are 8th graders doing it?
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Anonymous
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Are 8th graders doing it?
Are they having *** ? Will you have the talk with them or are they still too young? When I was in 8th grade a few of the kids were doing it, but is it less common now? |
Anonymous
| I'm not sure if they are but I have had a good chat with my 7th grade dd recently about consent, boundaries, taking things very slowly if she dates someone etc. I feel that 8th is when dating really takes off. |
Anonymous
| An 8th grader got pregnant at my school 30 years ago. She had no idea. |
Anonymous
| I don't know, but it's not too early to be talking about it. |
Anonymous
| Umm, yes, they do have sex and yes, you should have had this convo by now. |
Anonymous
| Yes, some are. Most aren’t, but definitely some. Our “top notch” public school caught two 8th graders having sex on a class trip. I think most aren’t. But yes you need to field this topic with your middle schooler |
Anonymous
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Yes definitely but research shows that fewer kids are sexually active. But it’s late to have the talk- you need to do it!
-middle school teacher |
Anonymous
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Agreed, some are. Most aren't. Same as in our day.
We started having these conversations in 6th grade because that's when middle school starts in our district. |
Anonymous
| Mine isn’t. |
Anonymous
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You definitely need to have conversations about sex way before 8th grade.
I wasn’t. I hadn’t even kissed a boy in 8th grade. But a friend told me she was performing oral sex in 8th. |
Anonymous
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You should have started this discussion years ago.
Any yes, 8th graders are having sex. One of my son’s friends has parents who allow him to bring girls into his bedroom with the door shut. When asked about it, this 13 year olds dad shrugged and said was fine with his son having sex in his bedroom whenever he wanted. So, yes, it happening and you cannot trust that other parents have even half a brain. |
Anonymous
OP, perhaps you should have had this conversation earlier, but it isn't too late! Some are acting as if you've missed your chance and can't talk about it now. 
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Anonymous
| What age are you that you can’t spell out the word and say “doing it?” |
Anonymous
| Most are not. |
Anonymous
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Some definitely are as there is revenge porn involving grade 8 youth. DD has shown me social media of sexually active grade 8 youth. It is disturbing as I believe they are too young to process the complex emotions involved.
My DC is not and we talk about related issues often. |