Skinny moms

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I’m jealous of the many women - moms in their 40s - in my social circle who essentially eat and drink what they want on the regular and maintain their low weight. Sizes 2 and 4s. Meanwhile I eat no more than 1500 calories (which I log) and regularly exercise and my BMI is high. I think people see women like me as dumpy failures. No matter what I achieve or who I am inside, people will ALWAYS see me as a fat person first.

Are you sure they are really eating and drinking whatever they want all the time? I am a size 2/4 and a casual observer might think I could eat whatever I wanted because I definitely indulge if I’m at brunch or dinner or whatever but the rest of the time I pay attention and generally eat super healthy - lots of veggies, not a lot of sugar or processed carbs but I don’t make a big thing of talking about watching my diet.

PP above hit it exactly. All the skinny skinny moms I know never take a day off from exercising, dont have sweets in their house, and eat grilled chicken or salmon with salads every day. They eat/indulge out because they want people to think that is how they are and that they dont work for it. Look at every celebrity---- Im born this way! I love cheeseburgers! I hate exercising!

I’m like the PP above you. I generally eat healthfully day in and day out and exercise daily. When I’m out to a restaurant or party, I eat whatever I want because I know I have a healthy baseline and eating a donut or cheeseburger is ok. I don’t pretend that I eat this way all the time or that I don’t exercise. I am not putting up a front. That you think thin people are all disordered or lying reflects on your own dysfunctional relationship with food. Normal people don’t think about weight/calories all the time.

All of this. I’m a PP not “skinny” but healthy weight and active and watch what I eat, but when I’m out (which frankly isn’t often), I indulge in good food and drink because 80% of the time I’m eating my normal diet. 20% of the time I eat more or different things.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. The obesity epidemic is real and normalizing and sensationalizing the obese as some sexy aspirational role model (like Lizzie, Ashley graham and others) is grotesque. There is no spin than can change the truth that obesity is an illness with many comorbidities and you don’t have to shame fat people to say a fit healthy body at a healthy weight should be the ideal, not living in a state of obesity.

Ok so stop telling people with a normal BMI that they are fat bc they aren't a size 2?

+1. People on this thread have said anything bigger than a size 2 at any height is fat or “heavy” and doesn’t look good. Did we travel back in time to the 2000s? I thought we were beyond this.

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Pigs these women over size 2

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Pics or it didn't happen for the 90% of DCUM that proclaims to be size 2

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Anonymous wrote:No they look old and frail sooner

Not true. Weight training and cardio help you stay fit and look stronger. Definitely not frail. Wearing sunscreen helps with aging.

Not to mention the benefits of weight training on osteoporosis.

This thread is eye opening, not in a good way. Either there are some trolls or some of you have bizarre ideas about thin/skinny/fit/healthy and what it means to individuals and society.

This. Threads like this really shouldn't be tolerated. These trolls are what cause teenage girls to become anorexic. There's a special place in hell for these trolls.

Most of you using the word anorexic so casually almost always use it for the kind of weight that you don't like for whatever reason. 5'5, 115 lbs woman wouldn't be accepted to any clinic as being anorexic because she's simply not, unless she thinks she's overweight being that weight.

Lots of people on this thread are trying to convince other women that anything above a size 2 is heavy and overweight. This is a thread filled with toxic people that can contribute to anorexia.

well now if you don't go down in sizes you will keep getting bigger,

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Anonymous wrote:No. I’m 5’5 and 115 pounds. Any thinner and I would look awful. I need to gain 10 pounds. I would be much healthier at 125.

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I'm super athletic and muscular, 5'4" and normally 115 lbs. I got down to 110 and my husband asked me to gain some weight, he said I looked emaciated. We were on vacation, which is very active for us, so I didn't realize I lost the weight. And I'm 45 and have 2 skinny athletic kids... I'm not stylish in the least so nothing to be jealous of except maybe genetics, which I'm not in control of anyway.

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Not sure why you connect that with skinny. Only women who simply don't that curve at any weight have fat pancake asses. That's how they are built.

Same with boobs. There are a lot of overweight women who don't have bubble butts or a nicely defined bust, and many others that do.

Yes, can confirm that I was a flat person at size 12, I am a flat person at size 2, and I was a flat person at every size in between. Even though it is apparently "gross" to not have a nice ass or boobs, this is how I'm built.

I grew up with a skinny mom who passive-aggressively fat-shamed me for weighing 120 pounds in high school and definitely contributed to the ED I had in college. The skinny moms who are skinny because of lifelong borderline eating disorders really need to look out for their daughters.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:No they look old and frail sooner

Not true. Weight training and cardio help you stay fit and look stronger. Definitely not frail. Wearing sunscreen helps with aging.

Not to mention the benefits of weight training on osteoporosis.

This thread is eye opening, not in a good way. Either there are some trolls or some of you have bizarre ideas about thin/skinny/fit/healthy and what it means to individuals and society.

This. Threads like this really shouldn't be tolerated. These trolls are what cause teenage girls to become anorexic. There's a special place in hell for these trolls.

Most of you using the word anorexic so casually almost always use it for the kind of weight that you don't like for whatever reason. 5'5, 115 lbs woman wouldn't be accepted to any clinic as being anorexic because she's simply not, unless she thinks she's overweight being that weight.

Lots of people on this thread are trying to convince other women that anything above a size 2 is heavy and overweight. This is a thread filled with toxic people that can contribute to anorexia.

You do realize that morbid obesity is the epidemic in this country, not anorexia?!?!?! Praising folks for being healthy should be encouraged! I focus on my health and it results in my muscular size 2 frame.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I really don’t care. I was a size 2 when I got married later in life and after 2 closely spaced kids (the youngest is 6 weeks old) I am a size 10. I’m 5’6”. I am an older mom so I care about getting back in shape so I can have the energy to keep up with my kiddos. I assume I’ll lose some weight when I prioritize exercise (which I really enjoy, by the way!). But I believe you can dress for the body you have and feel good about yourself, and you can also change your body without feeling bad about yourself. Measuring your worth by the scale or a dress size is an impoverished way to live.

Yep, this was me. Once I started exercising again the baby weight fell off quickly. Now size 2 again. It's not hard, you just have to go back to the level of exercise you were at before.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. The obesity epidemic is real and normalizing and sensationalizing the obese as some sexy aspirational role model (like Lizzie, Ashley graham and others) is grotesque. There is no spin than can change the truth that obesity is an illness with many comorbidities and you don’t have to shame fat people to say a fit healthy body at a healthy weight should be the ideal, not living in a state of obesity.

Ok so stop telling people with a normal BMI that they are fat bc they aren't a size 2?

+1. People on this thread have said anything bigger than a size 2 at any height is fat or “heavy” and doesn’t look good. Did we travel back in time to the 2000s? I thought we were beyond this.

So what? There will always be fringe thinkers. Why do you get so worked up about what a few people think? The majority of people actually are overweight. If that’s you then you have a lot of company at your size. Its no different thank thinking a size 2 is gross and too skinny. There will never be agreement ok what the ideal size is.

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Anyway in an imaginary world where women's hormones and metabolism was as consistent as ours we'd all be aiming for something between Spears and Kardashian

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I wouldn't! I'd want long legs and delicate features.

Really...you'd pass on a C cup and a nice butt if you knew they would never become saddle bags?

Well to each his own

Since you're asking, I really wouldn't. I wouldn't change anything about my body. A natural full B my whole life, I am now a fine 32D.

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Anonymous wrote:All bodies are not ok. Diabetes is rampant in overweight women, along with painful knees, painful backs, rec. Cut the crap with fat being ok. Your kids will emulate you and grow up fat and unhealthy.

Be Healthy -- exercise daily and eat sensibly. No bags of Doritos, etc.

Before we normal lean people get too full if ourselves it is eye opening to know that normal weight people are afflicted with type 2 diabetes, hbp, liver issues etc. Granted risk is much higher when one is overweight. But normal weight people have a out half the rate of chronic metabolical disease as overweight people. If it were all about weight none of us lean people would have issues. It's not all about weight. Check out Dr. Robert Lustig on YouTube.

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Anonymous wrote:"Hey DCUM, does this thing that happens to so many people that it is a central issue in our culture and there are multiple billion dollar industries established to exploit happen to YOU?"

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I'm going to say no because I work hard on loving my body and accepting all bodies as beautiful. And I'm a size 2 so it's a bit wild that I have to do this at all.

Size 2 is the perfect size (not trolling)

Perfect size for who? Someone who’s 5’1?

Perfect size for all heights. Do you think the taller you are, the greater your size should be?

Taller people can wear larger sizes -even up to 10! and appear to be thin. 5'7 size 6, but even at size 8, get told to eat a cheeseburger.

In whose eyes? Lol! Show me a celebrity that looks good tall and size 10. If you’re over size 6 you’re on the heavier side

If you believe that size 8 is heavy, you're out of your mind!

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Body dysmorphia.

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Anonymous wrote:No they look old and frail sooner

Not true. Weight training and cardio help you stay fit and look stronger. Definitely not frail. Wearing sunscreen helps with aging.

Not to mention the benefits of weight training on osteoporosis.

This thread is eye opening, not in a good way. Either there are some trolls or some of you have bizarre ideas about thin/skinny/fit/healthy and what it means to individuals and society.

This. Threads like this really shouldn't be tolerated. These trolls are what cause teenage girls to become anorexic. There's a special place in hell for these trolls.

Most of you using the word anorexic so casually almost always use it for the kind of weight that you don't like for whatever reason. 5'5, 115 lbs woman wouldn't be accepted to any clinic as being anorexic because she's simply not, unless she thinks she's overweight being that weight.

Lots of people on this thread are trying to convince other women that anything above a size 2 is heavy and overweight. This is a thread filled with toxic people that can contribute to anorexia.

You do realize that morbid obesity is the epidemic in this country, not anorexia?!?!?! Praising folks for being healthy should be encouraged! I focus on my health and it results in my muscular size 2 frame.

Praising folks for being healthy is the polar opposite of this thread

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No they look old and frail sooner

Not true. Weight training and cardio help you stay fit and look stronger. Definitely not frail. Wearing sunscreen helps with aging.

Not to mention the benefits of weight training on osteoporosis.

This thread is eye opening, not in a good way. Either there are some trolls or some of you have bizarre ideas about thin/skinny/fit/healthy and what it means to individuals and society.

This. Threads like this really shouldn't be tolerated. These trolls are what cause teenage girls to become anorexic. There's a special place in hell for these trolls.

Most of you using the word anorexic so casually almost always use it for the kind of weight that you don't like for whatever reason. 5'5, 115 lbs woman wouldn't be accepted to any clinic as being anorexic because she's simply not, unless she thinks she's overweight being that weight.

Lots of people on this thread are trying to convince other women that anything above a size 2 is heavy and overweight. This is a thread filled with toxic people that can contribute to anorexia.

You do realize that morbid obesity is the epidemic in this country, not anorexia?!?!?! Praising folks for being healthy should be encouraged! I focus on my health and it results in my muscular size 2 frame.

Praising folks for being healthy is the polar opposite of this thread

What size is unhealthy? Who is praising an unhealthy size? Are you assuming 2 is unhealthy?