I could use some help on how to raise this with my grown-up daughter

[Anonymous]

My 24 yr old DD has a (very nice) clothes subscription. So she’s always in very nice, stylish clothes & jackets and coats. She must be a sample size because everything fits every time. She doesn’t have over-stuffed apartment closets either. She just puts the worn clothes back in the bag with pre-paid shipping label.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hope this is a troll.

This has to be. No way a straight man is noticing the quality of her handbags and clothes.

Troll fail.

Not a troll. My wife liked nice things so I know how much these bags cost. And it is not just these things. She's also gone on a couple really nice vacations in the past year and the only pictures she's put up on Facebook show her dressed up or on the beach but not with anyone else.

Did you talk to her about her vacations at the time? What she did while she was there, who she traveled with, did she have fun, etc.? It is odd that the only information you seem to have about her vacations is from Facebook.

[Anonymous]

This is fake as hell. Especially because the theory is “sugar baby” and not massive credit card debt.

[Anonymous]

She could also have a boyfriend she hasn't told you about, right? Or a job she hasn't told you about? It doesn't sound like you talk that frequently

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She could also have a boyfriend she hasn't told you about, right? Or a job she hasn't told you about? It doesn't sound like you talk that frequently

OP here, she's in grad school and works in a lab at the school to make money. But I can't believe that really pays all that well. She does do some teaching on the side or at least has in the past.

On the trips, yes I did ask about them after the fact and she was pretty vague. They were all to nice warm places with beaches like the Bahamas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She could also have a boyfriend she hasn't told you about, right? Or a job she hasn't told you about? It doesn't sound like you talk that frequently

OP here, she's in grad school and works in a lab at the school to make money. But I can't believe that really pays all that well. She does do some teaching on the side or at least has in the past.

On the trips, yes I did ask about them after the fact and she was pretty vague. They were all to nice warm places with beaches like the Bahamas.

Also, I don't think she has a boyfriend. I do ask her about that regularly, and we always knew in the past when she started dating someone seriously.

It is true this could be credit card debt. Maybe I'm overreacting based on my friend's comment. He's now single and has been in some relationships like that, and says this is very common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She could also have a boyfriend she hasn't told you about, right? Or a job she hasn't told you about? It doesn't sound like you talk that frequently

OP here, she's in grad school and works in a lab at the school to make money. But I can't believe that really pays all that well. She does do some teaching on the side or at least has in the past.

On the trips, yes I did ask about them after the fact and she was pretty vague. They were all to nice warm places with beaches like the Bahamas.

Also, I don't think she has a boyfriend. I do ask her about that regularly, and we always knew in the past when she started dating someone seriously.

It is true this could be credit card debt. Maybe I'm overreacting based on my friend's comment. He's now single and has been in some relationships like that, and says this is very common.

OP, did you also recently fly out to a football game with your young female work colleague and patronize 20-something y.o. hot tutors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She could also have a boyfriend she hasn't told you about, right? Or a job she hasn't told you about? It doesn't sound like you talk that frequently

OP here, she's in grad school and works in a lab at the school to make money. But I can't believe that really pays all that well. She does do some teaching on the side or at least has in the past.

On the trips, yes I did ask about them after the fact and she was pretty vague. They were all to nice warm places with beaches like the Bahamas.

Also, I don't think she has a boyfriend. I do ask her about that regularly, and we always knew in the past when she started dating someone seriously.

It is true this could be credit card debt. Maybe I'm overreacting based on my friend's comment. He's now single and has been in some relationships like that, and says this is very common.

OP, did you also recently fly out to a football game with your young female work colleague and patronize 20-something y.o. hot tutors?

"teaching on the side"? Is she a language tutor?

[Anonymous]

I think we should call this OP the Rabble Rouser. OP is trying to rile up people to worry that their daughters are sugar babies if they happen to have nice things, and that their spouses are cheating if they have interactions with younger people. People like OP get a rise out of playing on other’s insecurities. Nice hobby OP. Maybe a future in Cosmo short story fan fiction for you?

[Anonymous]

You are looking for a delicate way to ask your daughter is she is a prostitute? It doesn't exist.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe your mind went to sugar daddy instead of just "got approved for a credit card and is running up credit card debt."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She could also have a boyfriend she hasn't told you about, right? Or a job she hasn't told you about? It doesn't sound like you talk that frequently

OP here, she's in grad school and works in a lab at the school to make money. But I can't believe that really pays all that well. She does do some teaching on the side or at least has in the past.

On the trips, yes I did ask about them after the fact and she was pretty vague. They were all to nice warm places with beaches like the Bahamas.

Also, I don't think she has a boyfriend. I do ask her about that regularly, and we always knew in the past when she started dating someone seriously.

It is true this could be credit card debt. Maybe I'm overreacting based on my friend's comment. He's now single and has been in some relationships like that, and says this is very common.

OP, did you also recently fly out to a football game with your young female work colleague and patronize 20-something y.o. hot tutors?

"teaching on the side"? Is she a language tutor?

Lol. Tell me you spend a lot of time on DCUM without telling me. (And me, too, obviously!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe your mind went to sugar daddy instead of just "got approved for a credit card and is running up credit card debt."

I would not have thought of this but my friend mentioned it. I agree the credit card is far more likely. Thanks everyone for the reality check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are looking for a delicate way to ask your daughter is she is a prostitute? It doesn't exist.

If you look at OP’s original post, there’s likely no way that was written by a 60 something year old man. The post even says that OP is “about 60.” Who describes their age as “about X”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She could also have a boyfriend she hasn't told you about, right? Or a job she hasn't told you about? It doesn't sound like you talk that frequently

OP here, she's in grad school and works in a lab at the school to make money. But I can't believe that really pays all that well. She does do some teaching on the side or at least has in the past.

On the trips, yes I did ask about them after the fact and she was pretty vague. They were all to nice warm places with beaches like the Bahamas.

Also, I don't think she has a boyfriend. I do ask her about that regularly, and we always knew in the past when she started dating someone seriously.

It is true this could be credit card debt. Maybe I'm overreacting based on my friend's comment. He's now single and has been in some relationships like that, and says this is very common.

The credit card debt would be worse for her, not that any of it is your business…