I’m going to get flailed for this but it’s the way it is.

I tend to agree with you, as far as tweens and teens having less sex and less sexual interest today vs 70s/80s.

With one exception: girls are definitely experimenting with girls far more. Summer camp, sleep overs, ski trips - it’s a huge thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of us did circa 1970 and the parents had no clue. They were sure it wasn’t happening. I could never understand how parents could be so stupid. People’s ability to believe what they want to believe never ceases to amaze me. My concern actually runs the other way. DS is 14 and has no interest whatsoever in sex, which I find weird. I was girl crazy at his age. DS can’t understand what I ever found interesting about girls. I’ve broached the subject of whether his interests run in the other direction but no, he just isn’t interested. DW sees nothing weird about it at all. At school reunions when we see our former partners it’s always happy. VERY happy. I’ve never known anyone to regret anything. I know I’m going to get flailed for this but it’s the way it is.

I tend to agree with you, as far as tweens and teens having less sex and less sexual interest today vs 70s/80s.

With one exception: girls are definitely experimenting with girls far more. Summer camp, sleep overs, ski trips - it’s a huge thing.

Yes, I’ve heard that about girls, too. But I’m not sure if it’s really a new thing. I don’t have a sister so I didn’t hear about what went on with girls until I went to college in the second half of the 1970s. I befriended a lot of girls there and was very surprised by how many of them had experimented in this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What age are you that you can’t spell out the word and say “doing it?”

+1 Go get ready for school, Timmy.

[Anonymous]

Depends on your child. Have they hit puberty?

If you kid is boy/girl crazy at this age then more chances they get into it.

My son doesn't really chat/text with girls yet. He's into sports and gaming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your child. Have they hit puberty?

If you kid is boy/girl crazy at this age then more chances they get into it.

My son doesn't really chat/text with girls yet. He's into sports and gaming.

Are their 8th graders who haven't hit puberty???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your child. Have they hit puberty?

If you kid is boy/girl crazy at this age then more chances they get into it.

My son doesn't really chat/text with girls yet. He's into sports and gaming.

Are their 8th graders who haven't hit puberty???

Late bloomers, of course!

"Puberty is the time in life when a boy or girl becomes sexually mature. It is a process that usually happens between ages 10 and 14 for girls and ages 12 and 16 for boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your child. Have they hit puberty?

If you kid is boy/girl crazy at this age then more chances they get into it.

My son doesn't really chat/text with girls yet. He's into sports and gaming.

Are their 8th graders who haven't hit puberty???

Late bloomers, of course!

"Puberty is the time in life when a boy or girl becomes sexually mature. It is a process that usually happens between ages 10 and 14 for girls and ages 12 and 16 for boys.

Don't know your source, but these windows are late and don't match up with what I see with my kids peers either:

"According to the National Institutes of Health, puberty usually begins in girls between 8 and 13 years of age, and in boys between 9 and 14 years of age."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your child. Have they hit puberty?

If you kid is boy/girl crazy at this age then more chances they get into it.

My son doesn't really chat/text with girls yet. He's into sports and gaming.

Are their 8th graders who haven't hit puberty???

Late bloomers, of course!

"Puberty is the time in life when a boy or girl becomes sexually mature. It is a process that usually happens between ages 10 and 14 for girls and ages 12 and 16 for boys.

Don't know your source, but these windows are late and don't match up with what I see with my kids peers either:

"According to the National Institutes of Health, puberty usually begins in girls between 8 and 13 years of age, and in boys between 9 and 14 years of age."

Simple google searches: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puberty

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-early-is-too-early-for-children-to-reach-puberty?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_cmpid=16186720951&utm_adgid=131992823934&utm_adid=581730309498&utm_network=g&utm_device=c&utm_keyword=&utm_adpos=&utm_gclid=EAIaIQobChMImqOy1cC09gIVFUmGCh22ygCqEAMYAiAAEgKP3_D_BwE&gclid=EAIaIQobChMImqOy1cC09gIVFUmGCh22ygCqEAMYAiAAEgKP3_D_BwE#precocious-puberty-explained

Maybe those kids need to eat food with less hormones and maybe more organic foods!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your child. Have they hit puberty?

If you kid is boy/girl crazy at this age then more chances they get into it.

My son doesn't really chat/text with girls yet. He's into sports and gaming.

Are their 8th graders who haven't hit puberty???

Late bloomers, of course!

"Puberty is the time in life when a boy or girl becomes sexually mature. It is a process that usually happens between ages 10 and 14 for girls and ages 12 and 16 for boys.

Don't know your source, but these windows are late and don't match up with what I see with my kids peers either:

"According to the National Institutes of Health, puberty usually begins in girls between 8 and 13 years of age, and in boys between 9 and 14 years of age."

Simple google searches: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puberty

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-early-is-too-early-for-children-to-reach-puberty?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_cmpid=16186720951&utm_adgid=131992823934&utm_adid=581730309498&utm_network=g&utm_device=c&utm_keyword=&utm_adpos=&utm_gclid=EAIaIQobChMImqOy1cC09gIVFUmGCh22ygCqEAMYAiAAEgKP3_D_BwE&gclid=EAIaIQobChMImqOy1cC09gIVFUmGCh22ygCqEAMYAiAAEgKP3_D_BwE#precocious-puberty-explained

Maybe those kids need to eat food with less hormones and maybe more organic foods!

So what is the point? The article agrees with the ages given by the second poster.

It says...Recent research suggests that puberty may be happening earlier for both boys and girls. On average, girls will begin puberty around age 11 and boys around age 12. However, it is considered typical for puberty to begin any time between ages 8 and 14.

On average, means...by definition...50 percent of kids will start puberty before age 12.

You can feed them all the organic food you want, but it's happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The county survey has your answer, OP.

I swear, do any of you read your email from the county?? They mention this at least once every year!

https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/data/sites/data/file...airfax%208th-12th%20report.pdf

https://www.fcps.edu/sites/default/files/media/forms/SSAW-FFX-Youth-Survey-8-10-12.pdf

+1

I believe every school has Family Life Education: https://www.fcps.edu/academics/academic-overview/family-life-education-fle

Sexual Activity

 Approximately one in six Fairfax County students (17.4%) reported having had sexual intercourse
in their lifetime, ranging from 5.0% of eighth-grade students to 33.5% of twelfth-grade students.
Male students were more likely to report having had sexual intercourse in their lifetime

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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On average, means...by definition...50 percent of kids will start puberty before age 12.

You can feed them all the organic food you want, but it's happening.

That's not the definition of an average. That's the definition of a median.