Skinny moms

[Anonymous]

No, but I’m human and female and have been conditioned to compare myself to other women. I try not do it, but often slip and occasionally feel insecure if someone seems more elegant or comfortable in her body….mostly I feel this way when PMS-ing.

I’m an athletic, 5’8”, size 8. Not “big” as some people here think is true about this size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I’m 5’5 and 115 pounds. Any thinner and I would look awful. I need to gain 10 pounds. I would be much healthier at 125.

I used to be 115 and now I am 125-130 at middle age, trust me you want to hold on to that 115

[Anonymous]

Nope. I don't care. If I cared, I'd starve myself to be like them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. I’m 5’5 and 115 pounds. Any thinner and I would look awful. I need to gain 10 pounds. I would be much healthier at 125.

I used to be 115 and now I am 125-130 at middle age, trust me you want to hold on to that 115

I am at 125-130 in middle age and I’m perfectly happy with it. I’m not skinny, not like those lovely lithely ladies, but am an athletic size 4 with no desire to get any smaller. I’ve got a generous butt and thighs.

So no, although I certainly compare myself to others, I don’t feel bad about it. Life is way too short to not like yourself.

[Anonymous]

Im 5’10” size 8 tall - I’m not that skinny I’m normal size but compared to 95% of the people my age I look like a super model. I am fit, I can go for a walk jog hike bike clean the house cook the meals play with the kids in the playground and hold a job and I don’t need knee or back surgery or anxiety drugs to have a conversation with a stranger

I’m a total outlier

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever get jealous of how other moms look? Like a skinnier mom?

Yes but everyone has problems. You just might not see them from the outside.

[Anonymous]

OP, a lot of it has to do with how women looked before pregnancy. I'm a skinny mom but I was skinny before and just went back to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, a lot of it has to do with how women looked before pregnancy. I'm a skinny mom but I was skinny before and just went back to that.

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The focus on losing weight after baby is driven entirely by the media and the weight-loss industry, with some of the more misogynist and fat-phobic corners of the medical community thrown in.

I think what happens to a lot of women is that they were doing a lot of dieting and weight-loss focused exercise before pregnancy, and then not only do they gain weight in pregnancy (along with a host of hormonal and other physical changes that are going to impact your ability to exercise as you used to, at least for a while) but they have a baby. It's really hard to very diligently focus on weight loss with a newborn unless you are wealthy and can outsource everything. Certainly your average mom with maybe a month or two of maternity leave, imperfect childcare, a full time job, and limited help at home, is going to have a lot of trouble sticking to a weight loss plan. That's why weight loss after pregnancy is always super tinged with classism to me. Most women just can't afford to make it a priority.

But I think it's worth it to assess if the thing you are looking to attain is even worthwhile. Say, through diligence and the gift of never having been pregnant, you were a size 4 or 6 before having kids. And now you're an 8 or a 10. So? I don't really get what the big deal is. I care about getting exercise and eating well because these are things that are good for my body and mind, and because I want to set a good example for my kids. But if just being fairly healthy and exercising regularly doesn't get you down to your pre-pregnancy size, who cares? It's possible that size was never really the right place for you anyway, if it can't be maintained through pregnancy, which is very common thing that a body will go through.

Maybe the skinny moms were size 0s pre pregnancy and now they are size 2s. Their bodies have changed too, you just don't really see it because their body is not your body. Maybe every body is okay.

[Anonymous]

Ha I’m the size 2 poster and I’m 5’2.

I think this thread is a perfect reason why we need a cultural shift toward the idea that all bodies are okay. There is no right or wrong *size* to be. Apparently some people here think I’m too big, some people here think I’m perfect, some think if I was six inches taller I would look terrible, some would think that’s what height you need for a size 2 to be acceptable.

Everybody seems to have an opinion on body size and it’s a bit ridiculous. And if you aren’t careful or are gifted with natural self confidence, it leads to low self esteem. It can also lead to eating disorders, a bad sex life, dangerous medical procedures, overspending on weight loss products, etc.

I am glad I am mostly to the point where I don’t worry about my body size. I work out every day and I eat what makes my body feel good, and I don’t judge others for their bodies. Right now I don’t have low self esteem or look wistfully at somebody else’s body and try to go hungry to look like that. And I remember that the people I most admire aren’t necessarily skinny or toned. They are loving and kind. That’s all that matters.

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Anonymous wrote:"Hey DCUM, does this thing that happens to so many people that it is a central issue in our culture and there are multiple billion dollar industries established to exploit happen to YOU?"

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I'm going to say no because I work hard on loving my body and accepting all bodies as beautiful. And I'm a size 2 so it's a bit wild that I have to do this at all.

Size 2 is the perfect size (not trolling)

Perfect size for who? Someone who’s 5’1?

Perfect size for all heights. Do you think the taller you are, the greater your size should be?

Are you being serious? Can you not understand that someone who is 5’0” and size 2 looks very different than someone who is 5’10” and size 2? One is much thinner.

I am 5-11 and a size 4-6 and people think I am very skinny. To be a size 2 at my height, you really need to be extremely thin.

I have been up to a size 10 when I was a lot younger and always still looked decent. It carries a lot different on a tall body. Those are just facts.

+1 I am 6 feet tall and I can assure you that I would look too thin at size 2. I would look bony and scrawny. At my thinnest I was probably a size 4 and I the ribs above my chest were visible. This was the end of college when I was an athlete and working out all the time. I had 14% body fat at the time.

My happy place is a size 6 (Lululemon, for reference, since it varies by brand). At that size I look thin and toned, but healthy. I am closer to 8 right now and I’d love to lose a few lbs. The fluff is hiding the muscles that I’ve worked hard for. I know I have abs under there. When I had to get a colonoscopy and did the prep I lost several lbs quickly (obviously not something I would do on a regular basis!) and I had a visible 6 pack the morning of the procedure. I am just too lazy to do the type of clean eating it would require to look that way all the time.

Size 2 at my height might look good on camera or the runway but I assure you it would look weird in real life.

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Anonymous wrote:"Hey DCUM, does this thing that happens to so many people that it is a central issue in our culture and there are multiple billion dollar industries established to exploit happen to YOU?"

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I'm going to say no because I work hard on loving my body and accepting all bodies as beautiful. And I'm a size 2 so it's a bit wild that I have to do this at all.

Size 2 is the perfect size (not trolling)

Perfect size for who? Someone who’s 5’1?

Perfect size for all heights. Do you think the taller you are, the greater your size should be?

Are you being serious? Can you not understand that someone who is 5’0” and size 2 looks very different than someone who is 5’10” and size 2? One is much thinner.

I am 5-11 and a size 4-6 and people think I am very skinny. To be a size 2 at my height, you really need to be extremely thin.

I have been up to a size 10 when I was a lot younger and always still looked decent. It carries a lot different on a tall body. Those are just facts.

+1 I am 6 feet tall and I can assure you that I would look too thin at size 2. I would look bony and scrawny. At my thinnest I was probably a size 4 and I the ribs above my chest were visible. This was the end of college when I was an athlete and working out all the time. I had 14% body fat at the time.

My happy place is a size 6 (Lululemon, for reference, since it varies by brand). At that size I look thin and toned, but healthy. I am closer to 8 right now and I’d love to lose a few lbs. The fluff is hiding the muscles that I’ve worked hard for. I know I have abs under there. When I had to get a colonoscopy and did the prep I lost several lbs quickly (obviously not something I would do on a regular basis!) and I had a visible 6 pack the morning of the procedure. I am just too lazy to do the type of clean eating it would require to look that way all the time.

Size 2 at my height might look good on camera or the runway but I assure you it would look weird in real life.

Nasty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever get jealous of how other moms look? Like a skinnier mom?

are we talking "skinny" or fit and slim. There's a difference. I wouldn't want to be in the skinny category because to me skinny means weak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Skinny moms have flat pancake asses. So gross

Not sure why you connect that with skinny. Only women who simply don't that curve at any weight have fat pancake asses. That's how they are built.

Same with boobs. There are a lot of overweight women who don't have bubble butts or a nicely defined bust, and many others that do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im 5’10” size 8 tall - I’m not that skinny I’m normal size but compared to 95% of the people my age I look like a super model. I am fit, I can go for a walk jog hike bike clean the house cook the meals play with the kids in the playground and hold a job and I don’t need knee or back surgery or anxiety drugs to have a conversation with a stranger

I’m a total outlier

No you’re not…

[Anonymous]

All bodies are not ok. Diabetes is rampant in overweight women, along with painful knees, painful backs, rec. Cut the crap with fat being ok. Your kids will emulate you and grow up fat and unhealthy.

Be Healthy -- exercise daily and eat sensibly. No bags of Doritos, etc.