I could use some help on how to raise this with my grown-up daughter

[Anonymous]

My father absolutely notices if I buy myself nicer things than usual! These days it's thanks to Poshmark

OP, surely you can talk to your daughter about this. I'm sure there's a perfectly reasonable explanation.

[Anonymous]

OP again. I called to see if we could get together next weekend so I could maybe get some more info indirectly. She said she's going to be in Florida, in Palm Beach. I asked her who she was going with and she said "a new friend."

[Anonymous]

OP gather up all your posts from today and ship them off to Penthouse Forum. That’s the right venue for someone who’s “about 60” and making up stories about his daughter being a sugar baby. Loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this is a troll.

This has to be. No way a straight man is noticing the quality of her handbags and clothes.

Troll fail.

Not a troll. My wife liked nice things so I know how much these bags cost. And it is not just these things. She's also gone on a couple really nice vacations in the past year and the only pictures she's put up on Facebook show her dressed up or on the beach but not with anyone else.

So next time she comes over, maybe just ask her if she's getting good deals after your compliment her on her bag or shoes or whatever. Or tie it into a convo about how she has great style like her Mom.

Or ask her how work is going, and if she's doing ok financially. Just don't mention that you're worried she's a sugar whatever. Make it more about how you might want to help her again if you want. Or just let it go. Lots of people have different ways of spending. You really can't control it, and it really doesn't sound like there is a lot of reason to worry.

Any time a 20s age woman posts solo travel photos it’s because she’s getting paid for a rich man to do degrading things to her.

[Anonymous]

I am a mid-40s woman. I am literallly APPALLED at this post. APPALLED. She is a grown woman. You do nothing. You say nothing. This is NONE of your business.

She could have a part time job, she could be using Poshmark to get things for cheap, she could have a boyfriend you don't know about--and that too, is none of your business.

Butt out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this is a troll.

This has to be. No way a straight man is noticing the quality of her handbags and clothes.

Troll fail.

Not a troll. My wife liked nice things so I know how much these bags cost. And it is not just these things. She's also gone on a couple really nice vacations in the past year and the only pictures she's put up on Facebook show her dressed up or on the beach but not with anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this is a troll.

This has to be. No way a straight man is noticing the quality of her handbags and clothes.

Troll fail.

Not a troll. My wife liked nice things so I know how much these bags cost. And it is not just these things. She's also gone on a couple really nice vacations in the past year and the only pictures she's put up on Facebook show her dressed up or on the beach but not with anyone else.

There's no reason a parent couldn't ask an adult child, "Hey who are you going to Aruba with?" OR, "Nice bag. Where did you get it?"

[Anonymous]

I am a mid-40s woman. I am literallly APPALLED at this post. APPALLED. She is a grown woman. You do nothing. You say nothing. This is NONE of your business.

She could have a part time job, she could be using Poshmark to get things for cheap, she could have a boyfriend you don't know about--and that too, is none of your business.

Butt out!

Agree with this because by this time, at this age, you are too late.
Either you taught her to have enough self-worth and self-respect not to be a hooker or you didn't.
She may also have been brainwashed by the social media / female empowerment complex (see TV show "The Girlfriend Experience" or google "Washingtonienne" circa 2006) to mistakenly believe that because she is making money and can be choosy about whom she "dates" that she has some sort of control and sense of agency.

Hope she is using Poshmark, Tradesy, Ebay, RenttheRunway or any number of the brick & mortar consignment boutiques. You can get lots of great deals. The photos sans friends are concerning though, as is her reticence in telling you about whom she is travelling with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP again. I called to see if we could get together next weekend so I could maybe get some more info indirectly. She said she's going to be in Florida, in Palm Beach. I asked her who she was going with and she said "a new friend."

OP here, I did not post this! Someone is trying to hijack this thread. Sorry, I’ve been away for a bit and not checking. I am still thinking this is credit card or student loans or Poshmark. I hope to find out more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are looking for a delicate way to ask your daughter is she is a prostitute? It doesn't exist.

If you look at OP’s original post, there’s likely no way that was written by a 60 something year old man. The post even says that OP is “about 60.” Who describes their age as “about X”?

People are sometimes vague because they don't want to be identified.

This is the SIL vegan poster then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP again. I called to see if we could get together next weekend so I could maybe get some more info indirectly. She said she's going to be in Florida, in Palm Beach. I asked her who she was going with and she said "a new friend."

OP here, I did not post this! Someone is trying to hijack this thread. Sorry, I’ve been away for a bit and not checking. I am still thinking this is credit card or student loans or Poshmark. I hope to find out more.

You just outed yourself. No 60ish man knows about poshmark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP again. I called to see if we could get together next weekend so I could maybe get some more info indirectly. She said she's going to be in Florida, in Palm Beach. I asked her who she was going with and she said "a new friend."

OP here, I did not post this! Someone is trying to hijack this thread. Sorry, I’ve been away for a bit and not checking. I am still thinking this is credit card or student loans or Poshmark. I hope to find out more.

You just outed yourself. No 60ish man knows about poshmark.

Have you read any if this thread? Poshmark was mentioned repeatedly.

[Anonymous]

OP, and what if she actually is a sugar baby? You can’t tell her to stop. She is a grown ass woman so you’re better off not knowing. Also, you would ruin your relationship if you show any sort of disapproval or judgement so just let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this is a troll.

This has to be. No way a straight man is noticing the quality of her handbags and clothes.

Troll fail.

Not a troll. My wife liked nice things so I know how much these bags cost. And it is not just these things. She's also gone on a couple really nice vacations in the past year and the only pictures she's put up on Facebook show her dressed up or on the beach but not with anyone else.

So next time she comes over, maybe just ask her if she's getting good deals after your compliment her on her bag or shoes or whatever. Or tie it into a convo about how she has great style like her Mom.

Or ask her how work is going, and if she's doing ok financially. Just don't mention that you're worried she's a sugar whatever. Make it more about how you might want to help her again if you want. Or just let it go. Lots of people have different ways of spending. You really can't control it, and it really doesn't sound like there is a lot of reason to worry.

Any time a 20s age woman posts solo travel photos it’s because she’s getting paid for a rich man to do degrading things to her.

You clearly don't know a lot of women in their 20s. A lot of young women (and men) post solo pics if they're in a new relationship. It's kind of a big deal to post a new boyfriend and a lot of young people tend to wait until the relationship is serious before posting them.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP,

Your daughter is basically a high end prostitute. There is no other possible explanation. 😂