DS forwarded his friend’s obnoxious email to principal and…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is not your son "standing up for himself." This is your son being a bully and trying to get his friend in trouble. What would possibly possess him to involve the principal over an (admittedly crude, but plainly joking) comment made outside of school? At least, I'm assuming it was outside of school.

I doubt it will be ignored, but I expect both boys will be pulled in for a talk. The friend about his language and your son about learning how to properly handle situations like this.

I also expect word will get around and your son will face some natural social consequences for this, so you should prepare to help him through that. And definitely talk to him about why he chose this (frankly bizarre) path in response to the comment.

People like you are the problem, not OP's son. OP's son absolutely did the right thing. Let me repeat: OP's son did the right thing in forwarding the email to the Principal. The other boy needs to be reprimanded and counseled about appropriate behavior and interactions on social media. The other boy will face a consequence. OP's son will be told that he did the right thing.

-A School Principal

LOL! You are SO not a principal! Or, if you are, you're not a very good one. You are so woefully ignorant of teen culture and responses that actually work. While this requires a reminder on appropriate interactions (social media or otherwise), it's not something that warrants a reprimand or singling out. It's also likely OP's DS will also face social repercussions when this gets out. OP's DS has violated norms far more so than the other boy. OP's DS did this in a fit of annoyance, not because he felt bullied. He felt punitive. Big difference.

1) The message was sent through a school email account. That makes it my business.
2) The student forwarded it to me. That makes it my business.

You are free to disagree but you are wrong if you think that this would not be my business. The other boy (not OP's son) would be counseled and serve a consequence. OP's son would be thanked for bringing it to our attention. Bullying, threats, and cursing are not allowed at our school, including social media.

- The Same School Principal

You would be doing a kid like OP’s a far better service if you gave him better tools to use than tattling to the principal about typical kid trash talk and being a sore loser.

+1 I really hope that poster isn't a principal.

[Anonymous]

No one loves a tattle tail. Or a bully.

[Anonymous]

OP, your kid is a snitch who will lose friends over this for sure. Nobody wants to be around someone who sells them out like that. Word will get around among your child's peers about what happened (this won't stay secret) and NOBODY will want to text your kid for fear of that text landing in the principal's messages.

Teach your kid to talk to other "colleagues" one-on-one instead of running to the manager. Nobody will like him in the workplace someday, either, if he does this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not your son "standing up for himself." This is your son being a bully and trying to get his friend in trouble. What would possibly possess him to involve the principal over an (admittedly crude, but plainly joking) comment made outside of school? At least, I'm assuming it was outside of school.

I doubt it will be ignored, but I expect both boys will be pulled in for a talk. The friend about his language and your son about learning how to properly handle situations like this.

I also expect word will get around and your son will face some natural social consequences for this, so you should prepare to help him through that. And definitely talk to him about why he chose this (frankly bizarre) path in response to the comment.

+1 definitely NOT standing up for himself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:This is not your son "standing up for himself." This is your son being a bully and trying to get his friend in trouble. What would possibly possess him to involve the principal over an (admittedly crude, but plainly joking) comment made outside of school? At least, I'm assuming it was outside of school.

I doubt it will be ignored, but I expect both boys will be pulled in for a talk. The friend about his language and your son about learning how to properly handle situations like this.

I also expect word will get around and your son will face some natural social consequences for this, so you should prepare to help him through that. And definitely talk to him about why he chose this (frankly bizarre) path in response to the comment.

People like you are the problem, not OP's son. OP's son absolutely did the right thing. Let me repeat: OP's son did the right thing in forwarding the email to the Principal. The other boy needs to be reprimanded and counseled about appropriate behavior and interactions on social media. The other boy will face a consequence. OP's son will be told that he did the right thing.

-A School Principal

LOL! You are SO not a principal! Or, if you are, you're not a very good one. You are so woefully ignorant of teen culture and responses that actually work. While this requires a reminder on appropriate interactions (social media or otherwise), it's not something that warrants a reprimand or singling out. It's also likely OP's DS will also face social repercussions when this gets out. OP's DS has violated norms far more so than the other boy. OP's DS did this in a fit of annoyance, not because he felt bullied. He felt punitive. Big difference.

1) The message was sent through a school email account. That makes it my business.
2) The student forwarded it to me. That makes it my business.

You are free to disagree but you are wrong if you think that this would not be my business. The other boy (not OP's son) would be counseled and serve a consequence. OP's son would be thanked for bringing it to our attention. Bullying, threats, and cursing are not allowed at our school, including social media.

- The Same School Principal

You would be doing a kid like OP’s a far better service if you gave him better tools to use than tattling to the principal about typical kid trash talk and being a sore loser.

+1 I really hope that poster isn't a principal.

And if he/she is actually a principal, I hope my kids never end up in that school. The principal sounds absolutely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Holy cow. It is hard to believe that some of you posting here are parents. I cannot believe you would tolerate the type of behavior from the other child like you are. I think OP's son did the right thing and I would be super proud of him for standing up for himself. The verbiage in the email is completely inappropriate and not acceptable at any school I know of. I really hope that you guys are all trolls because you scare me that you have such weak value systems and that you're teaching your children that this other boy's behavior is okay. Wow.

[Anonymous]

nobody like a tattletale!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy cow. It is hard to believe that some of you posting here are parents. I cannot believe you would tolerate the type of behavior from the other child like you are. I think OP's son did the right thing and I would be super proud of him for standing up for himself. The verbiage in the email is completely inappropriate and not acceptable at any school I know of. I really hope that you guys are all trolls because you scare me that you have such weak value systems and that you're teaching your children that this other boy's behavior is okay. Wow.

Nobody said it’s ok but there were better ways to handle it than forwarding yo the principal. Now OP’s son is going to have problems with other kids for snitching.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is not your son "standing up for himself." This is your son being a bully and trying to get his friend in trouble. What would possibly possess him to involve the principal over an (admittedly crude, but plainly joking) comment made outside of school? At least, I'm assuming it was outside of school.

I doubt it will be ignored, but I expect both boys will be pulled in for a talk. The friend about his language and your son about learning how to properly handle situations like this.

I also expect word will get around and your son will face some natural social consequences for this, so you should prepare to help him through that. And definitely talk to him about why he chose this (frankly bizarre) path in response to the comment.

People like you are the problem, not OP's son. OP's son absolutely did the right thing. Let me repeat: OP's son did the right thing in forwarding the email to the Principal. The other boy needs to be reprimanded and counseled about appropriate behavior and interactions on social media. The other boy will face a consequence. OP's son will be told that he did the right thing.

-A School Principal

You can't possibly be a principal. I have relatives who are teachers and one who is a principal and they would roll their eyes at this.

[Anonymous]

Oh man OP. That's total jacka$$ move by your kid. Where did he learn to do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: I just spoke to the principal and luckily they haven’t done anything and we agreed we would just handle it at home!
The principal seemed relieved! And so am i, for sure!
Thank you everyone and special thanks to the elementary school teacher PP! Thank you!!!

I think you did the absolute right thing, OP, and you lucked out that the principal seems like a normal person. So many crazy people on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one loves a tattle tail. Or a bully.

X100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also I am not worried about him losing a friend, right now I am just mad at him!

It's not "a" friend, OP - it'a ahole lot of them. Once word gets around that your son involved the principal because of a completely benign but of smack talk, kids are going to run from him.

And frankly, you mentioning that the other kids has ADHD is completely irrelevant. 11 yo kids, especially boys, talk like that. Has nothing to do with ADHD, and you trying to pin it on that is a little absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“OP's son absolutely did the right thing. Let me repeat: OP's son did the right thing in forwarding the email to the Principal. The other boy needs to be reprimanded and counseled about appropriate behavior and interactions on social media. The other boy will face a consequence. OP's son will be told that he did the right thing. “

You are absolutely nuts Principal poster. Sure if there is repeated harassment or if trying to address it directly results in no change in behavior then yes. But sounds like this was two dumb kids who are friends playing and one got over the top with foul language as part of that. This is a “wash your mouth out with soap” problem not a “principal needs to fix this” problem. Glad OP was able to intervene and cut it off.

Foul language? You can't be serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not your son "standing up for himself." This is your son being a bully and trying to get his friend in trouble. What would possibly possess him to involve the principal over an (admittedly crude, but plainly joking) comment made outside of school? At least, I'm assuming it was outside of school.

I doubt it will be ignored, but I expect both boys will be pulled in for a talk. The friend about his language and your son about learning how to properly handle situations like this.

I also expect word will get around and your son will face some natural social consequences for this, so you should prepare to help him through that. And definitely talk to him about why he chose this (frankly bizarre) path in response to the comment.

People like you are the problem, not OP's son. OP's son absolutely did the right thing. Let me repeat: OP's son did the right thing in forwarding the email to the Principal. The other boy needs to be reprimanded and counseled about appropriate behavior and interactions on social media. The other boy will face a consequence. OP's son will be told that he did the right thing.

-A School Principal

LOL! You are SO not a principal! Or, if you are, you're not a very good one. You are so woefully ignorant of teen culture and responses that actually work. While this requires a reminder on appropriate interactions (social media or otherwise), it's not something that warrants a reprimand or singling out. It's also likely OP's DS will also face social repercussions when this gets out. OP's DS has violated norms far more so than the other boy. OP's DS did this in a fit of annoyance, not because he felt bullied. He felt punitive. Big difference.

1) The message was sent through a school email account. That makes it my business.
2) The student forwarded it to me. That makes it my business.

You are free to disagree but you are wrong if you think that this would not be my business. The other boy (not OP's son) would be counseled and serve a consequence. OP's son would be thanked for bringing it to our attention. Bullying, threats, and cursing are not allowed at our school, including social media.

- The Same School Principal

Bully, threats, cursing? This was gaming-related trash talk among two teen boys who are friends. Are you an elementary school principal or something?

I don't know any principal who would use the phrase "serve a consequence" in connection with professional duties. This is some mother of a 6 yo.